*Drama Lama* look here!!!!!

[dreamkeeper]

LOL.

Yes, I'm an oldtimer, but don't want to divulge my name and have my dirty laundry attached to me...lol

Anyway, here is the situation:


I have a very good realtionship with my brother, well, I thought I did. We both have facebooks. I requested him to be my friend. Not only did he ignore the request, but he blocked me and deleted all his friends that are friends with me!!!!

I called him, he told me I didn't need to know his business. I told him that I damn well knew when he went to the bunny ranch in Vegas, and NOW he is going to get shy?!!

He is friends with all his high school and college buddies, except the ones he deleted that are friends with me. I'm thinking this is going to cause a huge rift with us. I am so upset, how dare he "friend" people that barely know him but reject me. I think we are done.

Any thoughts ....or anything? LOL

 

[N&B'smom]

Sounds like he's got something to hide.

 

[MsLeFever]

Wierd! What is he hiding???

 

[karibritt01]

Its not worth losing family over, whatever it is. It sounds like your brother has issues that he doesn't want the family to know about. Whatever it is, I hope he, and the 2 of you, can work through it and move on.

On the other side of it... my DH and I are not FB friends. We neither one have anything to hide... its just that we have separate friends, and want some space apart from each other.

 

[horseshowmom]

Sounds like he's got something to hide.

I'd say that he definitely has something there that he doesn't want you to see (whether it's pictures or something on his wall). It does seem a little bit strange to me (you can't help but wonder what he's into that he wants to hide ), but I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

 

[Buckalew11]

My oldest nephew will not "friend" me. He's in college and doesn't want any of the adults in the family to see his FB. He and I are close but I am sure he is afraid I'd tell my sister something. He is the only one who isn't my "friend" in my family. I expected the rejection and got it, lol. But I'm OK with it. I'll just cut out his b-day gifts. hahaha j/k

Is anything worth closing the door on family? I'm not sure. I have one door that is about 1/2 way shut and I'm not sure I'd regret it closing. There is a lot of take in that relationship and I'm not the taker...so I'm wondering---maybe there is a time to shut the door.

 

[dreamkeeper]

I am just so sad over this. Yeah, I think he has something to hide. Why the heck would he delete all his friends that were friends with me?! We were so close when we were younger.....he is near 40 now and I'm close behind.

Crap, I know about the bunny ranch, how much worse can it get?! He lets all his high school buddies see and I'm.....crap. It just really upsets me.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I don't really have any advice but {{{{dreamkeeper}}}}

How old is he? He sounds really immature.

 

[JessicaR]

I don't really have any advice but {{{{dreamkeeper}}}}

How old is he? He sounds really immature.

dreamkeeper says "he is near 40 now"

OP - sounds like he wants some privacy from something he may not wanna share with his sister. Thats not right hes a sibling, they have no rights!

 

[Tinijocaro]

I'd say he doesn't want his sister in his business. I would be a bit hurt, but I really doubt it means something bad is going on.

 

[powellrj]

My own kids won't even friend me, well the older ones anyway.

Because he deleted his other friends I wonder if there is something about one of his friends he doesn't want you to know about and is doing everything he can to hide whatever it is.

I won't distroy a 40 year relationship over it, its not worth it. He has his reason and it may not even be about you.

 

[Nancyg56]

Because he deleted his other friends I wonder if there is something about one of his friends he doesn't want you to know about and is doing everything he can to hide whatever it is.

I won't distroy a 40 year relationship over it, its not worth it. He has his reason and it may not even be about you.

I would not get too upset, he may just want to talk about things that he does not want family to know about. I don't know much about FB, I am on it but don't know how all of the comments work. Perhaps your brother is worried that if one of your mutual friends comments on his wall you will see it and he wants one aspect of his life to be his own.

I think that as family, we respect privacy between us in our homes but then get hurt when we are left out of social networks like Facebook. I would let it go, it is not worth fracturing a relationship.

 

[DVCLiz]

It sounds to me like you are describing two teenagers, not two grown adults. You need to remember that an internet profile is not someone's real life. Who knows what he has said or who he is friends with? And why should he feel pressured to share that with you if he doesn't want to? I love to be on the DIS but I keep it a secret from everyone in my real life - and all I'm doing is chatting about going to Disney World.

Stop trying to make this something important - it's not - and concentrate on making your relationship with him IN REAL LIFE full and interesting.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

What lead up to the blocking? Before he deleted you what were you guys discussing?

I am guessing there is more to the story and it is not as simple as you have laid it out here.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Maybe he just wants to be able to chit chat freely with his friends without his family knowing his business. I wouldn't have a problem with that. Just because you are family doesn't mean that you have to be part of every single aspect of someone's life. I would not be upset at all. I would probably be a little miffed but then I would laugh and tease him about it. Don't ruin your relationship over it.

 

[marlynnp]

I don't really have any advice but {{{{dreamkeeper}}}}

How old is he? He sounds really immature.

Really???
The OP is the one that sounds immature. I know lots of people who do not 'friend' family.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

LOL.

Yes, I'm an oldtimer, but don't want to divulge my name and have my dirty laundry attached to me...lol

Anyway, here is the situation:


I have a very good realtionship with my brother, well, I thought I did. We both have facebooks. I requested him to be my friend. Not only did he ignore the request, but he blocked me and deleted all his friends that are friends with me!!!!

I called him, he told me I didn't need to know his business. I told him that I damn well knew when he went to the bunny ranch in Vegas, and NOW he is going to get shy?!!

He is friends with all his high school and college buddies, except the ones he deleted that are friends with me. I'm thinking this is going to cause a huge rift with us. I am so upset, how dare he "friend" people that barely know him but reject me. I think we are done.

Any thoughts ....or anything? LOL

Just as you changed your screen name to maintain your privacy, I would bet that your brother has areas in his life he also would like to maintain private from people who might know him.

Since you brought up the bunny ranch several times on a public internet board, perhaps he doesn't want to take the chance that more of his private life is published by his sister.

I wouldn't take it personally. You can still be close without having to know every little detail about his life. That would be controlling, not close.

Smile, laugh about it and go on being close siblings.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Just as you changed your screen name to maintain your privacy, I would bet that your brother has areas in his life he also would like to maintain private from people who might know him.

Since you brought up the bunny ranch several times on a public internet board, perhaps he doesn't want to take the chance that more of his private life is published by his sister.
I wouldn't take it personally. You can still be close without having to know every little detail about his life. That would be controlling, not close.

Smile, laugh about it and go on being close siblings.

Yeah, I would think that kind of tells you why perhaps he doesn't want you to know all about his business.

 

[Katy Belle]

You state in the beginning, "I have a very good relationship with my brother."

Don't ruin it over this. This is not a big deal. Yes, he wants to hide something from you. Fine. You are adults, you don't need to know all of his business and he doesn't need to know yours.

I can see your feelings being hurt initially, but move on. Its not a big deal, its Facebook. Sometimes we reveal things to people we barely know, like on the DisBoards! That is how he's using his Facebook, not to keep in touch with his sister.

Katy

 

[DisneyBlonde]

Really???
The OP is the one that sounds immature. I know lots of people who do not 'friend' family.

Really. He blocked OP and others that were previously his Friends. In case you're not familiar with FB, if he didn't make OP a Friend, she couldn't see anything about his profile anyway. So why block her? That's just hurtful.

Immature.