Do you "monitor" your spouses' internet usage?

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Boy oh boy, my neighbor is a freakin loon. She tells me today that she doesn't like her husband on the internet because its a bad place and he could get into trouble? Holy crap, the man is in his 40's, if he's gonna cheat (which is I think what she thinks) he can cheat just as easy on the street. SHe found him "talking" to a woman on a message board, bantering back and forth as we do here, and she won't let him on anymore.
Maybe I just a very relaxed and confident husband,

Thoughts? and does your spouse object to you "hanging on the boards" even if members of the opposite sex (gasp!) are there?

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I would never try to limit what DH can do.

I think that if you start making rules, then it just makes someone want to defy them. Sounds like she has major trust issues (my god, it's only a website).

 

[momrek06]

Ahhh...your friend sounds a TAD bit CONTROLLING...so her DH cannot go on the internet? I think it is she that has the issues! She probably already has someone she is talking to on the internet!

Hey my DH loves me on the Boards because I told him, it is either the DIS Boards or ONLINE SHOPPING 24/7...he said talk away, baby, talk away to all your friends.

 

[Aidensmom]

My DH and I each have our own computers, and I rarely even go on his unless he needs me to fix something.

He does read (and in many cases post) on the same boards I do though, and sometimes he jokes about me getting too friendly with some posters.

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

EW!!! I don't watch what he does and (gasp) I sure don't want him watching me. If there's no respect or trust, there is no marriage. I'm glad I have it all.

 

[FroggyinArk]

dw and i moniter dd's usage, somewhat, but as to each others,, not really,, but then we are both posters on the same boards so we ussually know what the other ones saying. i keep hoping i can talk her into being my online girl friend too.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Oh believe me, I feel the same, I just think she is a total loon. But so is he, he has stopped using the "bad" computer. I think he is totally whipped My dh has just lost the last ounce of respect he had for the guy. I said to DH, he probably just goes online at work now

 

[GeorgeG]

No. It's not anything I need to worry about.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

. i keep hoping i can talk her into being my online girl friend too.

You are too freakin cute

 

[HappyLawyer]

no way, i am way too busy to babysit a grown adult, i realized this a long time ago, you need to have trust or you have nothing, people are going to do what they want to do no matter what, if it is true they will do what is right, but if they do not, then why try to change them, why want someone that does not want to be there.

 

[disykat]

If I found my dh "bantering back and forth" with one specific woman I would probably be upset, depending on what they were bantering about. While I don't consider myself controlling, we'd be talking about it for sure. He would feel the same way. We've discussed it because we know two different people who left their spouses for someone they started a relationship with on the internet.

I wouldn't mind at all if he was on a message board where there are people of the opposite sex, and he doesn't mind me being here. If one of us started forming a relationship with someone, it'd be a different story. For example if I were on here and happened to start debating with a man about refillable mugs or even telling popdaddy he's sexy - no big deal. If I was sharing my life's ambitions and deep feelings, or even just flirting, via pm or email - big deal.

 

[FroggyinArk]

You are too freakin cute

lol it wouldnt be so bad if she wasnt always flirting with this rick guy,, oh wait,, never mind thats me..lol...

 

[tmt martins]

I do most of my internet useage right here in the bedroom so if want to know all she has to do is hang out.

If I really wanted to do stuff she could never catch me but she has no woory I only have 2 Mistresses and it's the DIS and Disney.

A very nice DISer did something just wonderful for DD and the first thing out of Dw's cheating friend was he cheating on the net on you. I just laughed as she showed me the butchers knife she keeps on her side of the bed

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

lol it wouldnt be so bad if she wasnt always flirting with this rick guy,, oh wait,, never mind thats me..lol...

You know its you big guy.

 

[luvmyboys]

I never worry about my DH's internet use. Maybe it helps that he spends all his online time chatting with a bunch of guys about what armor they've won & about what monster in what dungeon they are going to kill next...

If you don't have trust, you don't have NUTTIN'!

 

[Charade]

and sometimes he jokes about me getting too friendly with some posters.

Hey baby...

 

[FroggyinArk]

hey ,, tonight was sposed to be my turn charade, you get sundays and wed.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Never even look in DH's computer. Would not tell him what to do online anymore than would set curfew.

But am not jealous much.

 

[Aidensmom]

Hey baby...

Hey, he's reading

 

[Disney Doll]

If I thought I had to worry that much about my husband, I wouldn't be married to him!