Does Anyone Know Any Polygamists?

[mrsklamc]

Anybody remember Picket Fences? On one ep the daughter thought a friend from school was being sexually abused by her dad..turned out in reality she was his second wife!

I am curious about the poster who said they did research on this.I have lived in both small towns and large cities and it seems like it would be MUCH easier to hide in a city? In small towns if you forget what you were doing it seems someone will be there to remind you....

 

[sha_lyn]

I've known a couple of Polyamorous families
both being a bisexual woman with both a lesbian "wife" a husband
I also know a lady who at one time was one of 2 wifes, but that was before I knew her. She was the legal wife,and all was fine with the arrangement until the other "wife" became PG and demanded that the "husband" divorce my friend and marry her

 

[Maggi May]

Funny thing, I do actually know one.

One of my best friends from high school joined up with a group called the "Hebrew Isrealites"

She's married to a man who already had a wife. They all live together in the same house. She refers to the other wife as her "sister wife" and she has a sister like relationship with the other woman.

I asked her last time I saw her if she was happy in her situation and she said she wouldn't be able to take it if her husband decided to bring home another wife. So it doesn't sound like she's totally happy with what's going on.

Wow, there's a small group of Hebrew Isrealites here in my town. They run a great vegetarian take-out stand and I always enjoy chatting with the ladies that sell the food. I had no idea that polygamy was one of their practices . . .

 

[JoyG]

Wow, there's a small group of Hebrew Isrealites here in my town. They run a great vegetarian take-out stand and I always enjoy chatting with the ladies that sell the food. I had no idea that polygamy was one of their practices . . .

My friend and her family also run a vegetarian take out place!

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

They've never come out and said it, but I think I know such a family.

A couple of my Girl Scouts live with their grandmother. They have another Grandma who lives with them. The woman told me one day that her husband's ex-wife lives with them.

I knew better than to ask questions.

 

[chb]

DH told me that when he went to buy me a Mother's Day gift card at Kohl's the guy in front of him bought several hundred dollars worth of all black and white clothes. Evidently the clerk remarked on it and the guy said he was buying them for his wives. DH did not get the feeling that he was joking. We live in suburban Atlanta--not exactly a hotbed for polygamay---I think???

 

[sha_lyn]

A couple of my Girl Scouts live with their grandmother. They have another Grandma who lives with them. The woman told me one day that her husband's ex-wife lives with them.

I knew better than to ask questions

I know a husband/wife that let the wife's ex move it. It's a strange situation, but it is not a poly relationship. The ex got out of rehab or something and had nowhere else to go. They are all in their 60's now and the husband is disabled. The wife can no longer help him like she once could. The ex lives with them for free in exchange for being basically a nurses aid.

 

[sha_lyn]

DH told me that when he went to buy me a Mother's Day gift card at Kohl's the guy in front of him bought several hundred dollars worth of all black and white clothes. Evidently the clerk remarked on it and the guy said he was buying them for his wives. DH did not get the feeling that he was joking. We live in suburban Atlanta--not exactly a hotbed for polygamay---I think???:confused:

You might just be surprised at the numbers around here. I have been told of several polyamerous families in the area. The ones I know of however are not the typical ones that you would think of however. They are the religious zealots that believe a man can should "own" many wifes. They are as I described earlier, usually bisexual situations.

 

[Tiggeroo]

I know polygamy is illegal. But if you only marry the first wife, and the second one just lives there why is it illegal. Isn't that what they do on big love but they're worried about getting caught? I would think that's just cheating technically, with the wife's permission.

 

[nannerbadnanner]

Not in a "Big Love" sense, but when I worked for a divorce attorney, there were several cases of bigamy that we had to deal with, i.e., get married, never get divorced, get married again. One of our clients decided his divorce was taking too long so he and his girlfriend decided to get married and had a big write up in the paper. Of course, his current wife saw it and it all heck broke loose! We dropped him as a client.

 

[ducklite]

I know a guy who's living with twin sisters and "involved" with both, but not married to either.

Anne

 

[hydster]

I know a few, went to school with one after her mother and *HER* kids left the situation. Not a good situation they were in. Very abusive and sad.

