Do you still get asked for advice from grown children?

[Myothername]

DS is 20 and I really don't consider that grown. He still comes to me for advice from time to time and believe me I grab onto those chances when I can. Right now he is in college and living at home. His summer job ended Labor Day weekend (he was a lifeguard) and has been without a part time job since. I guess I should say he has a job but it is for a landscaping company and will not be starting for a couple more weeks. It will be a good job that he will be able to keep until he gets out of school as she really wants him to work for her and says she will work all around his school schedule. He just called the lady at her instructions to call her the beginning of October (yeah I know it is still September and I am surprised he called early) to find out more about the job. She said it will be about 2 more weeks before she gets rolling. Poor guy was so disappointed. He is tired of not having any money. We help out with his gas for school and pay him for stuff around the house but he wants his own money and I can't blame him.

After he hung up it just made me feel like he still needs his mother if for no other reason than to act as a sounding board. Do you still get that from your grown and almost grown kids?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My dd who is almost 20 asks us stuff all the time. Now that doesn't mean she follows the advice however she still asks for the input.

 

[CKBear]

I don't have kids, but I'm 31 and I still go to my parents for advice.

 

[DVCLiz]

Sure. I know almost every other DISer was married and had children by the time they were 20, but some of us still think of our college age offspring as "kids" who might benefit from a little bit of parenting. My daughter asks for advice occasionally and if I see a chance I might tell her something. The difference is we've transitioned out of "do it my way because I am the parent" and into "here's my opinion based on my experience and I'm happy to share it with you for what it's worth".

 

[golfgal]

Isn't this about the time they START asking for advice? We have teenagers and we don't know anything


I still ask my Dad for advice-usually on home repair things.

 

[wowsmom]

LOL I'm 46 and I still ask my mom for advice sometimes!!!

 

[NMAmy]

Sure. DD is almost 20, in her second year of college about 2000 miles away, and she calls to ask for input fairly often. She may or may not take my advice but it's nice that she asks me.

 

[mamacatnv]

DS is almost 21, a Jr. in college and yep, he does seek out our guidance pretty regularly.

 

[4nana]

Yes and vice versa . Even tho our kids are grown with careers/families/homes of their own, occasionally they ask our advise and other times they just need a sounding board . Last night DS called DH for car problem advise, then DD called me about a job advise. With our large extended family, we wear many different hats, so recognizing the difference is the key.

 

[bumbershoot]

My mom died when I was 30, and right up to our last conversation I was asking for advice and talking to her as a sounding board...

 

[scrapbookworm]

The difference is we've transitioned out of "do it my way because I am the parent" and into "here's my opinion based on my experience and I'm happy to share it with you for what it's worth".

And that's the big key. The parent that I thought would have the hardest time with me growing up became so laid back and gives great advice that is to the point (and without becoming emotional), and the other parent still loves to get into that parenting mode of badgering me with advice and opinions, making me feel like a 10 year old again instead of a 31 year old.

 

[Robinrs]

I asked my mother for advice till she took her last breath. I was 46.

You are blessed.

 

[C.Ann]

Yes - always.. My Dson-in-law does quite often as well..

If my dad were still alive , I would still be asking him for advice - and I'll be 61 next week!

Age, maturity, and many, many life experiences bring much wisdom to the table.. There's always "more" to be learned..

 

[ilovejack02]

My DSS21 and my DH sat outside for about 3 hours the other night discussing if he should join the Army.

First time he has asked for advice in about 3 years.

 

[rie'smom]

Our sons, 34 and 26 both ask our advice from time to time. Neither are married so it's frin. If they were married, I hope they'd talk to their spouse before they consult us.

 

[Pembo]

I still ask my parents for advice or really more of an opinion and I'm over 40 with a family of my own.

 

[Angelhalo]

I'm 31 and I don't know the last time that I asked either of my parent's for "advice" BUT I do use them (especially my mom) as a venting/sounding board. I often call her to grumble about something stupid that is happening at work or with DH's job or whatever the issue might be. It's nice to know that she is always willing to listen.

 

[whatsup]

YES...However thye don't listen!

 

[nmmom95]

I'm 41 and not only do I still ask for advice, but I called my mom so she could talk to me while I vacuumed a stink bug off the ceiling today because I was scared. lol

 

[Rora]

I still ask my parents for advice-- to an extent. But I'm happy to have the option to ask!