Does anyone NOT have a DH help out?

[MinnyGranny62]

or am I the only one. My DH sits in his chair while I seem to
do everything. Just wondering if he was the only one or if all
of your DH's help around the house.

 

[Cruisin]

I think that you can be sure that he is not the only one like that

 

[MOMTOCUTESTDOGEVER]

I have to admint my DH is usually very good. Then when things start slipping and I can't take it anymore, I use the key words : We need to talk. (It works like when you see parents start counting to their small children and the kids immediately change behaviors.) I'm pretty sure I couldn't be in a relationship where I did everything--it would eat at me too much.

 

[wvjovifan]

My DH does alot of the outside stuff, and I take care of the inside stuff...
That's ok with me!!!

 

[krdisneybound]

My DH helps and does anything around our home that I do. If there was something that I could ask him to do that he hasn't done, there would be nothing. I might clean a little better and do things differently, but at least he does the chores and shopping w/o me asking.

I could not ask for anything else that I don't have - I feel very luck in that regard

 

[Michie]

No. The DH helps. He does most of the cooking, cleans up after him self, likes to mop likes to iron takes care of the yard, has always helped with the kids

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

Well when he does help out he is a pain in the ask! First it takes him so long to do anything. If I am doing a deep cleaning becasue of company he always says he will clean the den and then I find him watching tv. Paint? Please he complains about having to clean the brushes. Then there is my white floor that needs to periodically be stripped. He sits and watches while I am on my hands and knees. You really caught me at a bad time on this one because I am so mad at him right now I could stuff his head down the toilet and flush about one hundred times!!

OH and I forgt nothing and I mean nothing gets done w/out me asking. WE have a dishwasher and he will put his dish in the SINK rather than just place it in the washer.

 

[eeyore kelly]

DH does just as much childraising and housework as I do

 

[MinnyGranny62]

I was just wondering as we are both retired now and
I am used to doing everying inside the house. But now I do
need a little help and don't know how to ask for it.

 

[graygables]

DH is responsible for the kitchen trash, any trash I set out the back door (my studio/bathroom/basement) and his own bathroom. Ugh. I have to ask half the time for him to take the trash and then I'm met with a sigh. He is SO mid-century, it's not even funny. He can't put a dirty dish in the dishwasher, he always sets it in the sink. If I need to go somewhere, suddenly, he's "babysitting". No, my dear, it's called PARENTING and I do it 24/7 (we homeschool) There are times that I'm overwhelmed with a project or something and really let things go (like his laundry ) and he'll have a day off and do it, but that is maybe a few times a year (and never any other laundry but his own). I honestly do not know how he survived before he met me. Oh wait, yes I do...his mother lives next door!

DDs and I are going to be gone for 13 days in December...I wonder how he'll manage???

 

[Michie]

I was just wondering as we are both retired now and
I am used to doing everying inside the house. But now I do
need a little help and don't know how to ask for it.

Just ask him. How else is he supposed to know?

 

[Disney Doll]

I have to admit DH is pretty good. He might not necessarily notice that something needs to be done, but he'll do anything I ask him to.

 

[anewvance]

It is funny to see this post... I just had to drop it all and take a bath because I was getting ticked off at dh. I was gone for 4 days and he did aboslutely nothing. He had the girls for 1 1/2 days by himself and they made a huge mess around the house. Then they came up to Orlando to meet me and my dh went home the next day. He had 2 days by himself, the lawn needs to be mowed along with a number of other things around the house and he sat on his rear and did nothing.

He is pretty good with the kids... helps dd with homework, feeds the baby, gives them a bath... but when it comes to doing stuff around the house, his idea of helping is bellowing at the kids to clean up and they just do a half job. Then I end up getting up and just doing it all myself... he tells me make them do it but there is just "stuff" around that they have no idea what to do with. That's dh excuse too, I can't pick up because I dont know where it goes! I just want to yell at him to just FIND a PLACE!

So I just dropped it all and headed upstairs for a bath and came downstairs and finally the place is cleaner... not CLEAN but cleaner... well it's not dirty, it's just cluttered. I hate clutter but it's constantly in my life.

Anyway, you asked.... LMAO!

 

[MinnyGranny62]

Thanks Gals....and Bella the Ball 360 I sure
did need a good laugh. That's how I feel.

 

[WDWLVR]

DH and I are equal in what we do around the house. Some things might be more "mine" like laundry and some things might be more "his" like yard work. When it comes to general cleaning however we both pitch in to get the job done.

He's more than just my DH - he's my best friend!

 

[pattyT]

this is gonna get good I am sure -

my DH can't even get his dirty laundry into the basket - just drops them on the floor wherever he is - a sock here a sock there... he is AWEFUL (really wish I would have let him live alone not go from mom to me)

that said when I worked full time he was much better - and he doesn't conplain when things get done - and if HE KNOWS company is coming he will do a mad dash make it LOOK clean kinda cleaning!

