LightBurnsBlue
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Let me first properly say hello. 
I have posted mostly on the Theme Parks and Budget Boards, but I have posted a few times here. I am always entertained!
The question I posed in my post was sparked by a current situation between me, my boyfriend, and his new female work buddy. I would love to get an outsiders read of it to hear if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill or if I have a right to feel as suspicious as I'm feeling now.
My BF (25-works full time) and I (21 - college student) have been dating for three years. Until the last few months, we have been very serious about eachother and very much in love. Around Thanksgiving time we even looked at engagement rings because we were thinking about getting engaged when I graduate in May. In December, our relationship became very strained--my BF became very irritible and yelled at me for the smallest things (even other people close to me began complaining about his "short fuse").
I can't help but think that these problems are mostly due to his budding friendship with a girl he works with. They began hanging out in December (at first going out together with one other work friend to bowling or a bar, then just going by themselves) at a time when I was extremely busy with school. He always invited me, but he knew I was so bogged down with school that i couldn't go.
He is spending more and more time with this girl. She is 30 and married. At first, I felt secure with it b/c of that, but there have since been many red flags. One, she is married, but says her husband doesn't like to leave the house. So...she meets men online and has spent entire weekends with men she meets online. Two, she is always buying my BF lunches at work and treats from Starbucks. She also has given him several gifts (clothes).
Last week, two things happened that really made me suspicious of what is going one. After he got out of his night class, he went and saw a movie with her. I was not invited and did not hear about it until the next day. A few days later, he said he was going bowling with her at 6pm. I said I would like to go, but could not go until 9pm. He said no, b/c he did not want to stay out of late b/c he had to work the next day. It turns out that he did not get home until midnight--they bowled at 7pm, then went out to a salsa dancing bar at 9pm, and I was again not invited.
Sorry this is so long...but I wanted to be detailed. He says that they are "just friends." I am not sure if I believe that. I don't think they're having a physical affair, but I am worried that this woman wants out of her marriage and is trying to butter up my BF. Any thoughts?
I have posted mostly on the Theme Parks and Budget Boards, but I have posted a few times here. I am always entertained! The question I posed in my post was sparked by a current situation between me, my boyfriend, and his new female work buddy. I would love to get an outsiders read of it to hear if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill or if I have a right to feel as suspicious as I'm feeling now.
My BF (25-works full time) and I (21 - college student) have been dating for three years. Until the last few months, we have been very serious about eachother and very much in love. Around Thanksgiving time we even looked at engagement rings because we were thinking about getting engaged when I graduate in May. In December, our relationship became very strained--my BF became very irritible and yelled at me for the smallest things (even other people close to me began complaining about his "short fuse").
I can't help but think that these problems are mostly due to his budding friendship with a girl he works with. They began hanging out in December (at first going out together with one other work friend to bowling or a bar, then just going by themselves) at a time when I was extremely busy with school. He always invited me, but he knew I was so bogged down with school that i couldn't go.
He is spending more and more time with this girl. She is 30 and married. At first, I felt secure with it b/c of that, but there have since been many red flags. One, she is married, but says her husband doesn't like to leave the house. So...she meets men online and has spent entire weekends with men she meets online. Two, she is always buying my BF lunches at work and treats from Starbucks. She also has given him several gifts (clothes).
Last week, two things happened that really made me suspicious of what is going one. After he got out of his night class, he went and saw a movie with her. I was not invited and did not hear about it until the next day. A few days later, he said he was going bowling with her at 6pm. I said I would like to go, but could not go until 9pm. He said no, b/c he did not want to stay out of late b/c he had to work the next day. It turns out that he did not get home until midnight--they bowled at 7pm, then went out to a salsa dancing bar at 9pm, and I was again not invited.
Sorry this is so long...but I wanted to be detailed. He says that they are "just friends." I am not sure if I believe that. I don't think they're having a physical affair, but I am worried that this woman wants out of her marriage and is trying to butter up my BF. Any thoughts?
In fact, if it were my DH and one of his co-workers, I'd be FURIOUS!
