Do your parents & your SO/Spouse's parents get along?

[Kimberle]

My parents & dh's parents get along great. (They also get along very well with our siblings parents.) It sure makes holiday time easier!

 

[KelNottAt]

They only see each other about once or twice a year , so it's a pretty good bet they'll be friendly and polite. They're all so different that I'm sure they would never pick each other as friends if it weren't DH & I being married.

There was one "rough spot" between my DMand my DFIL. It happened at our wedding reception in 1990. DFIL made a pass at DM. He had one drink too many, she was offended, but handled it well without making a sceen (during or after). It never came up again, never happened again, and everyone (who knows about it - DMIL doesn't) acts like it never happened.

It's pretty easy to keep things peaceful when 2 are in NJ, 2 are in FL, and 1 is in NC.

 

[jennyl772003]

The few times they have been together, they got along just fine.

They are about as different as people can be though. For the occasional family get togethers they are fine, but they will never really be "friends".

 

[popeyeohoh]

Of course, my dh is a likable guy.

 

[nucpharm29]

DH gets along with my parents fine--but DH's parents are so different from mine that I don't think they'll ever be "friends" My mom is one who could carry on a conversation with a brick wall, so if DMIL and my mom were closer geographically speaking they might be friends, but my dad is a self-confessed asocial person, so he doesn't have many friends anyway--and he likes it that way.

 

[kilee]

My dh gets along better w/ my parents than his own parents. As for his mom and her longterm bf (dh's dad is someone we only have contact w/ once every couple years) well my mom handles all of my MIL's financial issues and such. My mom is a bank manager and insurance broker. Well, MIL has used that to full affect. Problem is it embarasses dh. She bounces checks left and right- and then goes to my mom to have ALL the fee's reversed. My mom does it out of respect for my dh. Anyhow, my mom handles my MIL and MIL's BF in a very professional manner.


Now my sister's inlaws- well my parents and me and my family get together w/ them all the time. They are the nicest people. It's gotten to the point my son thinks of them as his grandparents too.

 

[RadioNate]

not really, but it is better each year. My DH's parents are pretty much loners. In 10 years I've never met any 'friends' of theirs. They are not vvery social and can be quite snobby. My parents, while college educated, are from a blue collar area and are those kind of people. My mom was a teacher and my dad was a college professor but their friends were union guys and workers at the steel mills.

My inlaws are both PhDs who insist on being called "Dr" whereas my dad, also a PhD would never want someone to call him "Dr" because he isn't a medical professional.

My family is outgoing and the inlaws stick to themselves so there have been some issues over the years. Their first meeting was bad. My mother was terribly offended because they didn't really say anything or bring a hostess gift. Our wedding was terrible between the familys. And the first holiday together was pretty stressful. But last Christmas it was better. I think after 7 years they've realized that they are stuck with eachother. MIL drank a lot and opened up. And before she even arrived, I told my mother I wouldn't listen to her complaints about perceived rudeness.

In fairness to my inlaws they don't mean to be rude. That is just how they are and I think if they knew people preceived them that way they would be upset. I also know my mom is overly sensitative about things. She's offended when they don't send her a Christmas card when we don't get one either. She's starting to learn though and things are getting better.

 

[Beth76]

No. They haven't seen each other since my first baby shower, 5 years ago. And then before that they've only seen each other at my bridal shower and wedding. It's not that they don't get along, just that DH's family lives 4+ hours away and they never visit.

 

[Disney Doll]

My parents and DH's parents got along fine when DH's parents were alive.

They socialized at the various family events. They liked each other. They sort of "knew" each other from when they were kids. My father was a policeman as was DH's uncle, so they were many "connections". They all knew many of the same people etc.

 

[Maleficent13]

The few times they have been together, they got along just fine.

They are about as different as people can be though. For the occasional family get togethers they are fine, but they will never really be "friends".

Exactly.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Well, my Dad can get along fine with pretty much everyone (and FIL, while alive was the same way). But my MIL and my Mom are oil and water -- and both of them are in the wrong, equally so.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

My mom and my ILs get along too well. My father is deceased. My ILs knew my father well.

They go out to eat together. If one of our kids has a game, my ILs will bring my mother. My MIL calls my mother at least 2 times a week. Sometimes I get the feeling they talk about ME! My mother loves to cook and she takes them cakes and casseroles.

My mother and MIL are both one of 12 children. They have a lot in common and enjoy each other's company. Its a good thing!

Lori

 

[bicker]

I sometimes wonder what it would have been like, if my parents and my wife's parents had ever met. (Her parents were deceased before we met.) I think they probably wouldn't have been close friends. What's interesting is that I think my mother would have liked to have met them, and still today wants to meet my wife's remaining aunts, but I'm not sure she'd appreciate true Southern hospitality, once she actually experiences it.

 

[Ava83]

My parents and my inlaws are (no joke) planning their third vacation together this summer (alaska cruise) They talk all the time, visit etc. There is much love there!

Corey and I love it!

 

[LadyTrampScamp&Angel]

Wow, that's nice for those of you that families get along so well

Our parents get along great because they never see each other! LOL, I think the only time they've been together was 12 years ago when we got married!

Our familes are scattered all over the country so they don't run into each other much!

 

[Disney Ontario]

Hi You would not believe it but, both our parents were and are best friends since the two couples got married. Over 50 years. They all live out in the country just around the corner from each other. So both our parents live 10-15 minutes away from us. My family was even up to Dhs families cottage before we even started dating.

 

[SleepyMom]

My Mom and DH's mom only saw each other 3 times in the 15 years we have been together (MIL passed away last year). First time they met was the day DH and I got married (it was only my 3rd time seeing MIL), the next time was youngest DD's baptism and the third time was for oldest DD's HS graduation. They got along during those times, but I doubt they would have ever been friends.

DH's step-dad though got along great with my family, he often came and stayed with us (without MIL) and enjoyed visiting with my family. He passed away in 2002.

 

[Kimberle]

My parents and my inlaws are (no joke) planning their third vacation together this summer (alaska cruise) They talk all the time, visit etc. There is much love there!

Corey and I love it!

Wow! That's very cool!