He is good with the kids though

 

[krdisneybound]

I was just wondering as we are both retired now and
I am used to doing everying inside the house. But now I do
need a little help and don't know how to ask for it.

JUST ASK - you might be pleasantly surprised !!!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My DH does do things around the house, but I still get irritated because first of all I very often have to ask him. Why can't he open his eyes and see things?

And he will do something like load the dishwasher, but he will put the plastic cups in there in a way that they will flip upside down, load things so the water isn't hitting them right and they won't get clean, etc. I've explained to him how to do it so the dishes get clean, he'll say he understands, but he won't do it. I think it's a control thing...for both of us.

The thing that really makes me mad, though, is that on the weekend he can do whatever projects around the house that he wants to and I have to do everything else. Not a problem since he doing things that need to get done, but when I need to get some things done above and beyond the normal cleaning the other stuff doesn't get done.

A couple weeks ago I decided that I was going to be a very good communicator so on Friday evening I told my husband that I had some things that I needed to get done around the house. I needed to go through the clothes that my kids had outgrown, decide if it's worth passing down to the younger brother, go through boxes to pull out clothes that now fit them, etc, etc. It was a job that was going to take hours and I just wanted to do it and get it done. My DH agreed to do the normal stuff around the house. Problem is, I did my stuff and then had to turn around and clean the kitchen, make dinner, etc, etc. Irks the heck out of me!

Today I guess he figures is an off day for himself. He hasn't done diddly-squat around here. I've been doing laundry, sorting clothes for our congregation's flea market, cleaning up the kitchen, etc and he's been playing video games with our son and doing I'm not sure what else. Oh, and I'm coming down with some virus and don't even feel well. But if I say something to him he'll tell me that I didn't need to do what I did or he'll get mad that I didn't tell him what to do.

I really wasn't going to do this venting, but I guess that I'm madder than I thought I was.

 

[Marseeya]

This is a problem for us. I do 99% of the childrearing, which is overwhelming enough. He very rarely helps with homework (unless I'm sick, and even then it's iffy) and he does nothing with/for the kids.

Outdoor work -- I'm highly allergic to grass, so he has to do all the outdoor work and guess what? He'll go two months without mowing until I threaten to pay someone to do it.

Housework -- well, we're both bad about that. But he won't lift a finger for little things, and then every several months he'll get into a cleaning jag and do a whole lot of stuff. I love that phase.

But I love him anyway. He's got a ton of wonderful qualities that make up for all that.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

My DH does do things around the house, but I still get irritated because first of all I very often have to ask him. Why can't he open his eyes and see things?

And he will do something like load the dishwasher, but he will put the plastic cups in there in a way that they will flip upside down, load things so the water isn't hitting them right and they won't get clean, etc. I've explained to him how to do it so the dishes get clean, he'll say he understands, but he won't do it. I think it's a control thing...for both of us.

The thing that really makes me mad, though, is that on the weekend he can do whatever projects around the house that he wants to and I have to do everything else. Not a problem since he doing things that need to get done, but when I need to get some things done above and beyond the normal cleaning the other stuff doesn't get done.

A couple weeks ago I decided that I was going to be a very good communicator so on Friday evening I told my husband that I had some things that I needed to get done around the house. I needed to go through the clothes that my kids had outgrown, decide if it's worth passing down to the younger brother, go through boxes to pull out clothes that now fit them, etc, etc. It was a job that was going to take hours and I just wanted to do it and get it done. My DH agreed to do the normal stuff around the house. Problem is, I did my stuff and then had to turn around and clean the kitchen, make dinner, etc, etc. Irks the heck out of me!

Today I guess he figures is an off day for himself. He hasn't done diddly-squat around here. I've been doing laundry, sorting clothes for our congregation's flea market, cleaning up the kitchen, etc and he's been playing video games with our son and doing I'm not sure what else. Oh, and I'm coming down with some virus and don't even feel well. But if I say something to him he'll tell me that I didn't need to do what I did or he'll get mad that I didn't tell him what to do.

I really wasn't going to do this venting, but I guess that I'm madder than I thought I was.

See you can be as good a communicator as you want but if your husband chooses to play as dumb as a stick then it just gets you even madder. I am the same way. Oh, and my husband is a salesman so he is not at his job per se all the time. He is home much of the time making calls etc. NOthing gets me madder than when he comes down stairs with one of those stupid internet jokes that takes 20 minutes to read and shows it to me. I think in the dmn time it took you to open, read, and then print this joke to show me (and he knows I hate them) you could have dummped a load of laundry in as you walked by the washer on your way to get a snack!!