Do you ever wonder about people?

[DisneyBamaFan]

...I just find it interesting that some people then feel the need to after answering the question go on and give a long "lecture" about why the other people are wrong with their point of view or why they are right about theirs...

Threads evolve. The original post sets the tone, but subtle changes from one post to the next can change the entire discussion. You might ask, "Do I look fat in this dress?", and find that, 3 pages into the thread, the discussion has shifted to people who make dresses from patterns.

And, yes, someone might answer with diet suggestions (or comments about the "slutty" bust line ), but that might happen with friends at the store, too...

 

[toledo13]

LOL! Yes, I noticed this on one of the "Cash for Cluckers" threads! LOL! Poeple got lectured about being "irresponsible" for purchasing a car! I just overlook it. I'm on a childrens's clothing board with 30,000 other hormonal women and I see the same thing over there. The best threads over there are the "Organic" moms that criticize the "non-organic" moms! LOL! My child eats Mcdonalds so I'm in serious trouble with the organic moms!

Heeeeyyyy, I'm an Organic mom! Well, I'm not yet a mom... mom to a DH . I don't lecture on here though- I have my blog in my siggie so if people want to be lectured they can go there themselves!

I too see people go overboard though. I think it's just those very opinionated 'Type A' people... but I don't get why people get so wound up!!! Like it's life or death... talking about fastpasses!

 

[denisenh]

do i ever wonder about people? yes, i do.

i decided that some posters have no outside life, maybe no real life friends and when you read their posts, you don't have to wonder why.

about comments on youtube or news stories and what have you (as mentioned by a PP) yeah, I manage to gag a few comments down and then remember why I don't like to read them. some people.


but I love you all anyway!!!!!!

 

[Buckalew11]

Yes, I do wonder. There are people so predictable, so lecturing (which includes never forgetting, never forgiving, and knowing it all), and so rude that it does make you wonder what they are like in RL. They are very predictable. You can almost wait on them to pounce! LOL Anyway, I'm sure they are miserable in their own lives so I chalk it up to having a little pity on the repeat offenders. Beats getting mad or upset while reading!

 

[denisenh]

NOW i remember what I wanted to say...


i think it is SO weird that some posters really get into who said what in a prior post..... I'll be reading along and come upon something like....

"you said in a post 2 years, 3 months 17 days and 12 hours ago that your mother hit you with a baseball bat , heres the link ....and now you are saying how much you miss her and what a wonderful mother she was."

or....

"you said that you will be having boiled potatos for supper because you are broke but in your siggie it says that you are going to Animal Kingdom lodge in a month"

those posts just make me wonder about people......the ones that are so "into it" that they keep track of other posters lives. cracks me up.

 

[Disney Doll]

I think it's the nature of the internet, going right back to usenet and bulletin boards.

The anonymity of the internet means people may answer more directly than they might if speaking to someone face to face, and (a big factor often overlooked when people bring up this topic) also means people ask questions or share personal situations they never would if speaking to someone face to face (ones more likely to incite stronger responses). Additionally, it's harder to soften tone in text than it is in voice, so answers may be read as harsher than intended.

Lastly, in real life we tend to "flock" with like minded people so are less likely to get divergent views when we ask a question, whereas on the net you're going to get just about the full spectrum of views depending on where you post, so when it may seem like people are being jumped on, I think really it's just the balance of opinion of those posting is different from what we might have assumed it would be and we're naturally reacting to having that assumption challenged.

So no I don't think it necessarily reflects personality in real life, I think it reflects the medium where the discussion is taking place Interesting question though isn't it!

I agree with this.

 

[JessicaR]

Yes, I do wonder. There are people so predictable, so lecturing (which includes never forgetting, never forgiving, and knowing it all), and so rude that it does make you wonder what they are like in RL. They are very predictable. You can almost wait on them to pounce! LOL Anyway, I'm sure they are miserable in their own lives so I chalk it up to having a little pity on the repeat offenders. Beats getting mad or upset while reading!

Thanks for finding the words I couldnt. I do wonder also. Great post!

 

[just4today]

NOW i remember what I wanted to say...


i think it is SO weird that some posters really get into who said what in a prior post..... I'll be reading along and come upon something like....

