Do You Think This is a Bit Nervy?

[DawnCt1]

DH and I go to the same dentist. We see which ever dental hygienist is available, usually the same one, but that isn't always the case. Its a friendly conversation; obviously one way since its not possible to talk while having your teeth clean. We both go twice a year so its not like we have a "relationship".
Today, A, the dental hygienist calls. I am assuming its about rescheduling an appointment. She asked if she could talk to DH. I told her that he wasn't home. "Can I have his cell phone number then. My son is going to Africa in 10 days and I think he needs shots". I told her that he may need shots but that he needs to book an appointment at the travel clinic because that is where the "shots" are and he no longer handles the travel clinic. She said that she "knows" but wants to talk to him first. I told her that I never know when he is in a meeting so I don't call him at work but I would email him with her number although I am not sure when he will get the message.
I thought it was a bit nervy. I would never call her at home about a dental hygiene problem. I wouldn't call my dentist at home. I would leave a message at his service or answering machine. Its not like he is sick or its an emergency. Trips like this aren't usually planned at the last minute.

 

[luvmy3]

I think thats beyond nervy and downright rude. Also, she looked his file up specifically to obtain his home number for personal use, I'd be calling the Dentist she works for and complain.

 

[HM]

I think I'd also complain to the dentist.
You have every right to feel that call was unwarranted.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

I wouldn't give her the number. Shouldn't she be calling her own doctor or a travel clinic? That was very rude and well out of line IMO.

 

[momof1princess]

mmmm yeah, that's pretty nervy. in her position, i'd just call and make an appointment at the travel clinic. i'd give her the travel clinic's number and tell her DH doesn't handle that and the quickest way to get her son's shots is to call that number. no way i'd call my DH at work for something like that when i'd already given her the necessary info.

 

[DutchsMommy]

Agree it is out of line....but just to play the devil's advocate - did DH has an appt recently - maybe they talked about the trip and he said to just give him a call before hand if she had any questions? Just trying to think about possibilities....

 

[mickeywho?]

Could your husband have said to her "feel free to call me if you have questions" and then thought nothing of it? Just a thought. I would mention the call to him before calling the dentist about it. I would agree it's very unprofessional and rude otherwise.

 

[DawnCt1]

I think thats beyond nervy and downright rude. Also, she looked his file up specifically to obtain his home number for personal use, I'd be calling the Dentist she works for and complain.

Yeah, she did. That's a good point!

I think I'd also complain to the dentist.
You have every right to feel that call was unwarranted.

No, I won't mention it to the dentist. I wouldn't want her to lose her job or be disciplined for something that I can handle. It just seemed so inappropriate to me.

mmmm yeah, that's pretty nervy. in her position, i'd just call and make an appointment at the travel clinic. i'd give her the travel clinic's number and tell her DH doesn't handle that and the quickest way to get her son's shots is to call that number. no way i'd call my DH at work for something like that when i'd already given her the necessary info.

That's what I did. In fact, she had the number and called me any way! Did she think she was going to get a house call for her son!
I did email him but told him not to feel compelled to call. Now if her son were very sick and she needed to be pointed in the right direction, that would be one thing. He is always very willing to help outside of 'work'. He has done football physicals every year for kids who can't get to a doctor, but a trip to Africa?! Not the same.

 

[DawnCt1]

Agree it is out of line....but just to play the devil's advocate - did DH has an appt recently - maybe they talked about the trip and he said to just give him a call before hand if she had any questions? Just trying to think about possibilities....

No, he has learned not to do that long ago, because someone always calls.
He would have told her, if she mentioned it, to book an appointment at the travel clinic. She also knows that he doesn't handle that any more.

 

[Angelhalo]

Agree it is out of line....but just to play the devil's advocate - did DH has an appt recently - maybe they talked about the trip and he said to just give him a call before hand if she had any questions? Just trying to think about possibilities....

This was my first thought

 

[SNylund]

I thought you were going to say that she wanted his number to call him up to ask him out on a date or something.

 

[DawnCt1]

If she were one of my neighbors, I wouldn't think a thing of it. We live in a great neighborhood and have that kind of relationship with our neighbors. If something breaks and I can't fix it, I know that "A" can. If my lawn mower dies and I need to mow the lawn, I know that "B" would want me to help myself to his tool shed and borrow his. (He likes the neighbors' lawns mowed.). "C" acrossed the street is a retired high school principal. He also knows how to fix anything or trouble shoot a problem. I could go up and down most of the street and know I could count on any of my neighbors for anything. Conversely, they know they can call DH for anything. But this isn't like a neighbor.

 

[luvsJack]

I wouldn't have given her his number but I would give her number to him. Don't think I would get all bent out of shape about it. A lot of people like to talk to people the "know" (even if they don't really, personally know them) about stuff like that. Sounds like she trusts your husband and wants his opinion.

 

[BCV513]

I agree that it's very strange and nervy. Maybe she's worried about her son going to Africa, and she was looking for some reassurance from your husband?

 

[DawnCt1]

I wouldn't have given her his number but I would give her number to him. Don't think I would get all bent out of shape about it. A lot of people like to talk to people the "know" (even if they don't really, personally know them) about stuff like that. Sounds like she trusts your husband and wants his opinion.

I agree that it's very strange and nervy. Maybe she's worried about her son going to Africa, and she was looking for some reassurance from your husband?

That is why I would never report her to the dentist. She could be more worried than she is letting on and that may have triggered the phone call. I emailed her number to him, but I don't know if he will have time to call her or if he even got my email yet. I was a bit taken aback by the call but I was very nice to her. I didn't want to make her feel bad because she called.

 

[disykat]

Honestly, it's so inappropriate that my first thought would be that she is trying to open doors to get to know your husband on a more personal level.

 

[DawnCt1]

Honestly, it's so inappropriate that my first thought would be that she is trying to open doors to get to know your husband on a more personal level.

I must be really naive because that is the ONE thought that didn't even cross my mind. Not that my DH isn't good looking.....

 

[sbell111]

Isn't this something that you should be talking to your husband about?

Seems like there are three possibilities here:

• He mentioned that she could call if she had questions.
• He didn't mention that she could call and she is out of line.
• Worst. Cheater. Ever.

 

[jaminmd]

Honestly, it's so inappropriate that my first thought would be that she is trying to open doors to get to know your husband on a more personal level.

I was thinking the same thing!

I'd seriously feel like my privacy was violated. She may have had good intentions & it may be completely innocent, but I'd still bothered that she looked up my personal info & called me at home. At the very least it is unprofessional.

I certainly wouldn't call the dentist because I wouldn't want her to lose her job. If it happened again, I'd definitely talk to her about it.

 

[DawnCt1]

Isn't this something that you should be talking to your husband about?

Seems like there are three possibilities here:

• He mentioned that she could call if she had questions.
• He didn't mention that she could call and she is out of line.
• Worst. Cheater. Ever.

Actually there really is only one possibility, she overstepped. He doesn't give out his cell phone number and that is what she asked for. I will tell DH when he gets home. I am not calling him at work to bother him about this.