Do you think it is appropriate for underclassmen to go to the Junior/Senior prom?

I will even one up the taking an underclassmen. I went to my prom (when I was a junior) with my girlfriend who was a sophmore but also went to another high-school. We went to the same church. I honestly don't think it is anyones responsibility but themselves to find a date. What if a school has a large number of girls in the junior and senior year for some reason...then what happens...my class was actually tilted about 65% female. Our class was also about 500 people strong. That would be approximately 150 girls without a date just due to demographics. Granted not everyone attends prom and we had to pay about 50$ per couple to cover the expenses regardless of who was with us. I say let them go and have fun.
 
I started dating DH is highschool...he was a senior and I was a soph. I went to his prom and he went to mine. I wouldn't have wanted it any other way as he was my boyfriend.
 
Sounds silly to me. I do think if you go to the Prom as a Freshman and a Sophomore it is less special in your JR and Senior year though. It probably depends on your date too but I remember my first Prom to be the most exciting one.
 
I don't see why there should be a problem with it. I went to a prom every year once I became a freshmen. I even went to our rival school's prom so I got to go to 2 proms a year LOL.
 
I went to the junior and senior prom with my boyfriend when I was a freshman and sophomore, respectively. I saw, and still see, absolutely nothing wrong with it. When he graduated, we did not continue our relationship, and I then went to my own junior and senior proms, to which, I brought *gasp* an out-of-towner, and then a classmate (again, respectively.) I see nothing wrong with either scenario.

Limiting the kids to their own classes really takes the fun out of it. Most of my friends were upperclassmen when I was an underclassman because of the sports teams and musicals and chorus, band, and orchestra I participated in. Age/class wasn't important in my high school. (1991-1995.) I would have hated to have been told to stay within the "ranks" for our proms. :(

Definitely let her go!!!!! :goodvibes
 
Just because a girl does not have a date, does not mean she has to miss out on the prom. She can go stag. I am sure there will be "stag" boys, and she will get asked to dance. If not, she can enjoy the night looking pretty in her gown, and having fun with her friends.

I think underclassmen should be able to go if they are invited.
 
I think it's silly for a school to have a "policy" about underclassmen, but I can understand some parents (for whatever reason) saying that their own child can or cannot go to the prom.

It shouldn't be up to the jr/sr boys to "have" to be dates for the jr/sr girls. Why can't the girls get their own dates, if they want one?

Since your son is okay with his little sister going, I don't see an issue. Since it's "his" sr prom, though, if he had objected, I might not let her go (depending on the reason, the kids involved, etc.).
 
That's really dumb. Is the person who came up with the idea that junior and senior boys would ask classmates if they couldn't take their girlfriends by some chance someone who's taken a vow of celibacy? Why aren't the junior and senior girls looking at the classes below for dates?

My son is a junior and no way would he go to the prom if he couldn't take his sophomore girlfriend.

I can't believe you would even consider not letting your daughter go to the prom for this reason. There may be valid reasons to not let her go, of course, but this isn't one of them IMO.
 
THey should be able to take whoever they wanted! There were always a group of both boys and girls at my school who went alone. They danced with everyone. I think its wrong to expect them to have to take a Jr. or Sr. They should take who they want.
 
Oh please! The senior girls can't get dates because all the senior guys are taking sophomores? :charac2:
 
I think the students should be able to take who they want. If your daughter's upperclassmen BF wants to take her, his underclassmen girlfriend, so be it.

I would feel like a big loser if I were a junior or senior girl getting a "pity" date for my prom...."oh, I can't take my girlfirend who I really want to go with because she's a sophomore, so I'll take you". No thanks! I'd rather go stag!
 
I think part of the reason schools impose rules against underclassmen attending has to do with the number of kids in the school. My DD's school has 6000 kids. They have to hold prom at one of the large hotels just to find a place large enough for just junior and seniors. It becomes a major cost issue. As it is, tickets to DD's prom are $45 a piece.
 
I know when I was a freshman and sophomore, many people I knew from my grade went to junior or senior prom with close friends of theirs. It's very common where I go to school and no one I know has ever had a problem with it. I think you should let her go, unless you are uncomfortable with her going for some reason. I'm sure she'd have a lot of fun.
 
Feralpeg said:
I think part of the reason schools impose rules against underclassmen attending has to do with the number of kids in the school. My DD's school has 6000 kids. They have to hold prom at one of the large hotels just to find a place large enough for just junior and seniors. It becomes a major cost issue. As it is, tickets to DD's prom are $45 a piece.

Our school is pretty big, not 6,000 kids but the prom is always held i na catering hall and you can invite who you want. I would NOT be happy if I wasa soph and my senior boyfriend was at the prom with someone else!! Our tickets last year were 75 each...plus limo, dress, flowers and then the "after prom weekend" where they rent a beach house out east or go other places....it gets insane. The junior prom is a lot cheaper, its like 25.00 each. The 8th grade dance they finally put a rule on that the kids can't come in limos! It was insane, some parents would have limos taking the kids to the Junior high where it was held. The 8th grade dance was getting nuts, ball gowns, limos...it was insane!! They still wear gowns and have up dos done but no limos!
 
Absolutely if they are the date! If a Junior/Senior doesn't have a date, go find one. (Speaking as one who never went to a prom.) :)
 
The senior class only is about 89 students, not sure about the juniors but it is small as well. Sophomore class is about 139. They are having it at a Marriott and I believe it will be in the $75-$100 range. DS is on the prom committee.

DD already went to turnabout with him and she said it was the best dance yet, he made it pretty special so I can't see him not wanting to go to prom with her.

It's the parents that are making these decisions that I am thinking about. It's a pretty clicky bunch and I don't want DD getting a bad rep. she still has 2 more years there. The funny thing is they had not problem with the girls going to turnabout with the same boys.
 












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