PRESSING THE ISSUE is the correct way to request to WAIVE the resort fee. It all depends upon the associate at the desk, but you MUST be INSISTENT! The WDW Dolphin/Swan, or any other resort, can not FORCE you to pay for ammenities you do not WANT/USE. Tell them "Firmly", you will not use any of the ammenities associated with this charge. Thank the associate for the offer, but FIRMLY and defiantly DECLINE. I have read of SO many different instances with this Fee. Folks asking to waive, yet still being charged (w/o receiving any perks!)...only to have to take care of this at check-out. I have also read of the opposite, where the fee was waived, and the perks received!
*Please, check the TV menu option and view your statement daily while staying at the Swan/Dolphin. If you see/recognize ANY errors, call the front desk immediately. It will be taken care of promptly. This is the BEST way to avoid any "surprises" or problems with your stay/check-out.
Jenn* Please call the Dolphin directly, and ask to speak with someone in accounting. Tell them you were informed the fee "could" be waived when you made the reservation, yet received conflicting information upon check-in. Please request a full credit for the daily resort fee, based upon this information. You should incur no problem with this request. This happened to my DS, and she received a refund for more than $100.00. Even though she received the ammenities, she DIDN'T want/desire them, and REQUESTED to waive them upon check-in. Her story was identical to yours, and I urged her to call accounting. Sorry for your trouble with this matter.