Does anyone else stay in an unhappy marriage?

[OhMari]

true words. it's not the kill, it's the thrill of the chase. after the kill, we make excuses like we have an early tee time and slide out the side door.

I read your earlier report about what you did to your wife Immelman. Are you still married? I looked at your pictures and there is no wife in any of them. And, it is wierd reading a guys perspective of cheating on his wife.

 

[poohandwendy]

I never took the indignant role of his wife being not my problem. You said that , not me.

First of all I think that I find your posts the most offensive. Have you forgotten that I have only been in public places with this person, like I have had to say over and over again!! I will not let you try to make me into something that I am not. You, I find pathetic. It's pathetic that you would try to stigmatize and falsely malign someone.

If many women here have been mistreated you are suddenly saying that is my fault? I have always tried to be fair in my posts to people on here. Ugh....

This is a Disney board. We have been talking about other issues on the community board for ages. So when it's convenient for you to pull out that card just to try to put someone down, or to demoralize them, you'll do it!!

Have fun riding your high horse of self-imposed moral superiority. Have fun ammmassing as many followers as you can. While you ride, all of us evil women out a here! Hiyo Psycho!!!

1) The fact that you use what he has told you to justify your actions, knowing that he could be lying about his wife and that she could be hurt in the process, is what gives me the impression that you feel indignant towards her. Let's be real, if you really cared about her feelings, you would be telling him to go home and work it out with her or divorce her.

2) If I really offend you that much, the ignore button is available at any time...there is also the 'report this post to a moderator' button

3) I have NEVER suggested that you have had any physical contact with him. Feel free to show where I have... copy and paste

4) Sorry you feel that I am pathetic, but I have very thick skin and couldn't care less.

5) I never have blamed you for the scorned women of the world, feel free to point out otherwise...copy and paste

6) The reason I mentioned it being a disney board was not for the content of the thread, but trying to remind you of the people you are talking to. Do you really expect a board with primarily married women to support your having a relationship with a married man who is coming on to you and saying negative things about his wife? Why are you so shocked that people find this sort of relationship wrong?

7) I do not think I am morally superior, I have ideals and stick to them. I have also had enough pain of my own and witnessed enough to know that what you are describing brings nothing but trouble for all involved.

If anything, I am very opinionated. I go by the mantra "If you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything" If you find that arrogant, again...feel free to ignore me.

 

[poohandwendy]

Originally Posted by totalia
Ahh and thats why people keep saying that they married for good?

I think we all have made it clear that other than a short list of abusive behaviors (of which all of our mates are no doubt already aware of), yes, we are married for good.

 

[goofygirl]

Good grief. Reading the DIS lately has made me thank the gods and goddesses that I'm single!


C.Ann, can you please make another cake and save me a piece?

 

[C.Ann]

C.Ann, can you please make another cake and save me a piece?

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Still some left, if you want to zip on over.. Chocolate cake, chocolate frosting..

And yup - "got milk"....

 

[Michie]

You know Mp I'm far from self righteous but I gotta tell you "YOUR WRONG" In my book it takes a "REAL WOMAN" with DIGNITY and RESPECT to not mess around with a married man no matter how good the package look and no matter how much BS he's telling you.

You may think your not at fault but honey let me tell you something... mark my words, you will reap what you sow!!! There will come a time in your life when you think you found the love of your life. When the pain hit you 10x's worse than the pain your putting his wife thru I hope you can deal with it because it's definitely going to happen.

If you meant right you would walk away, but I honestly think you know what you doing. What I find so sad is that you think your actions are justified.

If you feel the need to make yourself feel better by calling me and other women selfrighteous that's fine. As a married woman I'll continue to be self righteous if it means I have enough respect for myself to never hurt another married woman because of my own selfish needs!!
I'll continue to be self righteous by not degrading myself. I'll be self righteous if it means I'll never cross the line by interferring in a troubled marriage regardless of what the cheating husband is telling me.

I'll be whatever you want me to be, but one thing I thank GOD for is giving me enough sense, dignity and pride in myself and to be able to think about how my actions would affect another person.

BTW, I won't say YOU give women a bad name because your an adult who's responsible for your own actions. I do hope for you sake that you atleast take the time to search your soul and concious so you can do the right thing.

DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU are words to live by.


Edited to add: I'm not trying to be cruel but your putting yourself in a situation you have no business in. He should be spending time with his wife not you. Even if he doesn't agree you should at least do the right thing by distancing yourself from this situation.

Again I'm not being cruel but this man is married Mpn. Him being married regardless of how unhappy says he is does not give you the right to interfere. I'm sorry but no matter how you look at it or how many lies you tell yourself to make you feel better your wrong.

I so agree.

..another random thought..
....I live in a small community about 20,000. And conservative. Women that have become involved with married men, that are not looked upon very well. Even 10,15 years after the fact. Not saying that is right, but happens. I have seen women ruin at teh very least ruin their careers by getting involved with married men. And you know what? Our community somewhat looks down on the men in this situation. Not saying if that is right or wrong but happens...

 

[Charade]

Women like me?? What am I like?? I am a bisexual, manhating, quasi- intellectual demanding and controlling woman. I don't get it?

 

[OK!]

All of you who are cheating on your spouse or are having an affair with a married man, have you ever heard of "alienation of affection"? We had a lady in our town sue her ex-husband's "mistress" for this and won, she is owed $1,000,000.00. If the man is married, his wife could sue you.

Coincidentally, a movie based on this case was on Lifetime this afternoon. Very interesting stuff.

 

[Planogirl]

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Still some left, if you want to zip on over.. Chocolate cake, chocolate frosting..

And yup - "got milk"....

Save me a piece too please! I love chocolate cake and milk and this thread is tiring. I need my strength.

Minnie, good luck with whatever YOU decide to do. That's really what it all comes down to. Just use a little common sense.

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Somebody earlier said they wanted to see a man's opinion? Here's mine...
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