Does your DH/DW make you jump thru hoops to go to WDW?

[frannn]

DH and I have gone to WDW at least once a year since 1999 (some trips with kids, most without). I usually have to beg, convince, plead, jump thru hoops to get DH to agree that I should start booking the resort, plane, etc. We have to pick vacation times in Jan in advance for entire year for DH's job, so we always know dates in advance. We have a house, and all the bills that go along with it, so there are things we can find to use the $ for instead of WDW. But, we don't claim any deductions during the year from our payroll, so we usually have a hefty refund to pay for any repairs, bills, + the trip (and a bit for savings). DH likes to feel like he has a lot of control over decisions we make (just in his nature), so I won't go forward with anything until we discuss and agree. At this time, he will still not commit to the trip we may take in Sept. That is about 5 months away. Because he takes a long time to commit, we usually either pay exhorbitant airfare, or he ends up telling me I pushed him into the decision of going. How can you be in control if you are indecisive and tend to procrastinate???? We know we have the $ and the time, he now says he wants to see the tax return and exact refund first, before he can think about making a decision. I already gave him an estimate as I do the taxes myself. Now my DD11 may join us, so I will need to budget extra for a pass, bigger car, etc, and I would have to take her out of school for a week and 2 days. To me, this requires additional planning. I am getting very frustrated with DH. He would be ok with spending all vacation time home (he gets 5 weeks, I have 1-2)- I work from home full time and raise 3 kids (one is 18 months), so I need to get away from here. Thanks for letting me vent. Anybody else deal with this?

 

[Lewski709]

Nope, vacation planning is always mine. I am the one concerned about the $$ though too, not him so he knows if it's ok by me, it's ok by him. He knows I am great with the money so if I say lets go and plan it, he's fine.

 

[peg2001]

I do all our family vacation planning and the only decision that DH has to make is whether he is going to go or not.

Peggy

 

[robsmom]

Is the issue that he wants to go to Disney but can't committ or is the issue that he might like to go somewhere else. i realize this is sacreligous on these boards - but maybe he would move faster if you gave him some options on destination?

 

[CamColt]

Nope! DH is a closet Disney Freak! One trip he even booked on his own. Out of curiousity I had him call to get prices for a certain week and before I knew it he was whipping out the credit card booking it.

 

[Blondie]

I'm the vacation planner, and both of us share a passion for Disney!

 

[snoopy]

My DH only wants to go once every other year, but has no problem if we want to go without him. Which is what we may be doing this summer. He has a tendency to change his mind at the last minute, and of course he is always welcome should that happen.

 

[candykisses]

Not at all. In fact he was the one that suggested that we extend our trips to 15 days. He also makes the reservations and the PSs.

The only thing that would be nicer is if he would get (2) rooms at a moderate instead of (2) at the All Stars. Maybe some day.

 

[mudnuri]

Are you sure he even wants to go?

DH knows not too much about our trip...however our vacations are funded through my paycheck, not anything that has to do with bill paying etc...(thats what his check is for!)..

DH is the one who said "can't we go for 2 full weeks instead of 1" so he's pretty much game for anything.

I did tell him last night where we were staying on our trip down, and back, and that sort of thing.

We did decide together to go to the beach instead of the 2nd week in Orlando, but that was really his idea...I agreed as the kids have a great time at St. Augustine, and it's more relaxing of a way to spend the 2nd week instead of running around orlando and sea world.

If I was in your situation, I'd book the trip, planning on going solo, and should he join you great.

Brandy

 

[shortbun]

I don't have those kind of problems. DH is always laid back and
totally agreeable. That's one of the reasons I married him.
Drinking and being bossy were two deal breakers in my
boyfriends; that way I was safe from marrying a drunk or my
dad.

 

[Microcell]

All my DH and I have to do is look at each other and off we go, if we can afford it or not. I kind of wish one of us had more restraint!

 

[Freyja]

We (well mostly I) had been discussing going to WDW for about 7 years before we finally went. It is extremely expensive for us, since we have to fly in from Europe and have 3 kids. It actually ended up costing us $10.000. I knew he wanted to go, but just never wuite got around to making the decision, so in the end I did.

