OP here...
So, let me ask all of you who have been so kind to respond....which one is EASIER to learn? It seems like people either prefer one or the other. I'm leaning toward crochet because I've read that it's faster and I have three little ones, so free time is a valuable commodity around here, but I welcome thoughts on which to learn first...
You guys are awesome!


Thanks a bunch!
When I was young my grandma taught me to crochet granny squares - then years and years later dd at 8 wanted to learn to knit - I could not figure it out - we watched
youtube over and over - Thankfully my computer nerd dh watched it once, figured it out and showed us how to cast on!!
I then took a class at JoAnn's! (I wasnt impressed) For a few years all I did was knit scarves - and I was happy with that! Then our church called for knitters and crocheters to make "prayer shawls" (google, its so wonderful, has been so warming for me!)
Then (honestly, of all places - kindleboards.com, yep due to the kindle I found the most miraculous of all sites!) I found
www.ravelry.com
OMG!

I was able to go to the "knitting" convention - called Stitches (they have a west,midwest, south, east..) I found "PEOPLE"
Google - find out if your high school has adult education with knit classes (becauses they are smaller class sizes, and its cheaper here!) or google "LYS" (= Local Yarn Shop) the quintessential "mom and pop" business - they have "knit or crochet" "ins" they have classes - they have people that you can connect to!!
I went to Stitches learned about "mistakes and how to correct them" as well as "circular knitting" It was such an overload of classes - but the people... amazing - I found people to talk to!!
AT ravelry.com - I found help, and so much more - free patterns, aspirations... and help. Because of ravelry, I'm learning to crochet mittens (and pattern reading is above me, but there is help at ravelry!) I found the pattern for the slippers grandma made every Christmas - so I'm making them for my mom!
I actually learned how to crochet because of Project Linus
http://www.projectlinus.org/chapter.php
This group belives everyone needs a "lovey" like Linus - our group makes holes in fleece, then crochets "edges"
http://projectlinuschicago.webs.com/makeafleeceblanket.ht
hope its not TMI