Does Anyone Else Have a Good Marriage?

[ZachnElli]

We'll celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary in June. We are very happily married! Dh is my best friend and soulmate! We've been through some really tough times and always made it through!

 

[WDWLVR]

We'll be married 16 years this October. I would consider it a very good marriage and he definately is my best friend.

 

[BethR]

DH and I have been married for 25 years and are still plugging away.

 

[lynetteSC]

VERY happy here! DH & I have been married for 12 yrs this May ...

 

[Megan23]

We are five months married, and I don't understand people who say that the first year is the hardest. We've been having a great time, and we didn't live together before we were married either. We're both finishing up our schooling this spring, so we're looking for teaching jobs in the fall. That's when we'll be settling down somewhere for a least a few years, so we're both excited for that. We also don't want to wait too long for kids... probably within the next two years. Being married is great!

 

[mickeymousemom]

IMO the interenet has made it clear how many bad marriages there are out there.

And IMO (just my opinion) anybody that complains about their spouse to strangers on the internet is in a bad marriage.

I look forward to going back and reading the other replies, but I had to comment on this. I totally agree--to a point. Believe me, I have been there, with the internet thing. BUT...I never really considered my marriage a bad one. We have been thru hell and high water together and love each other very much. After my youngest(who is now 2.5) was born, we went downhill. We had a couple years of bad communicating, and lots of misunderstandings. My DH is a great guy and I am very lucky to have him..BUT----- I have lived with 14 years of off and on HELL from my MIL and not alot of support from DH. This all culminated into one big hairy mess and plenty of mistakes made on both sides. Maybe this isn't the way to look at it, but I have ALWAYS seen my marriage as a good one. Even most great marriages undergo bad times. This just happened to be one for us. We have been back on track and even better than we ever were since Aug. 15, 2005. No matter the bad times, we have always known we had something special. I have to warn ANYONE who is thinking about complaining on the Internet, or any IM site, to PLEASE think before you talk. If you have complaints, then you need to work it out with your spouse, NOT talk to another member of the opposite sex..alone...on the internet. It only causes problems. I know some people may see this who know me and may be(a bit) surprised by what I say. I don't care. I know that there are people out there who will read this thread for inspiration. If I can do anything to help save a relationship then so be it. Divorce and break ups come way too easy nowadays.

As for DH and I..we are doing wonderfully...as we did for several years before this all started. We are best friends and fellow Disney fanatics. We can talk up a storm to each other and I have no doubt that once the kids are gone, we'll be happy. Many many trips to WDW for just the two of us await.

So yes Virginia, there are good marriages out there. And there are even people out there who recognize that a downhill slide does not a divorce make.

ETA: Dh and I have been married over 14 years. Most of it has been great, and now its even better. We are truly each other's best friends.

 

[mickeymousemom]

BTW, Congratulations to all the long-lasting and wonderful marriages!

 

[rhanditresmom]

My DH and I have been married for 15 years...it will be 16 in June. We still talk about the night we met...we both know everything about it and can retell the story in great detail! We have been together for 19 years, but it hardly seems that long. We have 2 beautiful children and love each other just as much as the day we got married...maybe even more.

 

[cardaway]

I have to warn ANYONE who is thinking about complaining on the Internet, or any IM site, to PLEASE think before you talk. If you have complaints, then you need to work it out with your spouse, NOT talk to another member of the opposite sex..alone...on the internet. It only causes problems.

Exactly one of my points. I've read many the post starting thread here about a spouse and my first reaction is...

No wonder your marraige has problems, you think posting about it here is a good idea.

 

[simpilotswife]

DH and I will be celebrating 16 yrs together this June. He is one of the great joys of my life and I am truly fortunate that he feels the same about me.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I got the storybook! We will have been married 10 years in September and have never had any "downs". All "ups" for us.

He adores me . . . and I adore him.

But we do not have any of the pressures that I sometimes see from people who are struggling with their marriages:
1) In-laws - my parents LOVE Alan and his parents worship me
2) We have plenty of money to do what we want
3) We are not parents
4) Lots of vacation time

Prince Charming does exist!

 

[ElizK]

DH and I have a good marriage!! Our 18th anniversary is coming up on the 26th of March. We've certainly had our share of ups and downs, but our relationship has gotten stronger, our communication better, over the past several years. And darned if he isn't the most handsome thing with blue eyes I've ever seen!

 

[DisneyDotty]

Going on 17 years of marriage here. Happy? Definitely! Perfect marriage? No way--too boring!

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

I've got 7 of the most wonderful years invested in my very happy marriage and look forward to another 70. We are just as in love right now as we were the day we married...I take that back, probably more in love. He is my Prince Charming and I can't imagine life without him.

 

[nwdisgal]

We've been married 20 years. For the most part it has been a great 20 years with a few rough patches. The key to success has been open communication and replacing ego and self with the word "us". We are best friends, and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

 

[Disney Doll]

We'll celebrate 15 years of marriage this year, and I have known him for 18 years total. I feel very fortunate to have met my DH. He is a man of integrity. He is someone that has respect for us and our relationship. He is a gentleman, supportive, willing to compromise.

We have had some bumps in the road of life...infertility, the deaths of both my in-laws fairly close together...which made for sad days, but he and I were always supportive of each other, no matter what was happening on the outside.

Plus, he's cute!

 

[tabrizia]

We're celebrating our 5th aniversery in August (at Disney) and we have a great marriage (we'll have been together for 10 years in October). We have a great marriage though there have been some bumps and downs (though not many). I am very happy being married and think that open communications with my husband help this a lot.

 

[budbeerlady]

We have been together almost 11 years and married for almost 7. I think that we are pretty normal (or maybe I am just hoping we are!) but I know when I got married I thought it would be so great and we love each other and all this other rosy stuff. It is hard to be married. Lets face it, when I got married I failed to realized this person I adored is going to fart so bad I bail out of the bed room. Or that his clothes will never end up in the hamper. Do I still love him? Of course, it just isnt as easy as I thought it would be to be married. Its alot of work and lets face it some people just dont have the time or the interest to put work into being married. I look forward to being an old fart with him some day.

 

[mallcat]

Despite his endless passion for ESPN and all things sports-related; and my nagging constant allergic nose blowing - - we are still going strong after 12 years. We have a very good marriage.

 

[Alice28]

We have a very good marriage. We did go thru some rocky times 7 years ago, but it only made us stronger. We've been married 11+ years and have been together for 16.