Just to add my 2 cents in...after going to 6 or 7 counselors....through church, through insurance co. and through work program, we finally found one that we both agreed could be a mediator and not take sides. I got up and walked out of 2 meetings because they weren't seeing the BIG picture....it took 7 years for us to become distant and resentful, and I wasn't going to accept the fact that the counselors, whom had just met us, continually said, he's changed....WTH...in one week?? I don't think so. I told them to go live with him and let me know what they thought!! I actually had our church counselor say..."You're not being the obediant wife." I said, "Yeah, well I'm originally from Chicago and I don't have to be obediant!" then I walked out.
Like I said, we finally found one that we both liked and we both felt we could talk to. It took several months of weekly sessions, both individually and together for us to see the light. Now, almost 4 years after counseling, we are happier than we've ever been, and I can't wait to see him when I get home from work. While there was once a time that I couldn't imagine another day with him, now I can't imagine a day without him.
I think you have to find the one that fits. Good luck and
If you love him, it will be worth it!
Like I said, we finally found one that we both liked and we both felt we could talk to. It took several months of weekly sessions, both individually and together for us to see the light. Now, almost 4 years after counseling, we are happier than we've ever been, and I can't wait to see him when I get home from work. While there was once a time that I couldn't imagine another day with him, now I can't imagine a day without him.
I think you have to find the one that fits. Good luck and

If you love him, it will be worth it!