Do you know people who will say something "not nice", and then...

[MaryAnnDVC]

use the excuse "I'm just saying", as if that's supposed to make it OK?

This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. I knew someone named "Patty" (does not post on the Internet at all, FYI ) who liked to offer up suggestions or observations, such as "you know, I know a plastic surgeon who could take care of that nose" and then when you'd say, somewhat offended, "Geez Patty, thanks a lot but I think my nose is fine", she'd say, offended, "I'm just saying...". It's become quite the joke in our house to use the expression (we all, unfortunately, knew Patty, until she moved out of town)...we've named it a Patty-ism.

Why do people think that "just saying" something is somehow better than...saying it???

 

[Disney Ella]

"No offense" is just as bad. "You would look so much nicer if you lost thirty pounds, dyed your hair, oh, and changed your personality - no offense." As if "no offense" and "I'm just saying" gets you off the hook for being rude!

 

[Marseeya]

There's always the "I'm not prejudiced, BUT..."

Or

"Some of my best friends are ______"

 

[DisMN]

And then there's the "Well I'm just being honest!"

Uh huh.....


~Patti, but not that Patty

 

[Mandabella]

Or it was "just an observation!"

 

[cdrn1]

We have a "no offense"-er at work. Drives me nuts. It's always something very offensive that follows.

 

[AllyandJack]

I hate the "Not for nothing, but....."

What does that mean, anyway??

 

[Dan Murphy]

Not to debate this......but.............

 

[Marseeya]

Not to debate this......but.............

Along those lines is "Please don't flame me, but..."

 

[saturday97]

Wish I had a good comeback for the "no offense" folks!

 

[saucymb]

Around here we call it the "bless her heart" syndrome...you know, "Debbie just seems to be a little slow, bless her heart"...or "Jim, bless his heart, really could stand to cut back on the sugar"...you really can say the nastiest thing about someone, but if you insert "bless his/her heart" it's perfectly fine! That's what some think anyway...

 

[gharrer]

A friend will make a statement that sounds true but then say" I'm guessing".

 

[Marseeya]

Wish I had a good comeback for the "no offense" folks!

How about "offense taken"?

I hate to admit, but I've been known to say "no offense." However, I usually genuinely mean no offense. For example, I won't say, "No offense, but you're being a real jerk." I would use it to say, "I don't mean offense, but you are coming across pretty harsh." Kind of different, but I could see where someone would take offense by it.

 

[RadioFanatic]

my dh's boss does a great job of making fun of those type of people by saying in response "I'm not say, I'm just saying" kind of mocking like- really shuts them up!

 

[pfishgirl]

this is a Dejavu (sp) thread.. No offense.. But... we did this one already months ago...

 

[eeyore kelly]

Around here we call it the "bless her heart" syndrome...you know, "Debbie just seems to be a little slow, bless her heart"...or "Jim, bless his heart, really could stand to cut back on the sugar"...you really can say the nastiest thing about someone, but if you insert "bless his/her heart" it's perfectly fine! That's what some think anyway...

My grandmother taught me this. If you are talking about someone, always add bless their heart. That way it is constructive critizism. If you don't add bless their heart it is just gossip. I am not saying I agree or believe it, but a lot of older folks here in the south do.

 

[Skywalker]

use the excuse "I'm just saying", as if that's supposed to make it OK?

Wow, this is making me laugh because just this morning I was thinking about this exact same peeve of one of my favourite comedians, Paul Reiser, and it was making me laugh just remembering his comments about the whole "I'm just saying" thing. How freaky to see you mention this as well.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

this is a Dejavu (sp) thread.. No offense.. But... we did this one already months ago...

Oh no!

No offense to people who start threads before checking to see if it's already been done (like "big news du jour" threads, posted hours after the big news), but that's another one of my pet peeves. Not for nothing, but can't they just do a quick search? Bless their hearts, they must just be too busy. I'm just guessing, but I'm thinking they probably just didn't bother. Not that it's a big deal at all...I'm just saying...

 

[Buckalew11]

LOL about the "Bless her heart" syndrome. I've heard that saying many times!!

 

[DisneyPhD]

Wish I had a good comeback for the "no offense" folks!

What was that in Charlie and the Chocolate factory when Willy Wonka was making an offence remark.

None taken, JERK!!!!!