Does anyone else regret being so good?

[florida-again]

I do! I was always so well behaved at school and at home. It was hard work and boring to be so good all the time but I didn't want to disappoint everyone.
Now I look at my 16yo sister, who does...whatever the heck she likes. My parents get called up to school because she's under-achieving, she is no angel at home...and my parents just shrug it off as 'normal' teenage behaviour.

When I look at my sisters life, and how much fun she has and doesn't stress about getting into trouble or not over-achieving, I look back and wish I'd been braver. I really wish I hadn't worried so much about disappointing my parents. If I'd known the reprecussions really weren't that bad, I'd have done at least a couple of rebellious things!

Does anyone else regret being so good?

 

[Sandcass]

No, I never regretted being a good girl. I still had so much fun as a teen. (I'm really old now, 34!) The trouble that teens get into can be fun, but it can also end or forever change their lives. I'm proud of the fact that I never drank, did drugs, got in trouble at school, or slept with my boyfriends in high school. I wasn't a total nerd tho, I just had fun other ways. And I worked alot in high school, so I didn't have as much time to get into trouble.

How old are you now? Don't you think the hard work you did as a teen was worth it?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I was like your sister and regretted not being smarter. I think a there is a middle ground there somewhere that is better.

 

[PlaneJoy1]

You may now 'regret' being good..... however there would probably be many more regrets and heart ache if you hadn't.

Your sister may think she's having a good time now.... but I bet later on she wishes she would have paid attention more.

It's the "grass is greener on the other side" philosophy.

 

[kilee]

I will admit I used to be so jealous of my little sister. I am the oldest and things were much different for me. My parents were so strict w/ everything. My sister definetly had the bar set sooooo much lower for her.

I remember if I didn't get at least solid "B"'s or better on my report card I'd get in serious trouble. Dear sis on the other hand was essentially bribed to just pass by the skin of her teeth. It was like this w/ everything.

 

[florida-again]

Kilee, I think you and I have had very similar upbringings. Mine is virtually identical.
I'm 21 now and I do definitely reap the rewards for being so good in the past. Being good isn't a serious regret by any means, I'm very proud of myself, but sometimes I can't help but wish I'd tested the water ya know?

 

[florida-again]

Should add also that DSis is very clever, so will no doubt land right on her feet when exam time comes round....gggrrrr ;-)

 

[diznygirl]

Kilee, I think you and I have had very similar upbringings. Mine is virtually identical.
I'm 21 now and I do definitely reap the rewards for being so good in the past. Being good isn't a serious regret by any means, I'm very proud of myself, but sometimes I can't help but wish I'd tested the water ya know?

I never "tested the waters" and I have no regrets. It's something that my DH and I have in common, and we are thankful that we found each other.

Meanwhile, I have several friends who did a bit of "testing" with no reprecussions - and they are the ones with the regrets. Coincidence? I think not.

Hang in there - keep your eye on the big picture - you will be glad you did.

 

[disneysteve]

Does anyone else regret being so good?

I was the "good" son growing up. All A's in school. Involved in various clubs. Student council president. College, medical school. You know the type.

My brother was the not-so-good student. Hung out with others like him. Made it through high school but never really found his way in life. Got involved with drugs. And even then I was a little jealous because he always had people over, drove a nice Trans Am, always had a wad of cash in his pocket, etc.

Now I'm a successful doctor, nice house, loving family, living the good life. My brother died of an overdose when he was 28.

Do I regret being so good? Not for a second.

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

My regret is somewhat different. In high school I worked and worked so hard to get good grades and a scholarship that I pretty much burned myself out by the time college came. In high school, I was in every single club there was, all honors classes, projects, etc. In college I wasn't in the mood to do all that anymore. I didn't get involved, didn't make many friends, just went to school and went home. So I wish I had had more fun in high school - not necessarily the bad kind so I could have had a better balance in both college and high school...