Does it seem like people would rather be unhappy than happy nowadays?

[Rora]

Maybe it's just the people I'm friends with, but does it seem like, nowadays, that people actually prefer being unhappy?

Based on the way my friends act, sometimes it seems like they want drama in their lives- they love drama. They want to complain. They want the attention I give them when I sit and listen to their vast problems (which are most always about men or declared "frenemies"), but they don't really call or want to hang out unless they have a problem that needs listening to.

Even on the DIS, it seems people are so easily offended, upset, etc, when it's really not something to even be upset about (ex: registries- okay, it's tacky but is it really affecting your life that much that you're grumpy about it all day?).

As a relatively happy person who really doesn't like drama, I just don't get why some people don't want to cut the bad stuff out of their life (that guy that keeps cheating on you that you "hate"? Just dump him!).

Maybe I just need new friends.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I'm nooticing the same thing IRL and on the Dis. I want to be happy! Let's be friends

 

[Acklander]

Another relatively happy person here who doesn't like drama in my own life but for some reason gets a kick out of reading other people's drama. I am constantly amazed over what upsets people and many times find it down right entertaining. So Drama Llamas - Keep it coming!!!

 

[Rora]

I'm nooticing the same thing IRL and on the Dis. I want to be happy! Let's be friends

Another relatively happy person here who doesn't like drama in my own life but for some reason gets a kick out of reading other people's drama. I am constantly amazed over what upsets people and many times find it down right entertaining. So Drama Llamas - Keep it coming!!!

Hello new best friends!!



Glad to know I'm not crazy for not being a Drama Llama!

 

[AKL_Megs]

Drama Llama here, happily keeping you entertained

 

[Owlpost23]

For some reason there are people who don't think that life is life without the soaring highs and plummeting lows.I chose the happy middle,and save my drama for the movies.

 

[RunningGirl]

Some people just seem to thrive on drama. I don't have patience with them nor energy to get too worked up about the small stuff. It just seems extremely immature to me - more like a middle school student than an adult!

 

[Rora]

Drama Llama here, happily keeping you entertained

I do appreciate reading other people's drama as long as I'm not friends with them!

BUT, I don't like watching dramatic movies or listening to dramatic/sad songs. I prefer silly DIS Drama. Hey.. that should be like a TV mini-series.

 

[Acklander]

Drama Llama here, happily keeping you entertained

Thanks Meg, with the issues with your cousin, you're one of my favorites <vbg>

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I also like to read about it online and I find some of it very funny and other post rude, but IRL, I hate it because it stresses me out to no end. I had rather for everyone to just get along.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Thanks Meg, with the issues with your cousin, you're one of my favorites <vbg>

I was going to post about the FREAK OUT when we told her we were expecting, but I've been too sick to defend myself in the event of a beat down But this, just for you... Per my DHs aunt, I MUST have my baby shower when her daughter (the cousin) will be in Michigan with her baby for the first time in June because everyone will be "together at one place" then to meet the baby.. (Even though men don't attend showers ) Um, no, thank you!

 

[Acklander]

I was going to post about the FREAK OUT when we told her we were expecting, but I've been too sick to defend myself in the event of a beat down But this, just for you... Per my DHs aunt, I MUST have my baby shower when her daughter (the cousin) will be in Michigan with her baby for the first time in June because everyone will be "together at one place" then to meet the baby.. (Even though men don't attend showers ) Um, no, thank you!

LOL aren't you sweet posting that just for me but if you were really nice, you'd make a brand new thread with it's own heading so EVERYONE could chime in (it might get lost in this one) and tell you how wrong you are. I could get lost in that for hours

 

[LBIJim]

Maybe it's just the people I'm friends with, but does it seem like, nowadays, that people actually prefer being unhappy?

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I see on the bottom of your post that you're in your early 20s. Maybe you're just starting to experience this negativity. But people have been like this forever.

Some people aren't happy unless they're miserable.

Some people so enjoy being offended that they go out of their way to find something to be upset about.

Some people thrive on being drama queens/kings because at least it brings them some attention, even if it's negative.

