*Drama Lama* look here!!!!!

[krcit]

Really. He blocked OP and others that were previously his Friends. In case you're not familiar with FB, if he didn't make OP a Friend, she couldn't see anything about his profile anyway. So why block her? That's just hurtful.

Immature.

Yes but if one of their mutual friends comments on something of his, she can see it.If they post pics that he is in, she can see them. I'll be honest with you, I'm friends with my siblings on FB and sometimes wish I weren't, lol. I would not take it so personally, OP. I certainly would not let it destroy my relationship with my brother.

 

[marlynnp]

Really. He blocked OP and others that were previously his Friends. In case you're not familiar with FB, if he didn't make OP a Friend, she couldn't see anything about his profile anyway. So why block her? That's just hurtful.

Immature.

I am familiar with facebook and I'm sure the brother is quite familiar with his 'nosy parker' sister. If one of his friends has open settings the OP would be able to see the brother's posts throught that friend whether the brother friends her or not. The only way to cut those links is to block her.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I am familiar with facebook and I'm sure the brother is quite familiar with his 'nosy parker' sister. If one of his friends has open settings the OP would be able to see the brother's posts throught that friend whether the brother friends her or not. The only way to cut those links is to block her.

unless he's a crack dealer...immature

 

[Katy Belle]

unless he's a crack dealer...immature

I disagree.

There are always two sides to every story and the OPs DB certainly would tell the story differently than her. I see no problem in wanting to keep Facebook away from a sister. It is his account. He can choose to do what he wants, he's an adult.

Many years ago I read this about answering your telephone, "the phone is for YOUR convenience, not the convenience of others. If its a bad time for you to talk, perhaps you are having dinner, helping one of your children, etc. then DON'T feel obligated to answer the phone. The person calling can leave a message and you can return the call at a convenient time."

I don't know why exactly, but this FaceBook stuff reminds me of that. Just because he HAS one doesn't mean he has to be friends with anyone who thinks he should be. Most of us have 'ignored' people on Facebook and feel we have good reason to do so. He has the same right, even if its his sister.

Lucky for the OP they have a good relationship that hasn't included FAceBook and it seems like it should continue in the same manner.

 

[mumom95]

My sister in law has asked me to be her friend, but I won't do it. It has nothing to do with her. But sometimes I gripe about my MIL in some comments and I don't want her to read it and then be stuck in the middle so to speak.

Luckily we don't have any friends in common (and I doubt we will) so I don't have that issue.

But OP, just realize it may not have anything to do with you. He may just want facebook to be a place that is family free for him.

 

[Keli]

I think it would hurt my feelings if my brother did this to me. Maybe I'm too sensitive, I don't know and I don't think I will have to know because all my siblings that are on FB are lilnked to me.
One of my nephews told me that he had to clean up his FB when I sent him a friend request before he could accept my request, LOL. I told him I was sorry, I'd never thought about it and he said no worries, he knew it would be coming when the 'older folks' started getting on FB! LOL.
Even though this nephew is a sophmore in college I guess I never thought about the privacy factor at all. I know I wouldn't have been hurt if he had rejected my request though if he mentioned privacy as the reason. Although I never gave it a thought before sending the request it makes sense to me why my nephew wouldn't want to be friends with his aunt. Possibly he's got something to lose, I might tell mom or dad things I see on his pages! (I'm sure I wouldn't though)

Edited to add: My brother is a different story though, he knows we're way too old to go 'telling' on each other to mom and dad and unless he gave me a reason that made sense it would hurt my feelings because I'd feel like he was pushing me away.

 

[minkydog]

I'd say he doesn't want his sister in his business. I would be a bit hurt, but I really doubt it means something bad is going on.

Exactly the reason that don't do Facebook. I don't want all my siblings to know everything. I keep a LiveJournal and even there I severely limit those who have access to it. I have 4 siblings and a mom on the internet--only 2 of my sisters are allowed into the 'inner sanctum.' It's not because I love them more, but because i feel safer expressing myself with them. I don't deny the others because i have something to hide. More like, I need to feel safe. I come from a pretty toxic family. Being safe trumps bloodlines every day.

 

[Serena]

Ok there is something there he doesn't want you to see. What are you going to do next?

You can bug him until he disconnects from you totally, or you can let it go.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Well, since my niece talked me into getting Facebook and then my sister-in-law was the second one on my Friend list and my half-brother and sister-in-law are very conservative, I knew from the beginning to be careful. Since then, I've become friends with one ex, two high school friends, my other niece, my half-sister, two of my cousins, and two of my aunts. Obviously, I don't say EVERYTHING on Facebook. I even try to be careful about mentioning alcohol at all.

 

[dreamkeeper]

To clear a few things up:

I was never deleted from his facebook page. I requested him to accept me as his friend. Not only did he not accept me as his friend but he BLOCKED me and deleted all of his friends that are also friends with me.

I would have been OK with him just ignoring my friends request. It might have gotten off with me a bit but I would not be as hurt and angry as I am right now. It was totally unnecessary for him to block me.

In response to Serena, I believe I'm washing my hands of the situation and him. I see his true feelings for me now and I would rather have nothing to do with him from here on out.

I guess that is all I really have to say about it. I am glad so many people responded, thanks bunches.

 

[Serena]

To clear a few things up:

I was never deleted from his facebook page. I requested him to accept me as his friend. Not only did he not accept me as his friend but he BLOCKED me and deleted all of his friends that are also friends with me.

I would have been OK with him just ignoring my friends request. It might have gotten off with me a bit but I would not be as hurt and angry as I am right now. It was totally unnecessary for him to block me.

In response to Serena, I believe I'm washing my hands of the situation and him. I see his true feelings for me now and I would rather have nothing to do with him from here on out.

