do your kids get broken promises from Dad?

[imgoingtodisney]

Wish I knew how to fish - cast a line, put the fish on the hook cos then Id take the kid fishing.
DH once again told DS to be ready at 530am to go fishing. Well Im not waking DS up until DH gets his butt out of bed and it's now almost 630
(Its not just w/fishing)

 

[Buckalew]

Nope, not usually. I suppose it has happened but DH is extremely good at keeping his word. He has this belief that a man is only as good as his word.
He takes DD hunting, fishing, adventure hiking, bike riding, out to eat, plays basketball, baseball, frisbee,etc. The list goes on and on. I am not sure which one of them likes it more. LOL

I hope your DH wakes up and smells the coffee before it is too late. kids grow up fast. Soon they want to be with their friends more than parents anyway. It takes effort, really, because we are all tired and stressed from work and just everyday living. But I think kids appreciate the effort and feel valued by their parents when their parents spend time with them and keep their promises.

OK, I'm done now.

 

[Marla Hellwig]

Hate to upset you but I wish that my husband dd's dad was still around to make a promise and then break it.


besides there is always a alarm clock to get him up

 

[aahmom1]

An hour isn't breaking a promise, not going at all would be breaking the promise. There is a difference.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

so? did dh get up and take ds out for the day?

 

[RUDisney]

I gave my DH the "cat's in the cradle" speech this morning. He's been doing things with the kids since then. Sometimes he gets caught up in his own stuff and forgets that they won't always be around when he's ready to play.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

my girls are already starting to not want to hang with their parents. I can still get a lot of mother-daughter time with my alomst-11-year-old, but my older dd, who is 12 1/2, wants to be "independent". they grow up so fast, don't they?

 

[NHAnn]

Originally posted by Buckalew
. kids grow up fast. Soon they want to be with their friends more than parents anyway. It takes effort, really, because we are all tired and stressed from work and just everyday living. But I think kids appreciate the effort and feel valued by their parents when their parents spend time with them and keep their promises.

Amen to that!!

And it may motivate your DH to follow through on this (or these other activities you mention) if you threaten (then follow through) to do it yourself. He'll miss out on the fun (and the chance to be the expert) and you and your DS will have fun putzing around yourself......then I'll bet your DH will want to get more involved

 

[nativetxn]

Barb? Did your son get to go fishing after all? It doesn't really matter what time he gets to go, as long as he goes fishing, right?

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Yes the boys did finally get to go fishing. They left about 6pm- got home at almost 8pm. I think they did have fun as they have never been gone that long fishing. I honestly think this is a better time for them. Gave me time to clean the 3 bathrooms.
I took DH to the local swimming home (Buffums) and to Purgatory Chasm to climb/hike and they had a hands-on activity w/pond life.


(DH did tell a friend this afternoon that he was just too hungover to get out of bed early this morn)

 

[dalepool]

I'm going to share a fishing secret---Don't tell a soul.

Fish will take bait in the afternoon and evening as well as early in the morning. Just remember the fish will bite if the bait is working. For me the best times i have had on the lake --or river--were early evening or late afternoon. OK NOW THE SECRET------FISH DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL TIME---DON'T TELL ANYONE.

Patty

 

[off2disney]

My ex was always promising to do things with our DD's but never got around to it -- so I took them fishing, or camping, or whatever we had planned.

 

[Chrissi Pooh]

My DD is 4 and her father lies to her almost on a weekly basis and doesn't see a problem with it.

I do have to disagree though, I feel that if you tell the child or anyone else that you will be there at a certain time to do something then you need to show at that time or at least call and let them know. To me, if you say something and don't follow through on it (or call and make other arrangements) then i consider that lying, and to a young child all they know is daddy didn't tell the truth.