Does anyone take separate vacations from their spouse?

[Rutt and Tuke]

I'm not talking about business trips, but pleasure trips.

DH and I have never travelled separately, but we've been talking about it lately. I have more time off from work than him and I'm really itching for a change of scenery. I'd prefer that DH would come along, but he just can't get off of work and, to be honest, I think he'll enjoy having some alone time in the house.

What do others do? We have no young children at home so that isn't an issue.

How often do you travel with and without your spouse?

 

[Meriweather]

I have been to Chicago (DIS meet) without him.
And I'm going to Disneyland (to meet Yayas) without him.
I have also been to WDW with DD and he didn't go along.
They are different kinds of trips when you go without your SO.....both are good, but in different ways.

 

[birdiesunshine]

The only time we traveled apart was before we were married and he went on a golf trip with his Dad and 15 other guys and I went to the Cape with my girlfiends. We called each other like 10 times a day, so we always vacation together cause we'd miss each other too much. People think we are corny, but that's o.k.

 

[Kirby]

My first trip without my husband was three years ago but I wasn't alone. I took my daughter to Sea World San Antonio. And then I went again last month with her Girl Scout troop.

I've thought about going alone, maybe with my sister to WDW. My husband isn't interested in going anymore until we have grandkids and that won't be for a long while yet (I hope).

I've thought maybe a Carnival cruise too. He's not interested in that either.

 

[Rutt and Tuke]

I doubt I'd go to WDW without him. He loves it just as much as me. I am thinking of a short mid-week spa type trip.

 

[gina2000]

I have, I do and I will continue to do so.

When I worked, I had alot more vacation time than DH. I've taken a number of vacations without him. He has never minded.

I've also been lucky enough to travel to WDW with friends. DH will take a few days off to keep DS on schedule.

DH does travel locally without me, usually with DS to places of interest.

For us, this works.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

My DH goes out to Montana to ride his motorcycle 2-3 times a year without us. I am a SAHM, so I just stay with the kids..we take a family trip out there once a year. He works so hard, and loves it out there, so I don't have a problem with it. We have been doing this for about 6 years..

AND....this year, I am taking my first solo vacation to WDW..I have a free airline ticket that expires in September. So I figured, "why not?" I love it there, this time it will be all about me, rather than everyone else...no one to answer to, can go on all the rides I want. Can't wait. When I told DH what I was doing, he said, "Why don't you go to SF, or San Diego, or somewhere NICE?" (Poor man, just doesn't get it..) I said, "I don't want to go all the way across the country away from my boys, and I LOVE WDW. Why wouldn't I want to do it?"

My mother, of course, will be watching the boys..DH will be home late, and won't be able to get them to school by himself. I am counting down the days, as you can see by my countdown calendar below....

P.S. We ARE going to WDW as a family in October, so I am not totally selfish..

P.P.S.S. Please note that I said this will be my FIRST solo trip to WDW.. I plan on making this an annual event!!

 

[aprilgail2]

Most of my friends all take one vacation a year as a "girls only" type trip...this year my friend and I went on a Disney cruise and she left her husband home...another friend and I went to Canada and she left her husband home....Most of them say they have a better time just out with the girls!! I don't see a problem with it as long as they dont use it as a chance to cheat on each other! Big difference between going without them and having fun and cheating.

 

[Crankyshank]

DH and I have never vacationed alone together , unless you count the drive up to MA from FL for our wedding We just have never had the money or had been able to take the time off of work.

 

[Blondie]

Several co-workers travel extensively without their spouses, with some going to Vegas as well as DL/WDW. I see nothing wrong with it.

Some people like to travel more than others. Some are more comfortable in their own homes and would rather stay put. My MIL is a perfect example. She has had so many invites not only from us to go to WDW and other places we've been, but from her other children as well. Her comment is "you know me, I love my home and my own surroundings" and always turns everyone down.

 

[helenabear]

I do... I have a lot more vacation time than him, and I have places I want to go that he doesn't want to go (or just nearly as often). I usually wind up going with friends somewhere (like WDW or in a few weeks DL) and once in a while he'll go on his own. We do some traveling together as well.

It's nice to get "me" time now and then. I do miss him when he's not with me, but sometimes it actually makes it better for us to have some time away

 

[Rutt and Tuke]

Thanks everyone. I'm feeling less weird about it now.

 

[Mr.BsMom]

We do... I think it's healthy for our relationship to spend some time apart. (I can't imagine going to WDW without him though... He's as crazy as I am when it comes to that place!) We each take a long weekend 2 or 3 times a year to do our own thing - like visiting family or going with a friend someplace. We don't usually stay gone more than 3 or 4 nights, and it works well for us. I enjoy having time alone and I think he does too... We seem to appreciate each other more when we're back together.

 

[CyranoJones]

We have vacationed by ourselves. Well, sometimes it's more business with a little vacation tacked on. I think it's good to have time for oneself. I do enjoy vacationing with my husband more though.

 

[WDWLVR]

In 14 years of marriage - no we haven't. Our vacation is when we really get to spend quality time together.

Now if there was something that either of us really wanted to do and the other didn't then I could see it once in a while.

 

[Rutt and Tuke]

Originally posted by WDWLVR
In 14 years of marriage - no we haven't. Our vacation is when we really get to spend quality time together.

Now if there was something that either of us really wanted to do and the other didn't then I could see it once in a while.

That is how I feel about our vacations as well and we've been married almost as long as you.

I guess what I must keep telling myself is that this isn't "instead of " traveling together, but "in addition to."

 

[shelbyjosh]

I could only wish!!! A nice long 4 day weekend trip without him and the kids to Key West!

 

[Serena]

I wish I did. Waiting on him just left me taking no vacations.

 

[bsnyder]

If both partners are okay with it, then there's nothing wrong with it.

DH and I have always taken some vacations apart. At various times, we've had different amounts of time off from work. I wouldn't want him sitting at home just because I had to work, and he feels the same way.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

Nope. Just not interested.

But if he doesn't relent on Disney soon....