I guess that is all I really have to say about it. I am glad so many people responded, thanks bunches.

Did I read wrong or didn't you say you had a good relationship otherwise, or am I mistaken? I wouldn't end a relationship over this, at least not without a fight. If this bothers you so much, then you really need to talk to him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens. At least then you'll know.

 

[marlynnp]

Did I read wrong or didn't you say you had a good relationship otherwise, or am I mistaken? I wouldn't end a relationship over this, at least not without a fight. If this bothers you so much, then you really need to talk to him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens. At least then you'll know.

Looks like the OP was just looking for an excuse to break off relations with her brother. Sure sounds like those who thought the OP was controlling weren't too far off the mark.
She's already called him about it. It doesn't appear that he's going to change his mind and he's certainly under no obligation too. It's flippin facebook!!! Not Christmas dinner.

 

[Serena]

I had forgotten she had called him. I assumed, which is never a good idea anyway, that they would have a heart to heart and at least agree to disagree on this point and move forward. I guess not.

 

[Mom2Nick]

To clear a few things up:

I was never deleted from his facebook page. I requested him to accept me as his friend. Not only did he not accept me as his friend but he BLOCKED me and deleted all of his friends that are also friends with me.

I would have been OK with him just ignoring my friends request. It might have gotten off with me a bit but I would not be as hurt and angry as I am right now. It was totally unnecessary for him to block me.

In response to Serena, I believe I'm washing my hands of the situation and him. I see his true feelings for me now and I would rather have nothing to do with him from here on out.

I guess that is all I really have to say about it. I am glad so many people responded, thanks bunches.

You are his sister not his mother or his wife - you have no rights to full disclosure when it comes to his life. If he wants privacy he's entitled to that. If you cannot handle him not wanting you to know every little aspect of his life then you need to get a grip. If you are so overboard because of this that you are going to end your relationship over this then it sounds like your brother made a wise decision to keep his online life away from you.

 

[Nancyg56]

unless he's a crack dealer...immature

I disagree. I see that my MIL is on FB and while I have nothing there I am embarrassed or ashamed about I would not friend her. Nothing to do with her, I just don't want to think about who she is friends with and who will have access to anything of mine that she comments about. It really is my choice.

People, even family members, have areas of their lives that they want to keep separate from others, why is that an issue?

To clear a few things up:

I was never deleted from his facebook page. I requested him to accept me as his friend. Not only did he not accept me as his friend but he BLOCKED me and deleted all of his friends that are also friends with me.

I would have been OK with him just ignoring my friends request. It might have gotten off with me a bit but I would not be as hurt and angry as I am right now. It was totally unnecessary for him to block me.

In response to Serena, I believe I'm washing my hands of the situation and him. I see his true feelings for me now and I would rather have nothing to do with him from here on out.

Seriously? You said you have a good relationship with your brother and now you are ready to sever that relationship over a social networking website? My niece "unfriended" me, her wall was pretty for her Mom and me too actually. I think that my sister must have said something about what was on it. Both of us....gone. My sister also said something to her son, who is serving in Iraq, about something he said and that she was offended by. He edited it but he has not spoken to her since. Better for her if she had just ignored it but she is not wired that way.

Either way, their decisions regarding their "friends" are their own, no one else has the right to have access to that part of their life that they deem private. I do not undersatnd why people feel entitled access to every part of anyone elses life.

 

[Rebelmom67]

I don't think the OP feels "entitled" to her brother's life but is upset that he blocked her and deleted friends that were friends with her. Are you people reading something I'm not?

 

[powellrj]

To clear a few things up:

I was never deleted from his facebook page. I requested him to accept me as his friend. Not only did he not accept me as his friend but he BLOCKED me and deleted all of his friends that are also friends with me.

I would have been OK with him just ignoring my friends request. It might have gotten off with me a bit but I would not be as hurt and angry as I am right now. It was totally unnecessary for him to block me.

In response to Serena, I believe I'm washing my hands of the situation and him. I see his true feelings for me now and I would rather have nothing to do with him from here on out.

I guess that is all I really have to say about it. I am glad so many people responded, thanks bunches.

All I can say is WOW, I can't believe you would end a good sibling relationship over FACEBOOK. Its FACEBOOK, for goodness sakes. My own kids won't friend me and I understand and respect that.

As for blocking you, you have no idea why. He could have a friend in a relationship he doesn't want you to know about, have an addiction problem or a health problem. You really have no idea what his motivation is unless you call and talk to him.

 

[Katy Belle]

I don't think the OP feels "entitled" to her brother's life but is upset that he blocked her and deleted friends that were friends with her. Are you people reading something I'm not?

Perhaps. I just don't see it as a huge deal. I really don't. I could see having the intial feeling that your feelings are hurt.. but then getting over it in a few minutes. Really. I swear it would not be a deal breaker if my brother did this to me.

I really hope the OP rethinks this and forgives her brother. They had a good relationship without Facebook and I hope it continues.

 

[krcit]

I can't believe that you would cut your own brother out of your life because he blocked you on facebook. I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm really, really amazed at that. It's so sad to me. I'm not friends with my own dd on facebook-I'm not 'hiding' anything nor am I a crackdealer, it is just my own private thing between a lot of old friends from high school. My dd does not need to see everything that my friends or I write or old pics from hs. I would advise you to think this through OP, life is very short and can full of real tragedy, if something were to happen to your brother tomorrow how would you feel? I understand that you are hurt but imo to let it ruin your entire relationship is just plain silly.

 

[Allison]

Stop trying to make this something important - it's not - and concentrate on making your relationship with him IN REAL LIFE full and interesting.

I agree.