Do your kids get rewarded for good report cards?

[The Mystery Machine]

Really just verbal praise. We might go out to eat to celebrate their acheivement.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

One semester she was having a little trouble in science (mostly from not applying herself) so we told her that if she could raise her grade from a C to an A she could go to Build A Bear. After the trip to BAB I told her that now we knew the truth and she would have to keep up the good grades

I said I didn't pay for grades, but I have done this sort of thing before. When my oldest was in I think 3rd grade or so, all her grades were good, but she had a so-so grade in "speaking". Bottom line is that she was shy and had a hard time raising her hand, volunteering info, making speeches, etc. So we told her if she brought that grade up to an A we would pay her (I forgot how much, but a lot, maybe $20?). My thinking was that whenever she was feeling shy she would think about that money and not be so soft-spoken and afraid to volunteer. Worked like a charm and she brought the grade up. I'll have to ask my other kids, but I don't think that I've done that any other time.

 

[Horizons16]

No rewards for good grades and no punishments for bad...just my praise and/or disapointment. With my older child this is enough. I don't know about the youngest yet cause she's in a school w/ no grades.

I also don't really care that much about grades.

My parents did the same with me. Now that im in college, we agreed however that if i get below a C in any of my courses I have to pay them for the class. Im paying to the college to take that class, if i get low then i pay my parents too... never a problem though.

 

[luvmydogs]

No monetary awards for ds10's all A's, but we'll take him out to eat at his favorite restaurant (and it's one less meal I have to cook ).

I think books for good grades is an *awesome* idea!

 

[minkydog]

Yes, I reward for good grades particularly if I see that child realy working their tail off to improve. My oldest has always struggled with school, so anything above a C was definitely rewardable with pizza, magazines, or a trip to Blockbuster . DD12 is a better student, but I still reward her with things like "Girls Night Out"(just the two of us) for a job well-done. I figure school is their job, but just like I get rewards for doing my job well, they should to. I don't punish unless the bad grades are a direct result of some slacking, like being on the computer when they should be working. Whatever caused the bad grades gets canned until the grade improves and homework time is reinforced.

 

[2buzzboys]

my ds gets to choose the restraunt of his choice and we go alone. Sometimes a movie afterwards if something good is out. I think I enjoy it more than him since I get to spend time alone with him.

 

[monarchsfan16]

My mom always got us a movie or a cd that we wanted (she still does for my sister). I remember feeling really guilty the semester that I got a C+ in AP bio, and when my mom brought a cd home for me I told her to take it back. She told me no way, because she knew I was trying my hardest. I've always been really hard on myself, pushing myself to get good grades. The grades are certainly a big enough reward for me, but mom has always felt that we deserved something extra. Heck, when I was home over Thanksgiving she got me a couple movies "just because".

 

[Skatermom23]

I've told DD that school is her job--the books are a reward for doing a good job and to encourage her enjoyment of reading and learning.

So, do you reward your kids for good grades and, if so, how?

I do reward for grades and they get bonuses for straight A's! I tell my kids that going to school is their job and when they get good grades they will get rewarded for it. I do not give an allowance so this basically takes that place and makes sure that they always have at least a B+ or higher. Mine are in 7th and 9th and it works for them and us!

 

[Bob Slydell]

So, do you reward your kids for good grades and, if so, how?

Nope, just beat them when they do poorly.

 

[Megster]

I never got money or anything, usually just a lot of praise. School was pretty easy for me so it was sort of expected that I would be getting As. Sometimes if I was working really hard and did well my mom would buy me Phish Food ice cream. It was a real treat for me. Now that I'm in college I just get a lot of praise. I do have the agreement with my parents though that if I get a C+ or below in any of my classes I have to pay them back for that class.

 

[MoniqueU]

We have 3 kids so we let the one with the best report card pick where we go to dinner and we go and celebrate. I may change this around a bit or let each of them pick a different restaurant and we go out more then once because I have one that is consistently getting a better report card then the others and I don't want to minimize the others accomplishments either. I like to go out to dinner so we can spend some quality time as a family. I don't think I would feel comfortable paying them a set amount for grades though I know some people do.

 

[MamaLema]

We absolutely, positively DO NOT reward for report cards. DH's parents did that this with him and his brother, a system THEY thought worked out great. Well, it only worked out great for DH's brother. DH had to work really, really hard in school. Same with DD - she doesn't love school.
DH's parents asked once if they could reward for report cards and DH said no way, that caused enough emotional damage in my life already. They were shocked and surprised, had no idea he felt that way. He explained that DD's "job" is school. Her job is to do her best - this is what we expect of her. She is ADD - inattentive type (though they do not know this).
She gets plenty of surprises during the year. Just not as rewards for doing her school work. She also gets praise, praise and more praise.

We are in the same boat. One son gets straight A's without effort and the other one struggles every day just to get by. I think it's easier to reward for report cards when you have one child only. If I rewarded one DS every report card, the other one would resent it so much because he really does try.

 

[Feralpeg]

We always go out to eat to celebrate DD's report card. She always gets good grades, so it is just a once a quarter thing for us. There is no special number of As required, but ususally she gets all As.

 

[dismom9761]

We have always just gone out to dinner to celabrate but we may change this.My oldest child gets all A's with little effort.My DS8 works extremely hard for his grades.We would like to reward him in some manner.

 

[NMAmy]

We are in the same boat. One son gets straight A's without effort and the other one struggles every day just to get by. I think it's easier to reward for report cards when you have one child only. If I rewarded one DS every report card, the other one would resent it so much because he really does try.

I think you've got a point, MamaLema. Since I just have one child, I don't have to worry about this. I know when I was in school, it was really easy for me and I didn't have to work anywhere near as hard as my sister did, who didn't do as well. She's still a hard worker at grades and got her Ph.D. a couple of years ago.

My parents would usually just make a special meal for both of us incorporating both of our favorite foods.

 

[NMAmy]

Nope, just beat them when they do poorly.

How's that work?

 

[Bob Slydell]

How's that work?

Pretty good so far -- no bad grades yet!!

Oh, did I fail to mention that the boys are 5 years old and 7 months old? No grades = no bad grades.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Pretty good so far -- no bad grades yet!!

Oh, did I fail to mention that the boys are 5 years old and 7 months old? No grades = no bad grades.

Enjoy is while it lasts!!! I would bet a dollar that you were the class clown growing up, right?

 

[lindalinda]

I do give my son rewards for good grades. He struggled last year and I decided he needed motivation. I have always given him some sort of small reward, with extra bonus's for bringing up a grade. This year he has made excellent grades, A+s with only one B ( and it was a 91.7) . Kids respond to different things but my son is very goal oriented and competitive ( he actually learned to read by himself at age 4 by playing Reader Rabbit on the computer, he just wanted to win really badly). I have promised him a doooozy reward for straight A's tho. A dirt bike. He is working his behind off and I hope he achieves it.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Enjoy is while it lasts!!! I would bet a dollar that you were the class clown growing up, right?

Moi???

Why would you say that???

Actually, the only time DS1 does get in some trouble in school -- it's for talking when he shouldn't, so yeah, he's going to likely be like Dad.

But hey, I turned out ok (depending on who you ask )