Do you know anybody like this?

[dismom2]

I call up a good friend of mine and ask her how her Christmas was. For the next 45 minutes she proceeds to tell me about the great gifts she got, stressing how "expensive" and "top of the line" they are, also going over why hers are superior to the competition, and hers are the latest and greatest. Same with her DH and kids' gifts.

Did I mention "expensive", "top of the line", "better than the competition", "the latest"?

It gets better. She sends me pictures of them with prices.

OK--I am chuckling about this now, but I really don't mind hearing about her gifts, and I am happy for her.

What bothered me a little was that she didn't even ask me how my Christmas was. It was all about her, then she had to go. This is typical, and I don't 'get it'. I am always polite and ask her how (insert an event, holiday, trip, DD, DS, DH, etc...) was/is, and listen to the whole story, happily. But, she never asks me
She also likes to compare things, even though I don't. I think there's some type of competition thing going on that I don't partake in.

 

[jaminmd]

I call up a good friend of mine and ask her how her Christmas was. For the next 45 minutes she proceeds to tell me about the great gifts she got, stressing how "expensive" and "top of the line" they are, also going over why hers are superior to the competition, and hers are the latest and greatest. Same with her DH and kids' gifts.

Did I mention "expensive", "top of the line", "better than the competition", "the latest"?

It gets better. She sends me pictures of them with prices.

OK--I am chuckling about this now, but I really don't mind hearing about her gifts, and I am happy for her.

What bothered me a little was that she didn't even ask me how my Christmas was. It was all about her, then she had to go. This is typical, and I don't 'get it'. I am always polite and ask her how (insert an event, holiday, trip, DD, DS, DH, etc...) was/is, and listen to the whole story, happily. But, she never asks me
She also likes to compare things, even though I don't. I think there's some type of competition thing going on that I don't partake in.

I used to!

Guess why she isn't my friend anymore?

 

[Art 1]

No.

 

[pearlieq]

Hopefully she has some good qualities to recommend her, because otherwise she doesn't sound like much of a friend!

I think I'd be playing Freecell during her recitation. Adding in the appropriate "uh-huhs" when needed.

 

[taylor3297]

I do have a friend like that. Always saying how her kids are attending a much more challenging school, best in their sport, etc. I just listen. Anything I try to add to say hey my kids are doing just as well, of course cannot compare to hers. So I again, I listen and they say how wonderful. I am still friends with her, because she has a good heart and if I ever needed anything she would be there for me. She has been a lifesaver several times for me.

 

[AKL_Megs]

My MIL? Is this who you are talking about?

 

[whogirl'smom]

Yes, dd's little friend across the street! This must be what she'll be like in 20 more years. Told dd that our car wasn't as good as theirs because we don't have back-up cameras in ours; I told dd maybe I drive better. So far dd doesn't know that her friend got her own flat screen tv in her room from Santa.

 

[dismom2]

Hopefully she has some good qualities to recommend her, because otherwise she doesn't sound like much of a friend!

I think I'd be playing Freecell during her recitation. Adding in the appropriate "uh-huhs" when needed.

I do have a friend like that. Always saying how her kids are attending a much more challenging school, best in their sport, etc. I just listen. Anything I try to add to say hey my kids are doing just as well, of course cannot compare to hers. So I again, I listen and they say how wonderful. I am still friends with her, because she has a good heart and if I ever needed anything she would be there for me. She has been a lifesaver several times for me.

My MIL? Is this who you are talking about?

Yes, dd's little friend across the street! This must be what she'll be like in 20 more years. Told dd that our car wasn't as good as theirs because we don't have back-up cameras in ours; I told dd maybe I drive better. So far dd doesn't know that her friend got her own flat screen tv in her room from Santa.

Practicing the multiple quoting, which I recently learned


She does have good qualities, but this isn't one of them.

whogirl'smom-- sounds like your dd's friend is on the path. My kids have friends who like to brag big time, too.

 

[minniebeth]

Yes. I guess I live in a concentrated area of people who do exactly this. Lucky me.

 

[dismom2]

Honestly, I'm way more impressed when people tell me what a great deal they got on something, rather than how they paid 'top price' for this and that. It's funny, usually if you wait a little while, you can get the exact same item as your high-paying friend, but for a fraction of the price. I don't understand why some people have to tell you the price of everything (especially when you know them well enough to know that they most likely got a good deal on it ).

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

It can't bother you too much, as you consider this person a good friend. Then again, if she were such a good friend you'd be talking to her about this matter instead of broadcasting it over the internet.

 

[luvmy3]

I call up a good friend of mine and ask her how her Christmas was. For the next 45 minutes she proceeds to tell me about the great gifts she got, stressing how "expensive" and "top of the line" they are, also going over why hers are superior to the competition, and hers are the latest and greatest. Same with her DH and kids' gifts.

Did I mention "expensive", "top of the line", "better than the competition", "the latest"?

