Do you still get asked for advice from grown children?

[tvguy]

My kids are 19 and 23 and still ask our advice.
I'm 53 and I still ask MY mom for her advice.

 

[bicker]

After he hung up it just made me feel like he still needs his mother if for no other reason than to act as a sounding board.

Until the day she died, my mother regularly called me to be the same kind of sounding-board for her. Even as adults, we benefit from the moral support of others.

 

[OK!]

I'm 37 and still go to my parents for advice all the time.

 

[MrsPete]

Sure. I know almost every other DISer was married and had children by the time they were 20, but some of us still think of our college age offspring as "kids" who might benefit from a little bit of parenting. My daughter asks for advice occasionally and if I see a chance I might tell her something. The difference is we've transitioned out of "do it my way because I am the parent" and into "here's my opinion based on my experience and I'm happy to share it with you for what it's worth".

Yeah, I agree with this.

I do ask my mom's help on things occasionally -- probably not as often as I did when I was first married /first had kids. She's an expert on some things (crafts, gardening), and she's a good resource.

But really, she asks me for advice on just as many things.
And some topics we avoid because they'll only lead to trouble.

And sometimes -- I'm thinking about children here -- a grandparent is quicker to recognize a problem than a parent. For example, when my daughter was about 3-4 my mother pushed me to take her for speech testing. I was with her every single day, and I could understand every word she said. My mother recognized a small speech impairment that I was ignoring. If she'd been school age, her teacher might've picked up on it, or it might've gone unnoticed. As a result of my mom pushing me, we got her tested, she took speech therapy, and today you'd never know it was ever a problem.