Does anybody no how to persuade family to go on DCL?

[jazstar87]

After me and my parents and sister went on our first disney cruise, we saw a lot of big family groups and we thought how fun that would be to bring are whole family. I know that people on my mom side of the family will be there in a second, but my dad side kinda of Hesitant of going and also we think that they don't want to pay the money ( even though they buy 30,000$- 50,000$ cars). Also my uncle and my aunt said that his friend said that Disney not for kids mad: know who belives that). This also happen last year when we got good rates at AKL, my aunt and uncle kept telling us that they were going until a month before we left because my two 4 and 5 yr old cousins were acting up ( yeah right, they always blame it on them). Then a month after we got back they told us that they were going to florida (not to any disney parks). This made us mad because we thought it was us and it also confused us be we thought " Why don't they like disney?". So, Can anyone please help me with Problem? My Mom (the true disney fan in my family) is dying to bring them on a Disney vacation.. Please Help!

 

[Sunfleur]

Let's see. What I did was take my young cousin with me and my family. We had a great time. When her family came to pick her up, none of us could stop talking and giggling. Now we've got a cruise booked in a couple of months and they're going.

I think they got jealous of all the fun we had, and it didn't hurt that my dear cousin was nagging them to take her back.


Oh and the best part. My family gets two Disney vacations.

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

Good morning jazstar87.

My Mom (the true disney fan in my family) is dying to bring them on a Disney vacation

Sometimes it is best to "let sleeping dogs lie." Concerning your Aunt & Uncle, this seems to be one of those times...

 

[webray]

I agree, just let it go. We have been trying to get our family to visit disney for our whole married life...they wonder why we would rather go there than visit them in the cold midwest...lol.

I wonder...lol.

 

[jazstar87]

I guess i do have to give up on them, but my other Aunt, after watching our home videos of the cruise and seeing how much fun we were having, suggested (spelling?) that we can go down on the cruise for me and my cousin's HS graduation party, I am so hoping this will happen...
and maybe my aunt (that i was telling you guys) and uncle will come around and join us.

Thanks for your input!

 

[tezb]

When you figure it out, let me know! No luck here...either they get seasick or just don't want to go...too expensive. We've given up and just do our own thing...

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I am sort of in the same situation as your mom. I LOVE Disney, and want to bring everyone! LOL. I just don't understand it when people don't love it like me.

My brother passed away unexpectantly on Father's Day. Some of my other siblings had not seen him in 3+ years, even though he lived 10 miles away. Just one of those things where you take life for granted. There is always tomorrow, right? NOT. So, I decided it was time to get the family together for a big vacation. A family reunion. I want the DCL because of all the kids. Some of my siblings are all for it and excited, and others say why spend all that money when we can take another cruise for less? Well, IMO, no other cruise caters to children the way Disney does. So, at first I was upset, and trying to convince them, even consider switching cruise lines if it kept everyone togther, but then I decided if they don't want Disney, it is THEIR loss. So I am going to book it for whomever want's to go, and leave it at that. If I forced them to go, I would only hear complaining the whole time, so they can just stay home.

I am sorry your Aunt and Uncle are not Disney fans, but don't let it bother you. Tell your mom it is no use....maybe you can take your cousins and leave the grumps at home?

 

[disny4ever]

and then let everyone else make up their own minds. Just give them the dates and who ever shows up have the time of your life
with the part of the family who wants to be there with everyone else. You can not force fun on those who do not know what fun is !!!!

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

You can not force fun on those who do not know what fun is !!!!

Yes. It's like serving caviar at Dennys...

 

[eye R.N.]

DH and I will have our silver anniversary vow renewal on the Magic. At this point I've let everyone, family and friends know the date. If they show up great, if they don't it's their loss.

I am responsible for my immediate families happiness. I gave up on making the extended family happy years ago.

 

[crisi]

My sister and her husband have friend with a house in Hawaii they will rent to us cheap. On the beach in Maui. Close to a beautiful golf course. They really want the whole family to go to Maui for a reunion.

I don't want to go.

1. I don't enjoy the beach. Beach vacations aren't my thing.

2. Unlike my other siblings, I have children. So I have to fly not two but four people to Hawaii - and expensive proposition. And Hawaii isn't much of a children's destination.

3. Hawaii involves about ten hours on an airplane for us. With preschoolers.

4. We have a Disney trip scheduled in October, and a DCL trip scheduled in Feburary. We have a trip next weekend to Wisconsin for a wedding. We have future trips sketched in back to Disney (we are DVC members) as well as trips planned in our heads to the East Coast, San Fransisco, Grand Canyon, Mamouth Cave, London, Amsterdam and Korea. That takes up a lot of our vacation time and dollars - and all of these places have more meaning to our part of the family than Hawaii.

5. We love to golf, but are real hackers. A beautiful expensive course is wasted on our skills. Plus, we wouldn't be playing much golf with the kids in tow.

We've come to a compromise destination - we think the Carribean someplace. We can get their cheaper than Hawaii with less of a flight. The resort won't be as nice, but will be just as cheap. We can find someplace with lots of golf. That means that we can shorten the trip as well - four days of family togetherness is plenty - but if you are going to bother to fly all the way to Hawaii, we all feel we'd need to make it a full week.

I'm telling you this so you can see the other side of the argument with a destination you may not be as invested in. If I were to be "talked into" going to Hawaii and spending about $5-10,000 to get my family there, feed them, and have somewhere to stay - when Hawaii isn't on my family priority list for vacations or money (I'd rather drive a nice car than go to Hawaii), and then had the lousy time I anticipate (a hellish flight with small children, followed by days sitting on the beach (ick) and watching other people play golf while I watch my children - it would take a lot of effort NOT to hold it against my sister. Not the bonding experience she likely envisions.

By the way, this doesn't mean I don't know what "fun" is, just that my idea of fun and my sister's idea of fun is somewhat different. I'm sure jazstar's relatives have great ole heaps of fun in their own way - maybe they are downhill skiiers who can't understand why anyone would spend their time or money at Disney instead of Breckinridge.

If you are really set on the idea, go for a cheap three day cruise to minimize the "time and money" arguments. Pick a time of year when the rates are low and begin canvassing with "we could do this with as little as $xxx for the cruise per person." They can then upsell themselves into a different time of year of a veranda. But unless you are willing to treat everyone to the cruise (and even then - they have the time argument) their time and money is theirs to spend as they wish.