Do you think this was Wrong??

[TnKrBeLlA012]

My friend who lives across the street bought two coach purses for 48.00. They retail for 198.00. I think they had a sale on them. She tells me to come over and look at them. I tell her they are really cute. She says she is going to give one to her niece for her birthday and keep one for herself. The whole time she keeps saying she is not sure about the one for herself. She thinks it looks to young. It does. I tell her that if she does not want it I will buy it off her for my teenage daughter. The next day she tells me her niece does not think she wants the purse. I then tell her I will buy both. She says I can have the one but she will wait on her niece. I ask her over and over if she is sure she wants to give hers up. She says yes. I bring it home and my daughter says she wants it. The next day she calls me at work and says she forgot that her and her sister-in-law were going to go in on the purse for the niece?? I don't know where that came from. I tell her fine since she has the one purse. I ask her what the problem is. She then says she wants to keep the one she gave me for herself. For one week she has said she does not want the purse. The sister-in law has a site on ebay. I believe the sister-in-law told her they could make money selling them on ebay. The thing that makes me so mad is she lied. I brought the purse back and cancelled our lunch date with a lie. (I was taking her out for her birthday) I could not do that to a friend. I listen to her every problem. She had just been screwed by her sister-in-law. Her son who is three is horrible but I even tolerate him. That is what friends do. I think this will put a dent in our friendship.Do you think I am wrong? I just think the whole incident was not right.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

No I don't think you were wrong but I think what your "friend" did was wrong and tacky. It would bother me too.

 

[MBeds]

Do you know the sister in laws website? If so, keep an eye on it and see if the purse shows up - If it does, i would say something to her for sure...

 

[CEDmom]

Did you pay her for the purse when you took it home or did you just borrow it to see if your DD wanted it? If you paid I'd say sorry but you're not returning it. If you didn't pay I'd be inclined to give it back but I'd still be PO'd. I definitely would call her on the ebay thing. At the very least she should be upfront about it if she really values your friendship.

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

Do you know the sister in laws website? If so, keep an eye on it and see if the purse shows up - If it does, i would say something to her for sure...

Funny you say that. I had my daughter look on ebay to see if she sees anything. I will check tonight. This way she has more time to put it on.

 

[eclectics]

I think a true friend would put friendship over money. I would never do something like that to a friend of mine but people get weird when money is involved. If you think it will really affect your friendship, tell her how you feel. If not, put it behind you and chalk it up to experience. Never buy stuff from friends or relatives!

 

[mytwotinks]

Ask her why she isn't carrying it every time you see her for the rest of your life! That would really bug me too. I have recently given up on a "friend" that took and took and took but was always very hesitant to give. I don't care if she could make money on it. If she had offered it to your daughter it was too late.

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

Did you pay her for the purse when you took it home or did you just borrow it to see if your DD wanted it? If you paid I'd say sorry but you're not returning it. If you didn't pay I'd be inclined to give it back but I'd still be PO'd. I definitely would call her on the ebay thing. At the very least she should be upfront about it if she really values your friendship.

I think what bothers me the most is just last week her sister-in-law took some dishes that my friend found at a garage sale. She told her she would try and sell them on ebay for her. She than changed her mind and kept all the money. Did not give my friend a dime. She called me all upset. (The same night Chris was voted off Idol) So I felt her pain at that time. I listened to her for an hour about the whole incident. I told her it was wrong what the sister-in-law did to her. I guess this is the thanks I get. Another problem is we walk every night. I wish this would not have happened.

 

[momrek06]

I think that was really wrong of your "friend"!!! Listen, life is way too short.

This is what I preach to my sons daily. I would RATHER have ONE good friend in this world, that is there for me 24/7 than a BOAT-LOAD that will do this and that to "our friendship"...(stuff that hurts us)!!!

What I am saying, OP, is re-think this relationship. I am NOT saying "kick her completely to the curb".....but definitely CURTAIL allot of activities with her...ALLOT!!!! These type of "friends" do stuff like this over and over again!
If you don't have a problem in a relationship with someone of this nature than fine accept her as she is...and be prepared to be hurt again. I am aware she lives across the street so you WILL run into her. Smile, be cordial but LIMIT all activities AND OP...IF by chance you see that purse on EBAY then that would be the last time I would seriously have anything more to do with her! And I am also sorry for your daughter who thought she was getting a new COACH handbag!

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

I think that was really wrong of your "friend"!!! Listen, life is way too short.

