Do You Remember Your First Date With Your SO?

[usd2bmd]

October 13th 1990. It was a blind date. My best friend was dating his cousin. The four of us went out for drinks. We dated for two years, were engaged fro two years and are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary today!

Coincidentally my parents also met on a blind date and my mother was older than my father and I am older than my husband. Actually among my siblings; all of the men married older women. Just a little fun fact about me.

 

[bohemian21]

My DH and I used to work together. We were friendly from the beginning (we were hired in the same group of about 10), but nothing happened immediately. He indirectly asked me out a few times (always along the lines of "hey, a bunch of us are going out, do you want to come"), but I never went. After commenting "I could use a drink" after a particularly stressful day, we decided to go get a drink together. Before the day was over, we realized that a movie we both wanted to see was coming out that day. So 6/28/08, we went to see "Wall-E" and then for a drink. A week later, on 07/04/08, I went to his house for a Fourth of July BBQ, and that was when we kissed for the first time, and what we've always acknowledged as our anniversary. On 02/14/12 we got engaged in front of Cinderella Castle, and on 11/08/13 we got married at Sea Breeze Point at the Boardwalk resort!

 

[Chipperdini]

DH & I didn't really have what we'd call a "first date." (Long story, some of which is below the line.) We were 18 and 19 years old when we first became boyfriend/girlfriend.

I DO remember our last date prior to marriage, though. We were 19 and 20 years old. It was a Saturday spent at King's Island in Cincinnati, OH (I think it was 8 days before our wedding). We had a great day despite a brief, bad storm that we later learned unfortunately took the life of a Dixieland band member who was struck by lightning and killed in the parking lot.

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We were close friends among a group of close friends who came to know one another via work at a camp as well as some other activities. There was no initial interest towards one another beyond friendship, and no other friends within our group save us ever became a couple.

It was at least 6 months into our friendship before DH became aware that he could be interested in dating me, but he never asked me out and tried to keep me from knowing about his additional interest for fear of losing our friendship which he valued very much. It would be at least another 4 or more months before I realized that he had any such interest.

I recall arriving home after an activity with our group of friends when it suddenly struck me that, Oh, NO! [DH] likes me. That means he's going to ask me out, and probably soon. What on earth am I going to do if he does? I'd never had even a single thought of him as anything other than a very good friend, and frankly, the idea of him asking me out was quite unnerving to me at that time.

I spent the next few weeks mulling over the whole idea of us moving beyond our current friendship into a dating relationship. I gradually warmed to the idea the more I pondered it, and eventually reached the decision that, yes, when he asks me out I will accept. And then...

He didn't ask me out. Or even act the least bit differently towards me than per usual. Days went by, then weeks. Nothing. Huh. Well that didn't make any sense to me. Although I really didn't know how I knew he liked me, I just suddenly knew it, and because I was so certain that he did, the fact that no further action or any other sort of confirmation of my suspicions on his part were forthcoming was baffling to me. Maybe I'd been mistaken...

I really didn't think so, though, so after a couple months I decided to wrest it out of him. It took some doing, but after some heart-to-heart conversation, it was done, and we considered ourselves a couple. We didn't "go public," though, because it was close to the time for summer camp to begin again, and there were staff rules against dating at camp. I figured it would be best to keep it to ourselves during that time, so we did. We did eventually go "on dates," but I really couldn't say when such events began.

Long story longer, about 3 months later, DH announced while we were walking through fields/woods/pasture: "Well, I'm ready to get married whenever you are." For a guy who never even got up the nerve to ask me out, he sure had no hesitation once he decided he wanted to marry me! I knew we would marry eventually, but I told him I wanted us to finish college first. We hadn't yet begun college, but it was in the works and we'd already been accepted as single students.

Over the next few months my answer changed to, "We'll get married after two years of college."

A bit more time, and my answer was, "Well, let's at least get one year under our belts before we get married."

Then a few days before Easter in 1989, I decided I didn't want to wait after all, and that we should marry and then head right off to college. On Easter Sunday we asked for my parents blessing, obtained it, considered ourselves engaged from that point on, and went about doing all we needed to do to marry one week before school would start in August 1989.

Twenty-five years of marriage later, we still kinda-sorta like each other.

A bit.

Or even a lot.

 

[crz4mm2]

Ours was an undate as well.
He was a friend of a friend and I had 'met' him before.
He pulled in to the parking lot where all the kids hung out (this was 1976- I was 16!) and parked beside my friend's car.I asked what he was doing and he said waiting for a friend to ride around with. I said "I'll go riding around with you".
When he dropped me off at my friend's car, he said "I'll see you tomorrow".
I didn't really know what he meant by that, so I went to town the next day with the same friend. We met up with him in the same parking lot and he asked why I didn't wait for him to come and pick me up?
Married 3 years later .