I told him we were going and that he could choose the time (he has more planning to do concerning work etc. than I do). I was actually using the same tactic on him as I do with my kids: Giving options concerning a non-negotiable issue.

He chose a month, I did all the planning (both travel plans and financial plans), we went, had a terrific time, can´t wait to go back....

 

[r3ngels]

I can't believe that no one has to beg their spouses... well, Frann I do!!! It's not that he doesn't like WDW- he even worked there on the college program. He just is a little more practical and thinks that we don't need to go to WDW every year and he thinks of what we could buy instead of the trip something "that will last longer than a week like a hot tub"- his exact words

I can't give you any advice... sorry... but I too have 3 kids that I am home with all day and I am always planning our next trip, hoping I will wear him down enough until he gives in or I find a good enough room rate that he can't say no to.

Good Luck!!!

 

[kaseyC]

My DH is just not a big planner in terms of vacations. I do all of the planning, money moving and anything else that goes with our vacation. We like to laugh about the fact that I basically tell him when he needs to take off of work, what the climate is like so he will know what to wear and where we are going. The only vacation he ever planned was our Honeymoon Cruise 11 years ago.
He has enjoyed every vacation we take. He has also never asked how much any one of our vacations cost. I handle all of our financials and he knows I will work within our budget.
Recently we made the decsion to buy into DVC and he left most of the planning and determining the number of pts we would need up to me. His only request was that he wanted our Home Resort to be in the Epcot/MGM area so I am now trying to purchase a resale at BWV.

 

[Lorix2]

Frannn- We must be married to the same guy

My husband doesn't get excited or talk about WDW at all. If I didn't plan a vacation, we'd never take one. Of course, once the plans are made, deposited, money being put away, etc....he'll ask more questions about the trip and gets the kids excited too.

When I mention going down to WDW, I'm giddy and reminiscent, etc..but what he's remembering is the kids having meltdowns/fights in the truck, traffic driving down, long lines, whiny kids, etc.

But of course on the way down and once we're there, he'll praise me to the kids about what a great job I did in getting us there and my choice of accommodations.

THe men always gripe and resist, but I think secretly, they like when we take charge

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

I do - well to some extent anyway.

We're going in October this year and it took a lot to get him to agree. My Grandma lives in Kissimmee - I haven't seen her in nearly nine years, she's never met the kids and with the third munchkin arriving this summer it seemed like a good time to go. DH agreed that it was time to get down there, but he wasn't willing to commit to a time or date Then we got an offer for the Disney Visa with the 7/4 deal and he was starting to come around. I FINALLY got him to agree to everything when I was hospitalized and they decided to do a MRI (Big pregnant girl, little enclosed space, clausterphobia - yeah that's a good combo!) I refused to go - we're talking half in tears, terror sinking in - DH says he'll take us to WDW if I go in and stay in. Well I did, and now he's taking us, but he's decided that I'm

I've handled all the planning, I found our tickets, I spent forever on the phone with WDTC and we're ALL going to have fun dang it!

He's also pouting because we were at Disneyland Paris last October and he thinks Disney trips more than once a decade is just too much and this will be our fourth in four years.

GL with your DH!

 

[WDWLVR]

DH is as big a Disney fan as I am. I'm the vacation planner, but we always talk over the big pciture first and then I work out the details. The booking etc. is usually done by me, but he has just as much say as to what we do as I do.

We usually have 2-3 vacations in the planning stages at one time and when something comes up to derail one for something else we talk about it before making any changes.

I'm very blessed with a wonderful DH!

 

[Disney Doll]

I wouldn't beg or ask my spouse permission to do anything. Bigger ticket items we do discuss, but he knows better than to give me grief when it comes to WDW. I am not a fan of vacationing without my spouse, but if he gave me grief, you can bet I'd pbe planning a WDW vacation with or without him.

He's my spouse, not my father. I don't need to get permission.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Anybody in the family is always welcome, and all are always invited to join me.

 

[helenabear]

Not really... if I can afford it I go... I guess if he ever went with me, it'd probably be more of a big deal