Do you know anyone like this? Vent.

[ckay87]

This is probably unique to women because men wouldn't (A) act like this or (B) care. That said....There is a woman who I have known for years. Our kids are in the same grade, play in Jazz Band together, attended Sunday School together. She and I have volunteered together, taught VBS together, played in a bell choir together, attended the same pilates class. You get the picture. As a result, I'd say I know her. We're not friends, but I know her.

And yet, Every. Single. Time I see her, she pretends like she's never layed eyes on me in her life. It is bizarre! I have been friendly, I have been nonchalant, I have even checked the effectiveness of my deoderant. Seriously, I have considered that she may be shy, I was really shy for a long time and probably a lot of people thought I was snobby. But nope, she's been spotted chatting it up with lots of people so I guess she's just snobby. It's so weird, I can't imagine ever being like that. Even if I honestly don't like someone (it happens) I can't NOT be friendly. It's like a reflex.

ok, just a vent I guess. I have plenty of friends, I don't particularly care, but I now just find it awkward to be around her... do you pretend you don't know the person?

 

[Mermaid02]

That's weird! No, I don't know anyone like that.

 

[iwrbnd]

No, I don't either. Could she be intimidated by you so she's only "shy" around you? Just a thought.

 

[Luvmy4boys]

I know someone like this. She never seemed to have a clue who I was, until I started to ignore her! Then she was the one who would initiate a conversation. Very strange.

 

[Tink888]

This is probably unique to women because men wouldn't (A) act like this or (B) care. That said....There is a woman who I have known for years. Our kids are in the same grade, play in Jazz Band together, attended Sunday School together. She and I have volunteered together, taught VBS together, played in a bell choir together, attended the same pilates class. You get the picture. As a result, I'd say I know her. We're not friends, but I know her.

And yet, Every. Single. Time I see her, she pretends like she's never layed eyes on me in her life. It is bizarre! I have been friendly, I have been nonchalant, I have even checked the effectiveness of my deoderant. Seriously, I have considered that she may be shy, I was really shy for a long time and probably a lot of people thought I was snobby. But nope, she's been spotted chatting it up with lots of people so I guess she's just snobby. It's so weird, I can't imagine ever being like that. Even if I honestly don't like someone (it happens) I can't NOT be friendly. It's like a reflex.

ok, just a vent I guess. I have plenty of friends, I don't particularly care, but I now just find it awkward to be around her... do you pretend you don't know the person?

She might be shy.

She might not like you. (And I'm not saying that to be rude.....I don't know you......I'm sure you're a wonderful person.)

She might think you don't like her.

 

[ckay87]

She might be shy.

She might not like you. (And I'm not saying that to be rude.....I don't know you......I'm sure you're a wonderful person.)

She might think you don't like her.

Oh I agree....that's actually the very first thing one assumes in a situation like this.

 

[sneadae]

HA! Yes, I know someone like this. My husband and I have finally made a joke of it. She always responds "Do I know you?" However, funny, similar to above poster, when I started ignoring her, she suddenly began talking to me. The whole situation is bizarre and I've decided she's just looney-tunes.

 

[wenrob]

I knew someone sort of like that. She was all buddy buddy at soccer practices and games but if you were to run into her in the grocery store or elsewhere it would be really awkward and weird. I never asked her about it just kind of "whatever" but one day while at practice she said flat out that she had plenty of friends and didn't feel the need to be social with people outside of the events she knew them from.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

Pretend you don't know her back
Your who again..is this the first time you volunteered?
BUT seriously why no matter how long you have been out of high school do people still carry this behaviors It shouldn't matter if she likes you or not why play the games.
BUT really I would play the gamne right back at her with hey I am so and so have you ever volunteered here before?

 

[turkeymama]

Yep, I had two of those, but I discovered they treated lots of people like that. All our girls were in the same dance class for three years consecutively, and one of the girls went to the same preschool as my daughter for two years. I saw that mom at least one night a week for three years and almost daily for two years at the preschool. I'm a friendly person, greet people with a "good morning/afternoon", and I'm really outgoing around people. So it threw me for a loop when I spoke to her and she looked at me like I was crazy. The first time it happened, I thought maybe I caught her off guard and gave her the benefit of the doubt, but she was always that way. For three years, she couldn't be bothered to return a polite greeting. Odd.

The other one was her friend, I'm guessing, since they only ever talked to each other during dance class. So I also saw her every week during dance class. Our husbands actually went to school together, so she was almost forced to be polite when we ran into them as a couple. Her husband is nothing like that and is extremely friendly. She seemed more on the shy side, but the other girl seemed snobbish.

I don't know what makes some people act that way. It is such a foreign concept to me.

 

[Kathi OD]

She's either (A) wierd or (B) insecure. Maybe you should call her on it.

"How could you forget me??" "Don't you remember when...." "And then there was ...." "We had such a good time!"

I dunno. On the other hand, maybe just give a wide berth. She's too much work.

 

[Green Tea]

I know someone just like that. I chalk it up to her being a snotty *****.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well now you have to do a science experiment. I would mirror her behavior, just for fun.

 

[suejai]

Yes I know people like this. They live 3 doors down and ignore me completely, even if I say good morning as I'm walking by. Oddly, enough though, when I was working for the town office and they needed something, they all of a sudden knew my name and were super friendly. Only to go back to ignoring me after.

I'm not sure why some people think they are better than others, especially without even knowing anything about them.

 

[ckay87]

Yes I know people like this. They live 3 doors down and ignore me completely, even if I say good morning as I'm walking by. Oddly, enough though, when I was working for the town office and they needed something, they all of a sudden knew my name and were super friendly. Only to go back to ignoring me after.

I'm not sure why some people think they are better than others, especially without even knowing anything about them.

I know I'm better than most people, but I can still pretend I like them.

 

[milliepie]

I know what you mean. My sister-in-law only knows me when she needs money.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Well, she might not like you. I don't like certain people I have to spend a lot of time with. And I have found to not like a few people instantly because something about them will rub me the wrong way. Though, I'm not rude to these people but I won't go out of my way to be friendly to them (and this is only 2 people in my life that I haven't liked instantly but still, you get the point).

 

[diznygirl]

I knew someone like this in college. I was nothing to her until I started dating a friend of her boyfriend. THEN she was super-sweet. Now I was Someone. She was one of the snotty-types.

I'm sure there are people who do this who the shy-types and don't know how to make small talk.

And then there are the people I'm pretending not to know in town because they are crazy!!

 

[ckay87]

Well, she might not like you. I don't like certain people I have to spend a lot of time with. And I have found to not like a few people instantly because something about them will rub me the wrong way. Though, I'm not rude to these people but I won't go out of my way to be friendly to them (and this is only 2 people in my life that I haven't liked instantly but still, you get the point).

Wow, y'all sure are big-time ego busters, aren't you?

Really, I'm with you. That probably is the case.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Wow, y'all sure are big-time ego busters, aren't you?

Really, I'm with you. That probably is the case.

sorry. Just roll it off your back. I know as a woman I have trouble letting stuff go but sometimes you just have to try.