I'm sure you get the idea.

As for your friends, either learn to ignore/humor them/deal with it or cut them from your life.

Jim

 

[bicker]

I'm more than double Rora's age, and sorry Jim, but there is a definitely trend toward greater negativity, at least since the early 1980s. People, in general, have developed a much deeper sense of entitlement, and a much more proprietary relationship to consumption driving that sense of entitlement. Meanwhile, respect for what other people do is plummeting, which also fosters dissatisfaction and disaffection. It used to be a two-step process, going from (1) something went wrong to (2) someone else is at fault. Now, whenever something goes wrong, most people immediately skip Step 1 and jump right to Step 2, assuming and insisting that someone else must be at fault.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Maybe it's just the people I'm friends with, but does it seem like, nowadays, that people actually prefer being unhappy?

Based on the way my friends act, sometimes it seems like they want drama in their lives- they love drama. They want to complain. They want the attention I give them when I sit and listen to their vast problems (which are most always about men or declared "frenemies"), but they don't really call or want to hang out unless they have a problem that needs listening to.

Even on the DIS, it seems people are so easily offended, upset, etc, when it's really not something to even be upset about (ex: registries- okay, it's tacky but is it really affecting your life that much that you're grumpy about it all day?).

As a relatively happy person who really doesn't like drama, I just don't get why some people don't want to cut the bad stuff out of their life (that guy that keeps cheating on you that you "hate"? Just dump him!).

Maybe I just need new friends.

I agree completely.

As for all of the posts talking about what's "tacky".... 99% of the time, my thought is that life is too short to worry about such inane crap.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I'm more than double Rora's age, and sorry Jim, but there is a definitely trend toward greater negativity, at least since the early 1980s. People, in general, have developed a much deeper sense of entitlement, and a much more proprietary relationship to consumption driving that sense of entitlement. Meanwhile, respect for what other people do is plummeting, which also fosters dissatisfaction and disaffection. It used to be a two-step process, going from (1) something went wrong to (2) someone else is at fault. Now, whenever something goes wrong, most people immediately skip Step 1 and jump right to Step 2, assuming and insisting that someone else must be at fault.

I could not agree more. I consider it the "me generation".

 

[LuvOrlando]

If I had a dime for every person who I know that's on anti-depressants I'd be loaded. I don't know that people are more unhappy, it's more like they can't seem to manage it. We have a pill for everything so now whenever life goes off script people lose their minds. I don't know when it happened, maybe it's all the commercials about depression which make sad people feel abnormal so its always a big to-do as they frantically try to get back on script. To me life is full of happy & sad, if you never had the bad stuff how could we appreciate all the great stuff? When I wake up each day I have a choice to make, either be amused or be sad. I prefer to be amused and "be the change (I) want to see in the world" - Gahndi... he was one cool dude

 

[njmom47]

I keep my drama to myself for the most part, except for one or two close friends who have/had similar issues. We have a friend/coworker who plays "can you top this" and fights with her husband/kids loudly on the phone so the whole office can hear.
I have teenagers so there is a LOT of drama from them!

 

[FireDancer]

Some people need to be the center of attention and haven't outgrown the 2-year old mentality that any attention is good attention. I avoid them whenever possible. Sometimes it is like being friends with Eeyore.

I'm more than double Rora's age, and sorry Jim, but there is a definitely trend toward greater negativity, at least since the early 1980s. People, in general, have developed a much deeper sense of entitlement, and a much more proprietary relationship to consumption driving that sense of entitlement. Meanwhile, respect for what other people do is plummeting, which also fosters dissatisfaction and disaffection. It used to be a two-step process, going from (1) something went wrong to (2) someone else is at fault. Now, whenever something goes wrong, most people immediately skip Step 1 and jump right to Step 2, assuming and insisting that someone else must be at fault.

I'm not sure this is really a new trend as much as technology like Facebook and Twitter allowing the people who would always have been drama-prone or lack respect to broadcast it to the world as opposed to their immediate circle of closest friends.

 

[mrodgers]

Isn't it ironic a thread being created of drama about drama?