Do your children's friends call you Mom?

[Sandy V.]

Its a wonderful compliment that they feel comfortable enough with you to refer to you as Mom.

That's how I feel too. Several of my teens' friends call me Mom, and I love it. It's not disrepectful to me in the slightest.

 

[Cantw8]

My teenaged children's close friends call me MOM. The rest of their friends call me by my first name. I am perfectly cool with this and do not take it as a sign of disrespect at all....I think it is quite flattering and I wouldn't want it any other way.

 

[NMAmy]

Let me be clear--I don't find it disrespectful to be called Mom by dd's friends. I just find it weird...well, and uncomfortable. I dislike it but I know the girls that do it mean it as a compliment.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

My best friend calls my mom "mom" and i do that to his mom as well...We have been friends since we were 12 and he is pretty much like my family

 

[Andrea]

And I really dislike it when doctors refer to me as "Mom" when I take dd in. Our regular doctor doesn't do this (I'm also her patient so she refers to me by name) but I've noticed it a lot at the ER or Urgent Care. I realize that a lot of moms have different names from their kids (actually, dd and I have different last names) but I would much rather they call me Ms. WrongLastName than Mom. I'm not their mom--although sometimes they seem young enough to be my kids.

we do that all the time where i work at. We will say like adjust the kids glasses ( i work at an eye doctor) and we will say ok done, now look at mom and make sure there ok.

p.s a lot of times we dont know the peoples name. They just walk in and say can someone adjust our eyeglasses.

 

[lulugirl]

Most of Dd's(6) friends call me by my first name. I despise being called "Miss Beth" IMO respect is how you treat someone, NOT how you address them.

 

[PooohBear]

IMO respect is how you treat someone, NOT how you address them.

Very well said !

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

I've never heard of this before?! Personally, I'd be shocked if any of my kids friends called me mom. WHAT??

Maybe some of this is regional as well. When I was growing up, we called all adults Mr. or Mrs. whatever....

In this area, the kids generally still follow this. Almost all of my kids friends call me Mrs. D..... It did seem weird at first, but I'm used to it now, and anything else would seem odd. For me, kids calling me by my first name is ok, but when I was younger that was truly a sign of disrespect. I still have parents of my friends that I refer to as Mrs....Whatever...

I think it depends on what the norm is in your part of the country.

 

[minniecarousel]

Can't remember when it started, but my DS26 has a few friends he's known now for 20 years, that call me "Mom" - not that I see them very often anymore. I was always flattered that they called me Mom. They called my DH "Coach" - since he coached most of them at some point. They tend to refer to him by his first name now. None of my younger DSs friends called me Mom.

 

[Michelina]

I don't have kids yet but when I do, I hope that their parents introduce me to them as Mrs. Lastname. At which point, I would probably tell them that it's ok to call me by my first time.
I think that it shows a lack of respect for younger people to address older people by their first name right off the bat as if they were their peers. I have elderly neighbors and I call them Mr & Mrs Lastname. If they asked me to call them by their first names I would but I would feel weird about it.

 

[GoofieRuthie]

All of my kids friends have always refered to me as "mom". The call my husband "Big Phil". The kids are 20 and 17 now, but it has always been this way. For years I have fed them, they have slept over countless times, spend summers in our pool, vacationed with them, and just spent time talking, I love these kids. They become like family. I think we all know the difference between "Mom" to your own kids and "Mom" to their friends. Its a wonderful compliment that they feel comfortable enough with you to refer to you as Mom.

I was beginning to think I was the only one that felt this way. DD13 has one friend that practically lives with us. We take her almost everywhere we go. She calls me Ruth, but jokes and calls me mom. I don't mind it at all. I am honored that she thinks so highly of me. I think of her as my long lost daughter and joke that I'm going to start claiming her on my taxes. DDs other friends barely even speak to me. I guess that's why I love this child so much. She's so outgoing and makes herself at home here.

I feel odd being called Ms. Lastname or Miss Ruth. I'd rather them just call me Ruth or Ruthie.

 

[Barb]

Sure do! And, I love it! I, too, feel honored that they think that highly of me. I've always welcomed all the kids to our home and tried to make them feel like this can always be their second home. I think I've accomplished that. In fact, one of my son's friends just recently told me he loved me (in that mom sort of way) and I was so touched. It's a good feeling to know you're a special part of someone's life.

 

[Nancyg56]

When my kids were teens they used to bring their friends around, we always seemed to have a houseful. They would hang here, have meals, did the dishes after, that kind of thing. Now we were homebodies and always attended the school things so I took their friends with me, rooted for them, attended their award ceremonies. I found that the ones who did not have too much interaction with their own parents called me Mom because I was there. My kids did not mind, and I was glad that I was able to provide a surrogate when their own Mom was not able to be there.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

I don't really care what my kids' friends call me. Most use either "mom" or "Mrs Lastname", other than the neighbors who pick up "firstname" from their parents. "Firstname" is my preference, but I don't care enough to correct anyone. I think it's cute when they call me "mom", because to me, it means they like me and are comfortable enough with me to do so. I always called my best friend's parents mom and dad, it just meant I was fond of them, so I take it as a compliment. I think it has to come from the child, though. I would never tell a child to call me mom.

 

[Pooh67_68]

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I am glad to hear that its not a dying art.

The parents of my sister's best friend were always called mom and dad, I even sent them a Christmas card every year and put mom & dad inside, and they never had a problem with it.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

some do some dont but the ENTIRE Varsity Wrestling team does call me Mom . Thier idea but I adore each and every one of them . I will miss them next year, my son is graduating in 2 months : ) They are loosing thier team Mom and thier Captian they are almost as sad as I am .