Do you have a "good" handshake?

[RitaZ.]

IMO, the handshake should be firm (not bone-crushing) and one should also make eye contact with the person. I hate a wimpy handshake.

What does a "good" or not "so good" handshake say to you about a person?

 

[Serena]

Some woman about broke my hand 2 weeks ago. And she's the nicest lady, but wow!

 

[Tinkerbelle739]

I made the mistake of putting hand lotion on right before entering an event. You can imagine the look on the faces of the few people who shook my hand BEFORE I excused myself to the bathroom to wash it off!

Moral of this story: Slimy handshakes do not make good impressions!!

 

[NMAmy]

I always hate it when women give a weak, girly handshake. I mean, you're not trying to armwrestle but I don't want to feel like I've grabbed a fish instead of your hand, either!

 

[dianeschlicht]

I HATE wet noodle handshakes! IT tells me the person lacks confidence and I tend to not want to trust them. A good firm (not bone crushing) sincere handshake with eye contact speaks volumes!

 

[tiggerlover]

I think a good hand shake is very important and I absolutely hate whimpy handshakes....men and women alike!! A firm grasp and eye contact always makes a good impression.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

I hate it when men give me a wimpy handshake! I don't know if it's because I'm a woman or if they just shake hands that way with everyone. I try to always have a firm handshake myself & make eye contact.

The guy that has the wimpy handshake is the only one of my clients that sorta gives me the creeps....

 

[SC Minnie]

I am in a male dominated field and I hate it when a man give me a soft or wimpy handshake-- I actually take it personally like they see me as inferior because I am female. These are sales people (vendors) or men at the same level that I am.

I hate it even worse if they give me a 'lady' handshake (grab the fingers and turn them over their hand-- does that make sense? )

 

[tkd lisa]

I also am in a male dominated field, and feel the same way as scminnie. And yes, I understand exactly what you mean. In the workplace, that "lady" handshake comes across as patronizing to me.

I've actually told some younger guys how much I appreciate a firm handshake, and say that is makes a good impression (usually it's not a work setting). I figure that I should reinforce kids who get it right!

 

[alabamaalan]

Are you kidding? I'm a Mason...I know all kinds of good handshakes.

 

[perdidobay]

The handshake itself doesn't matter to me, because who knows if the other person has arthritis or some other problem that prevents them from shaking firmly. I do expect a smile and eye contact. No eye contact, I can't stand that.

 

[helenabear]

Originally posted by SC Minnie
I hate it even worse if they give me a 'lady' handshake (grab the fingers and turn them over their hand-- does that make sense? )

I know that one well... I just got that one on Friday from a friend... just after they shook my husband's hand firmly. It shouldn't bother me, but it does!

LOL, Alan

 

[Amberle3]

I've always called it the dead fish shake, and I hate it.

To me a good handshake says "Hey there, I'm a solid person". The dead fish shake says "uhm, hi, I think, I dunno, what was the question again?".

I hate getting it from vendors, or most recently from contracts I'm talking with about renovations. And yes, I have to admit it does colour my impressions of them and their ability to do the work. I guess I figure if they have a so-so/half-***ed/wishy-washy handshake that they'll have the same attitude toward the work they're supposed to be doing.

 

[grinningghost]

I learned the art of a "good, firm handshake" when I was a Buyer in a male-dominated field. Most of the salespeople I met with were men, and I knew they took me seriously when they reciprocated with a good, firm handshake. The wimpy ones never got the sales. (Just kidding).

 

[RitaZ.]

Originally posted by NMAmy
I always hate it when women give a weak, girly handshake. I mean, you're not trying to armwrestle but I don't want to feel like I've grabbed a fish instead of your hand, either!

ITA

I hate the "dead fish shake".

Tinkerbelle739~ LOL!

 

[Disney Doll]

I hate that "lady" handshake too. The one where the woman puts her hand out palm down and sort of slightly wiggles the hand. I shake hands like a man...hands outstretched sideways and a firn, friendly, but not bone-crushing, grip.

 

[DukeStreetKing]

Yes, I have a good handshake. I hate it when I or the other party starts to grip too soon and someone is left with just fingers in the grip. It is soooo gross and embarassing at the same time. You just want to call out "Do Over" and try again.

 

[Jungle Skipper]

I think a good firm handshake displays confidence.

I hope my handshake is nice and firm.

Jungle Josh

 

[Kitty 34]

I feel I have a good handshake. It's sideways and firm.

 

[olena]

I give firm handshakes.