Do You Visit Relative's Gravesites?

[Spinneret]

only on their birthdays

 

[tvguy]

Yes.

 

[dizneegirl]

Nope.

 

[Meriweather]

too far away

 

[Ellie008]

No. I haven't in the past and do not plan to in the future.
For myself, I would not want/expect anyone to visit my burial site after I have passed either.
Remember them, yes. Visit their decaying body? No.

 

[mumto3girls]

Very very rarely.

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

Usually I don’t. I live across the country from most of my family members. But my mom passed away this past October. Yesterday was her first heavenly birthday, and I was only 45 minutes away from her gravesite with my dad and sister on some other family business, so we all went to wish her a Happy Birthday. It’s been a very tough first year without her.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

Not very often

 

[focusondisney]

Usually I don’t. I live across the country from most of my family members. But my mom passed away this past October. Yesterday was her first heavenly birthday, and I was only 45 minutes away from her gravesite with my dad and sister on some other family business, so we all went to wish her a Happy Birthday. It’s been a very tough first year without her.

Very sorry for your loss. It was a year in May that my mom passed. Unfortunately, it hasn’t gotten any easier.

 

[kdonnel]

Nope.

My parents are somewhere in the basement, still in the plastic bags and cardboard boxes they came in from the crematorium. I guess I need to figure out what to do with them before my kids have to deal with them.

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

Very sorry for your loss. It was a year in May that my mom passed. Unfortunately, it hasn’t gotten any easier.

Thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss as well. I know it’s part of the cycle of life, but it hurts nonetheless.

 

[ncc1701]

Yes. We visit my Dad & my Grandparents and DH's Parents & Sister. Usually every couple of months. Both cemeteries are about 30 to 45 minutes away. Usually stop for lunch afterwards. Something all of them would give a .

 

[Kimkimba]

Yes! My 3 favorite dead people- my parents and BIL. My dd16 actually is practicing driving at the cemetery. I usually go about once a month. I make sure their flags are okay (veterans) and sometimes take flowers.

I’ve done a lot of ancestry and visited many cemeteries. I find cemeteries to be the most peaceful places on Earth.

 

[CGB]

We make a special trip back to my hometown each spring to place new flowers on the graves (my parents, grandparents, and brother, as well as aunts/uncles) in time for the church's decoration day. If I didn't, my family that still lives in town would be calling me to see if they need to do the flowers for me. In my dad's familial line, I'm the oldest now so I consider it my responsibility.

DH's family is here and we live within three miles of his father's gravesite. We meet his sister every Memorial Day to visit and place flowers. We drive by sometimes, just to check in.

 

[Boopuff]

Never saw my great-grands graves, I knew where both my maternal grandparents were buried, only there day of the funeral. My dads ashes were scattered. My mom was cremated, and is interred in a small plot next to her church (half way across the country)

 

[dvcgirl67]

No. It gives me no comfort to go to a graveyard to visit a casket or box of ashes in the ground or a slot. I have memories and photos when I want to think of a relative who has passed. Some, I thankfully don't think about at all.

And for whatever reason, I wouldn't want the ashes of one of my human family members in my home....thankfully none of have requested that we take them. I do however have my first three dogs here with me. Even that is kind of of weird....it's just another thing you do because that's what everyone else does.

 

[CynBeth]

It is a tradition in Judaism to visit the graves of family members around our High Holidays in the fall so that is usually when I go.

 

[antmaril]

Yes.

 

[mylilnikita]

No. Most of moms family has a family burial plot about 20 minutes from where I live but I don’t go there the last time I went was to spread her ashes after she gave her body to science.
There is no need for me to go there because only their “vessels” are there not their spirit.
Now back when I was growing up it was a thing every Sunday after church to go to the family plot on the grounds.

 

[mrsstats79]

Yes, we visit my parents and my father in law at Christmas, Easter, Fathers Day and Mothers Day. My Godparents are in the same cemetery as my parents so I do stop there also. My Dad said no one would ever visit.

DH and I have a plot in another cemetery but since we have no children and I know the nieces and nephews that live here would not visit a gravesite I am planning to be cremated and let them spread the ashes somewhere.