 

[SydSim]

DH and I were cast in a show together in October 1990. I told my girlfriend that he was a "cornball" and he told his guy friend that I was "goofy". Nuttin

Cast in another show a year and a half later. First time seeing him in a dress shirt and tie (something about a crisp white shirt). I fell in like. I went out of town and decided I would ask for his number once I returned. Came back, walked up to him........and HE asked me for my number.

First date - movies and dinner - April 21, 1992. Oh and during our first show in 1990, we had a romantic scene together. We always say that we had our first kiss before our first date.

Celebrated 20 years in June. He's still a cornball. Wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[LBIJim]

OP back. Thanks everyone for replying. I enjoyed reading all your stories.

DW informs me that the Princeton hockey game was NOT our first date. We were merely friends going out together, and went dutch. Our first "date" was several weeks later when I paid for both of us to see the movie "All That Jazz" at a real movie theatre, not the on-campus theatre, then paid for a late snack at a 24 hour diner. Hmmm, silly me. I thought we were already a couple by that time. By MY calculations, that was something like our 5th or 6th date.

I'm thinking, LBIJim, that a couple of things I've mentioned are familiar to you as we are from the same general area.

Yep, I'm familiar with what you posted, and often recognize places or events when you mention them in other posts.

I liked when Toms River when officially and legally known as Dover Township, however.

 

[Dancind]

DH actually stood me up for our first date. Although, he didn't realize it was a date, so I forgave him. In fact it took several tries on my part before it hit him that I might be interested in him.

We had been acquaintances for around a year, he and his girlfriend took a dance class from me an my boyfriend. In the interim, he split up with that girl, went back to his wife, got a divorce, and went through another relationship. I actually tried to fix him up with a girlfriend somewhere in there. Meanwhile, I had been in the same on again, off again relationship.

I was on a spectacularly bad blind date, and he asked me to dance when I walked away from the table. Told him I couldn't, but would be there the next Sunday, and would be glad to dance with him then. Something clicked in me, but he didn't know it.

He didn't show. The next time I saw him, told him he owed me some dances. Later when I asked him to walk me to my car, he said he was going to stick around for a while. See, he still didn't get it.

So I made an excuse to call him and we talked on the phone for three hours. I think he got it then. We met again to dance in spite of an ice storm, though maybe still not a date because he didn't pick me up.

So our first date was after that. Surprise, we went dancing. We were engaged two months later, now married 26 years. Sadly, not dancing much these days. "Our" place closed a long time ago, need a new one.

 

[SydSim]

Met DH in a show October of 1990. I told my friend that he was a "cornball". He told his friend that I was "goofy". Nuttin'

Fast forward a year and a half. We were in another show together when I saw him across a crowded floor (no seriously, I did) wearing a crisp white shirt and tie. Ahhh, I was officially in like!

I was going out of town and I decided to ask him for his number once I returned. I got back into town, walked up to him, and HE asked me for MY number.

Just celebrated 20 years in June. Oh and for the record, during that first show, we have a romantic scene together so we officially had our first kiss a year and a half before our first date!

Our first date was April 21, 1992. We went to dinner and a movie. And the movie was Basic Instinct.

 

[brookmey]

Ours was a blind date, set up by friends. We had talked on the phone and email for about a month before we actually met, simply because we couldn't find a time when we were both available. I was a teacher then and it was right at back to school time and I was coaching freshman basketball, so I had very little free time.

We had lunch on a Sunday at Applebee's. Originally it was just for lunch, but when we were done eating he asked if I wanted to do something else, so we decided to see The Sixth Sense. I went to the bathroom after we got our tickets and I remember being worried that I wouldn't recognize him when I came out. I'm really bad with faces.

 

[mamamary]

Our first date was a rock concert at Madison Square Garden in Sept. 1981.

 

[LBIJim]

Our first date was a rock concert at Madison Square Garden in Sept. 1981.

If you don't mind sharing, what concert did you see?

 

[mamamary]

If you don't mind sharing, what concert did you see?

I don't mind sharing at all. It was Blue Oyster Cult (and I believe Foghat was the opening band). I had no idea of who they were I was 15 and he was 18 and really into rock music. I was surprised my parents even let me go. The next day happened to be our second date. It was Simon and Garfunkel in Central Park.

