Does no one else celebrate with wedding anniversary getaways?

[marcyinPA]

We've been married for 16 years, and have gone on one big anniversary trip, to San Francisco. That was in 2007. We've also gone to the beach for a weekend alone once. Other than those trips, we have never been able to really afford to go away alone AND take a family vacation. Having to choose, we've always chosen a family vacation.

We do always go out for dinner though, and we ship our kids to my mom's house overnight. So, we do get alone time, just the two of us, but it's at home. It's actually fun...we watch movies, eat breakfast in bed, etc.

ETA: I forgot that we went to WDW for our first anniversary! My SIL and BIL gave us their DVC points to use!!

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

Or that ones who don't have worse marriages?

Sometimes the point of a thread is not was is asked but what is to be implied.

But really that can be said about most life decisions. If someone says they are happy they breastfed, someone else becomes offended because they assume offense.

We take time on our own. The next thread might be moms who think that you only have your children for so long, and it is a waste not to spend that time with them. In other words, there is always something to be offended by. I don't think there is anything wrong with being happy with one's choices. I think long and hard about mine, just as others do about theirs. Everyone thinks their choices are best, otherwise they wouldn't make them.

 

[Liberty Belle]

We're lucky if we go out to dinner.

We can't afford to go on a vacation without the kids.

I suppose we could do an over night or weekend deal for our anniversary, but we've not done it. Our youngest has ADHD and we've just recently found a medication that works well, so we've been leary about leaving him with anyone, even family.

 

[paintnolish]

Well, we've only had one anniversary so far, but dh arranged a suprise overnight for us- a B&B, nice dinner, and in-room massage. We decided we'd take turns planning it for the other as a suprise.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

We always go away for a special anniversary trip, some trips bigger than others. So far we have done anniversary trips to WDW, Las Vegas, Punta Cana, cruise to Bahamas, and Key West. It is just something we love doing-adding an extra vacation every year to celebrate being married!

Friends of ours always update something in their house as an anniversary gift. My parents have been married 35 years and they always cook dinner together and stay in. To each couple-their own! As long as you are happy and in love the other 364 days a year it doesn't matter how you celebrate that one day!

 

[Kae]

We do. This year we are celebrating our 25th by going to Egypt. Vacations are more important to us than gifts so we quit the gift exchange 3 years into our marriage and have been doing wonderful vacations instead.

And again where is that greened eyed monster smiley. I would love to go to Egypt.

This past October was our 20th so we did a cruise & WDW. We do something for our anniversary every year sometimes the get away is better than others Next year it will be late because we are taking my cousin to Vegas for her 21st in December. But we do get at least one weekend a month without the kids even if it is just one nite. This weekend it will be Indy, yeah!

Kae

 

[jodifla]

Well, we've only had one anniversary so far, but dh arranged a suprise overnight for us- a B&B, nice dinner, and in-room massage. We decided we'd take turns planning it for the other as a suprise.

Wow, this is a wonderful tradition to begin!

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

or that ones who don't have worse marriages?

sometimes the point of a thread is not was is asked but what is to be implied.

mte

 

[crz4mm2]

We did a week long cruise for our 30th that is the first time we have went away overnight for our anniversary.

I would like to go every year, but that is not financially possible.....

 

[Poppinsme]

Yup we do.
And this year for our 35th its back to the Poly. We can always find the time to have a little fun.

 

[quentina]

We do once a year but not at anniversary time.

This year we went to Daytona for the race and last year a friend got married in Boston.

 

[jodifla]

Yup we do.
And this year for our 35th its back to the Poly. We can always find the time to have a little fun.

35 years, that's great! congrats.

 

[okeydokey]

We've done it a couple of times but not every year. We live thousands of miles away from family so we don't often have grandparents/aunts and uncles to watch the kids. It's also a budget issue for us.

 

[sunlver]

I havent read all the replies yet. For us, we honestly have nobody who would watch all 3 of our kids for us to go away for a weekend. Even when we had one child it was never an option. We have no familiy in this state. My husbands family lives in one state, my family lives in another state.

Have we gone out to see movies or dinner without the kids, YES..but finding somebody to watch your kids for a few hrs, is much differnet then having somebody watch your kids and 3 dogs for an entire weekend

My oldest is 15 1/2, so that allows us more opportunities for movies and such..but not all of us our blessed with somebody to watch our kids for the weekends. It is nice that my son is old enough to say with his 2 younger sisters if need be...but it is no big deal to us to never have gone away without them.
It is not that I "Can't" be away from my kids, its that nobody would watch all of them and my pets for an entire weekend.

 

[palmtreegirl]

No, we don't. DH has limited vacation time and it's a mutual decision to save it for family vacations instead, we're taking two this year. We'll have plenty of time to get-a-way alone after the kids are grown, but that doesn't mean we've put our marriage on a shelf, we're actually closer then ever.

 

[wvjules]

LOL. We're pretty flexible. Some years we celebrate with trips and such, other years we don't. One thing I've figured out after 25 years of marriage is that "one day celebration does not a marriage make". We've at some time or another missed Valentines day or an anniversay.

Why do people always imply that those that do celebrate those occasions in a big way don't cherish their marriage and only "make it about one day"?

 

[MosMom]

We don't do it yearly but we are planning a trip to Vancouver next summer for our 15th anniversary. I can't wait!

 

[wvjules]

We don't do it yearly but we are planning a trip to Vancouver next summer for our 15th anniversary. I can't wait!

Vancouver looks gorgeous! We'd like to go there too.

 

[minniecarousel]

DH & I will celebrate 35 years in September. Hopefully, we'll get away for a weekend. BUT - we'll be going to WDW in October with our younger DS & DDIL. They'll be celebrating their 2nd Anniversary. We'll try to let them have some "alone" time!

We were very fortunate to have my Mom & sisters available to babysit our sons when they were little. It's a little different now - when DH & I want to go away, we need to coordinate our schedule with my sisters so that one of them can stay with our Mom, who lives with us.

I intend to be the type of Grandma who watches the grandbabies anytime! ('course, that's easy for me to say, I don't have any yet!)

 

[ElliePeters]

We love to- great time just you and your spouse to enjoy and relax together.