Here a lot of them you can spot right away. They don't hide it. Females dressed in long sleeved shirts, long dresses, long hair in braids, basic nude colored pantyhose, boys in shirts and ties and dress shoes. We've seen them mini golfing the dad with 1 wife and 20 kids, we've seen them out and about in Walmart most often.

In my opinion the idea behind polygamy isn't horrible if it's consenting adults that want to do this. It's when you start marrying off young girls to old uncles, cousins, grandfathers and the inbreeding starts where it gets awful. If it were adults who wanted to live that way but let the kids be "normal" and go to school, learn about the way life is and all of that then I don't see it as creepy. I wouldn't want to do it but hey if you are all consenting go for it just don't rape young girls, ship boys out of the way so there are more women for the men and on and on. That's the horrible part to me. The abuse my friend and her family endured was very sad.

 

[NotUrsula]

I am curious about the poster who said they did research on this.I have lived in both small towns and large cities and it seems like it would be MUCH easier to hide in a city? In small towns if you forget what you were doing it seems someone will be there to remind you....

The research wasn't actually about the polygamy, it was about the politics, the polygamy was just something that happened to go along with it sometimes. These folks didn't live in small towns, but really rural areas, in places like Idaho, Arizona, Montana, Minnesota and W. Virginia; the kinds of places where it is 10 miles to the nearest neighbor's house and 40 miles to the nearest small town. Mostly they live in "compounds" on very large properties, and represent themselves as extended families, cousins and such, which they usually actually are if you map them out on a family tree. Their kids are home-schooled, and they own their own businesses, so no teachers or bosses to notice oddities about the family.

I would agree that it usually doesn't work in small towns, except in cases like Colorado City, where almost the entire town is part of the group.

 

[goofygirl]

It's always one man with a bunch of wives. For once, I'd like to see the reverse: one woman with a bunch of husbands!

 

[Kath2003]

It's always one man with a bunch of wives. For once, I'd like to see the reverse: one woman with a bunch of husbands!

Who would want that?! At least the other way around you have someone else to take care of him a lot of the time

 

[MushyMushy]

It's always one man with a bunch of wives. For once, I'd like to see the reverse: one woman with a bunch of husbands!

Good timing! I was just getting ready to post about a friend of mine who has been in a few polyamorous situations with more than one man. She married one man and was on the lookout for another man to be a second "husband' (they didn't technically marry). She lived with two men for several years until one of them got accepted to a prestigious school in Rhode Island, so she decided to follow that one. I don't think she's quite as open to a female/female/male relationship, but you never know.

It wasn't a triangle either. The two men lived as brothers and she took turns with each man like on Big Love.

 

[chobie]

I did work with a guy who lived with and shared a woman with her other lover. She had a child with the other man, but my co-worker took care of the kid most of the time because he worked nights and they other two worked days. He was older than the other two, and he was very open about telling people about the relationship. He was a very strange guy, I have to admit.

 

[willis37862]

I know a guy who's living with twin sisters and "involved" with both, but not married to either.

Anne

Ahhhh living every mans fantasy

 

[goofygirl]

Who would want that?! At least the other way around you have someone else to take care of him a lot of the time

Good point. I guess most women do not want more than 1 man because 1 is enough to deal with.

 

[VirtuallyMe]

Not in a "Big Love" sense, but when I worked for a divorce attorney, there were several cases of bigamy that we had to deal with, i.e., get married, never get divorced, get married again. One of our clients decided his divorce was taking too long so he and his girlfriend decided to get married and had a big write up in the paper. Of course, his current wife saw it and it all heck broke loose! We dropped him as a client.

One of my best friend's ex husband did this... without the big write up- He left my friend to marry this other woman who he'd been carrying an only relationship with- turns out for years (even to some suspicion that her kids from previous marriage were his)... Well my friend is going through the divorce proceding and the kids come home after a weekend visit with dad and announce that he is moving in with girlfriend- because they are marrying the next weekend... My friend pointed out to the kids that it would be impossible since he was still married- then his parents call to see if they can get the kids the next weekend since they were "in town"- She asked a few more questions and turns out they were "in Town" for the wedding- when he was still married to my friend...

His explanation is that they really didn't "legally" marry but wanted to have an official ceremony with family and all so the kids would understand that they were "married" and they could live together...

I can tell you that the judge didn't agree with his logic one bit- and he has been fighting his poor decision in every divorce issue they've had since then