 

[frank430316]

My DW and I met in high school, but were just friends until college. Freshman year, I finally got up the nerve to ask her out - but she thought it was with a group from church. Guess I was supposed to talk to her father before a date (and I was really afraid of him). She finally figured it out when we got to the theater alone. That was in 1970 and we saw "The Computer Wore Tennis Shoes." Only took 3 years to pop the question and then I did have to ask her father first!

 

[ValarDisneyus]

We had met and become friends during deployment on the USS Theodore Roosevelt, CVN-71. When we got back there were some life complications regarding my ex husband running off with someone he met while I was gone, I needed a roommate and he needed a place to stay. He ended up telling me he wanted to take me to dinner somewhere nice, so we had fondue. I figured out what was going on pretty promptly. It went all out of traditional order, but considering our long hours and demanding job, it worked out really well for us.

 

[bdcp]

We met in 1978 when I was 18 and he was 21. It was the night before the first day of classes at college and we were in a large carpool. We met at the carpool scheduling meeting and I was the only girl there (about 9 guys were there). DH and I flirted all night. I found out later that he had a gf who was at a different school out of state. When they broke up in October (she met her now dh and ended it) he asked me out and we went to a club on campus and drank beer and danced (18 was the drinking age in our state in 1978). He told me later he thought I was hot and had great legs. Happily married 33 years.

 

[mantysk8coach]

Oh gosh, I will never forget ours! I have known my husband since middle school, but we first became close my senior year of high school when we went to a few dances together as friends. We both got a job at the same grocery store in our neighborhood, and eventually started hanging out outside of work...but he had a girlfriend at the time. Over that summer...it was summer of 1998, they broke up. That fall, we hung out casually a few more times, and had become pretty good friends by then, so we decided to try a REAL date.

So the night of the real date came. My mom was recently divorced at the time, and was out with friends, leaving my 12 year old brother home with me, and then when I left, he'd be home alone for a bit. No big deal...right? Well, that particular weekend, my brother had been assigned one of those Baby Think it Over dolls, you know, those old dolls that they used to have in health class that cried, and you had to hold a key in their back to turn them off? Well...just as my date/hubby were heading out, the baby started to cry. And my brother couldn't get the key in right to turn it off. Which made my brother panic and start crying. So on the couch sits this crying doll, and my crying brother. Neither of us could get it turned off either. My brother, worried that he was going to fail the project insisted we all jump in the car and go find my mom so she could help. So we did. I figured it was the quickest way to end this and get us out of there. So there we are, driving around town trying to find my mom with this fake crying baby.

I don't remember if we ever found her, or if I took him back home or what! LOL! We got a really late start to dinner. We went to Olive Garden, then to a casino. The date itself was pretty uneventful compared to the lead up to it!

Sadly, my marriage is coming to an end due to circumstances beyond my control (how's that for vague)...but my future first dates have a lot to live up to!

 

[DawnM]

Yes, I remember. We went to the movies and saw Forrest Gump.

 

[Jedana]

Dinner at the mall (Furr's). Hit the comic book store so he could add to his collection. Movies. (It was some super sad movie because the movie he wanted to see was sold out. Um, there was a kid dying in it, and that's all I remember. I specifically tried to NOT watch the movie, as I didn't want to cry and ruin the hour I spent on my makeup....)

 

[LBIJim]

I don't mind sharing at all. It was Blue Oyster Cult (and I believe Foghat was the opening band). I had no idea of who they were I was 15 and he was 18 and really into rock music. I was surprised my parents even let me go. The next day happened to be our second date. It was Simon and Garfunkel in Central Park.

Thanks for jolting my memory. I was trying to remember what bands were touring late summer/early fall 1981. I know the Rolling Stones were, but they were playing outdoor stadiums; it wouldn't have been MSG. Van Halen and Tom Petty were touring around the same time as well.

I went to Blue Oyster Cult too, at the Spectrum in Philadelphia. It was likely within a few days of their MSG concert. But I don't remember if Foghat was the opening band. We usually skipped the opening acts. It was more important to, ahem, get prepared, with various substances before the main act.

 

[LBIJim]

My DW and I met in high school, but were just friends until college. Freshman year, I finally got up the nerve to ask her out - but she thought it was with a group from church. Guess I was supposed to talk to her father before a date (and I was really afraid of him). She finally figured it out when we got to the theater alone. That was in 1970 and we saw "The Computer Wore Tennis Shoes." Only took 3 years to pop the question and then I did have to ask her father first!

I saw "The Computer Wore Tennis Shoes" back around that time too. Wasn't that when a young Kurt Russell did wholesome family movies?

It was playing at one of those new fancy twin theatres. Imagine that! TWO theatres in the same building! My parents dumped me and my brother into "Computer" while they went to see the R rated movie next door.