It gets better. She sends me pictures of them with prices.


OK--I am chuckling about this now, but I really don't mind hearing about her gifts, and I am happy for her.

What bothered me a little was that she didn't even ask me how my Christmas was. It was all about her, then she had to go. This is typical, and I don't 'get it'. I am always polite and ask her how (insert an event, holiday, trip, DD, DS, DH, etc...) was/is, and listen to the whole story, happily. But, she never asks me
She also likes to compare things, even though I don't. I think there's some type of competition thing going on that I don't partake in.

That is just so odd. I do know people like your friend, they are always talking about their newest latest greatest better than my stuff. I have come to accept this part of them and it really doesn't bother me but if I started to get pics of their stuff I think I would have to mention how much I love the photo but only wished I had a frame that was good enough to display it, hoping that the sarcasm isn't lost on them

 

[monkeybug]

Yes!! I have a friend just like that!!! She is a great person, but if you ever had a conversation with her you would get the feeling you were neck and neck in some competition only she is aware of! And she will make sure you know that she is winning! Conversations are often lengthy, and one sided. (which I find crazy annoying) I call it the " (her name here) show!"
It's like an infomercial and the product she is pushing is how great she is!! Funny thing is that she IS great in a lot of ways, but most people don't get to find that out because they get turned off by the competition and her lack of interest in anything not about her.

 

[JessicaR]

It was just bragging until you mentioned pictures with prices. That drove it way over the top. She sounds like she needs some attention. It would have been tolerable maybe if she asked about you, but since she didn't its a one sided relationship and those are a dime a dozen. Or, in her case probably much more expensive than that!

Sounds like you took it all in stride.

 

[Jason@dvcstore]

It gets better. She sends me pictures of them with prices.

Jason

 

[dismom2]

It can't bother you too much, as you consider this person a good friend. Then again, if she were such a good friend you'd be talking to her about this matter instead of broadcasting it over the internet.

You can have a friend and not always like everything they say or do. And vice-versa.

I have talked to my friend about this in the past, but I guess it's just a personality trait, so most of the time I just try to focus on her better qualities and let her have her moments. This was the first time I have ever mentioned this, other than to my DH, and it was in an anonymous manner where nobody knows me or the person in the story.

Everyday people post stories and situations on the DIS, and the internet in general. Do you tell everyone not to go "broadcasting it over the internet"? You have 'broadcasted' 5,058 posts on this site alone--- you spoke about how your siblings won't ever come visit you in one of your posts. Did somebody tell you you should be talking to them about that issue and not "broadcasting it over the internet"? That's just one example.

That is just so odd. I do know people like your friend, they are always talking about their newest latest greatest better than my stuff. I have come to accept this part of them and it really doesn't bother me but if I started to get pics of their stuff I think I would have to mention how much I love the photo but only wished I had a frame that was good enough to display it, hoping that the sarcasm isn't lost on them

That is a good one! I'll have to remember that.

Yes!! I have a friend just like that!!! She is a great person, but if you ever had a conversation with her you would get the feeling you were neck and neck in some competition only she is aware of! And she will make sure you know that she is winning! Conversations are often lengthy, and one sided. (which I find crazy annoying) I call it the " (her name here) show!"
It's like an infomercial and the product she is pushing is how great she is!! Funny thing is that she IS great in a lot of ways, but most people don't get to find that out because they get turned off by the competition and her lack of interest in anything not about her.

Very similar---I think you understand where I'm coming from.

It was just bragging until you mentioned pictures with prices. That drove it way over the top. She sounds like she needs some attention. It would have been tolerable maybe if she asked about you, but since she didn't its a one sided relationship and those are a dime a dozen. Or, in her case probably much more expensive than that!

Sounds like you took it all in stride.

She really wanted me to know the prices. It wasn't very ....subtle.

 

[LuvOrlando]

It sounds to me like it's her competitive nature that's the problem more than anything else. I do not like people trying to compete with me either... it's un-nerving to think they are watching me so closely when I don't go around doing it too. Creepy really...

 

[puffkin]

I have a friend like that, but not quite as bad. Her thing is to always mention the brand name of everything, especially clothes. For instance, my dog jumped up on her and I told him to get down. She said, "Oh, I don't mind....as long as he doesn't put pullies in my new Tommy sweater". Me commenting on how nice their Christmas card turned out, "Yes, doesn't "daughter" look so cute in her Ralph Lauren dress". Me offering her another glass of wine, "I think I'll pass, I don't want my Banana Republic jeans to get too tight".

That was all on SATURDAY night. Do I really need to know the brand of every piece of clothing they own? We all are used to it though and just roll our eyes and move on. They are great friends in other ways, but it does get annoying!

 

[dolphinrescuegirl]

I used to!

Guess why she isn't my friend anymore?

Same here!! I'm so glad she finally got the hint!

 

[wdwfan16]

Thankfully no.