This is what I preach to my sons daily. I would RATHER have ONE good friend in this world, that is there for me 24/7 than a BOAT-LOAD that will do this and that to "our friendship"...(stuff that hurts us)!!!

What I am saying, OP, is re-think this relationship. I am NOT saying "kick her completely to the curb".....but definitely CURTAIL allot of activities with her...ALLOT!!!! These type of "friends" do stuff like this over and over again!
If you don't have a problem in a relationship with someone of this nature than fine accept her as she is...and be prepared to be hurt again. I am aware she lives across the street so you WILL run into her. Smile, be cordial but LIMIT all activities AND OP...IF by chance you see that purse on EBAY then that would be the last time I would seriously have anything more to do with her! And I am also sorry for your daughter who thought she was getting a new COACH handbag!

You said exactly what my mom said. I would not have thought she would do this to me. I am really taking this hard.

 

[Daisy Duck 5]

You should keep your eye out for it to come up on ebay. If you have the money make sure you are the highest bidder and then buy it off ebay.

 

[momrek06]

You should keep your eye out for it to come up on ebay. If you have the money make sure you are the highest bidder and then buy it off ebay.

YES! Wouldn't that be something IF you won the BID???? She would be so embarrassed!

OP: Do you think these are real COACH purses or knock-offs??? The price is really low for COACH!

 

[Beth76]

I'm confused. You agreed to buy the one purse that she wanted for herself for your daughter. You brought it home. Then she tells you she wants it back. Did you pay for it already? Is it still in your possession or did you give it back? If you already paid for it, then you should keep it.

 

[va32h]

They've got to be fake. No way an authentic Coach bag sells for $48, much less two at that price.

Ebay is full of fake purses. Hopefully, the seller will get caught.

 

[anewvance]

I agree that the price sounds awfully low for an authentic Coach purse. It must be almost wallet like for that price? What does it look like? If she tries to sell a fake Coach on ebay it will get pulled.

Oh and I think what she did really was lousy... you don't do that to friends.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

I say, for goodness sake, don't lose a friendship over a small matter as a purse. Friendships are hard to come by. You can always buy a purse. I say to put this matter behind you and keep the friendship. Remember, "don't sweat the small stuff."

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

I agree that the price sounds awfully low for an authentic Coach purse. It must be almost wallet like for that price? What does it look like? If she tries to sell a fake Coach on ebay it will get pulled.

Oh and I think what she did really was lousy... you don't do that to friends.

The purse is real. Each purse is 48.00. It retailed for 198.00. The purse is called Patchwork Demi?? That is the name my daughter said it was. It is not a wallet. Much bigger. More the size for a young girl. She bought them both at Marshall Fields. They are real. That I did not question.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Okay certified COACH freak checking in here!!! are you even sure these are real? i have to agree with the others here. there is no WAY even on sale that a purse would be this cheap. UNLESS it's an outlet purse and usually the 48$ ones are the smaller sizes and usually just plain colors. OR is it a wristlet?

And i have to agree with Sheree Bobbins, it's a PURSE, don't lose a friendship over this. It's not worth it.

 

[MAKmom]

Ask her why she isn't carrying it every time you see her for the rest of your life! That would really bug me too. I have recently given up on a "friend" that took and took and took but was always very hesitant to give. I don't care if she could make money on it. If she had offered it to your daughter it was too late.

to funny! If you paid for it I would be really angry. If you did not give her the money I would let it slide.

 

[N.Bailey]

The purse is real. Each purse is 48.00. It retailed for 198.00. The purse is called Patchwork Demi?? That is the name my daughter said it was. It is not a wallet. Much bigger. More the size for a young girl. She bought them both at Marshall Fields. They are real. That I did not question.

If it helps any, I ran a google search on this particular bag on COMPLETED auctions at eBay and this is what I came up.

http://search.ebay.com/search/searc...00&fpos=16652&ftrt=1&ftrv=1&saprclo=&saprchi=

It looks like she's willing to jeopardize a friendship for this? Keep in mind, I doubt her SIL is going to list it for nothing either.

I can't imagine anyone would risk a friendship over this amount of money. IMO, she can't really be a true friend at all.

Keep an eye out on eBay, you just might be able to get it for less.

Edit: I'd delete this post but I'm afraid others may have seen it. Disregard what I said about the price on eBay, I wasn't checking completed auctions afterall. I had clicked on completed on Coach bags, but when I typed in the particular bag, it went back to live auctions and I didn't notice that.

Here are the completed ones, sorry about that.

http://search-completed.ebay.com/se...ftrt=1&ftrv=1&saprclo=&saprchi=&so=Show+Items