"you said in a post 2 years, 3 months 17 days and 12 hours ago that your mother hit you with a baseball bat , heres the link ....and now you are saying how much you miss her and what a wonderful mother she was."

or....

"you said that you will be having boiled potatos for supper because you are broke but in your siggie it says that you are going to Animal Kingdom lodge in a month"

those posts just make me wonder about people......the ones that are so "into it" that they keep track of other posters lives. cracks me up.

It's true that some people seem to have little notebooks where they jot down things about every poster. But then there are sometimes when people post obvious BS and deserve to have it pointed out. Like when they post one week that they are destitute and about to declare bankruptcy, and then the next week they are driving an Escalade and buying DVC.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I tend to wonder about the posters who bring up the same topic again and again and again linking it to the thread at hand by the most tenuous of threads at times Obviously these ropics are very important to the posters but it seems like soemtimes they cannot see anything clearly because they want to bring everything back to one or two things.

I like to think that I don't generally lecture on the DIS, but earlier today I posted what could only be called a mom lecture of the highest degree so I really can't talk about lecturers at all

 

[Buckalew11]

It's true that some people seem to have little notebooks where they jot down things about every poster. But then there are sometimes when people post obvious BS and deserve to have it pointed out. Like when they post one week that they are destitute and about to declare bankruptcy, and then the next week they are driving an Escalade and buying DVC.

Those were gifts,

Yes, sometimes it is necessary when someone is going on and on and on and many DISers are being duped by someone. I have no problem with something being called to my attention that will make me less a fool on here.

However, sometimes posters are always bringing things up or lecturing others. I don't even have to keep a notebook to keep track of them! they do it daily and are so predictable. You can count down--10...9...8...7...

and there they are with their lovely comments.

And this works in good ways too. I think i'm pretty predictable. I think, for example, Disney Doll is pretty predictable. She gives good advice and I can almost count down to her words of wisdom on a thread where someone thinks their spouse is cheating on them and what should they do. I think, if I was going to divorce, I'd pm her and get "the list" and call my lawyer. She gives great advice to people and empowers them with it.

it is the people who tear down constantly that I dread seeing come on to a post. But, I think, it is their internet "job".

 

[denisenh]

It's true that some people seem to have little notebooks where they jot down things about every poster. But then there are sometimes when people post obvious BS and deserve to have it pointed out. Like when they post one week that they are destitute and about to declare bankruptcy, and then the next week they are driving an Escalade and buying DVC.

...but thats what I mean....who cares! really.

(do some people really use notebooks? )

 

[just4today]

...but thats what I mean....who cares! really.

(do some people really use notebooks? )

There's a difference between caring, in the sense that it affects my life, and not wanting myself or others to be played for a fool. When you listen (read) other people's stories and feel badly for them, and then find out they were lying, it erodes your trust and builds cynicism.

In the case of people who take extravagent WDW vacations and then declare bankruptcy (which seems to happen a lot), it does affect me. And you. And everybody. Somebody has to pick up that cost. I care in that sense.

 

[Camicar]

There are a lot of 'mean girls' and playground bullies who never grew out of it. I think the internet gives bullies and provocateurs a platform they might not otherwise have because IRL they do not have the guts to behave like that or if they did, most of their real world people have tuned/turned them out.

I now truly believe that there are a lot more folks in the world who enjoy causing discomfort, aggravation, and even pain than I ever imagined.

I also believe that a lot of folks were never taught to behave decently and/or feel they are entitled to do what they want with no consequences. Unfortunately, on the internet, there are usually no consequences, so they happily go on hurting others because they like it.

 

[Buckalew11]

There are a lot of 'mean girls' and playground bullies who never grew out of it. I think the internet gives bullies and provocateurs a platform they might not otherwise have because IRL they do not have the guts to behave like that or if they did, most of their real world people have tuned/turned them out.

I now truly believe that there are a lot more folks in the world who enjoy causing discomfort, aggravation, and even pain than I ever imagined.

I also believe that a lot of folks were never taught to behave decently and/or feel they are entitled to do what they want with no consequences. Unfortunately, on the internet, there are usually no consequences, so they happily go on hurting others because they like it.

And this has been a fact of life for a long, long time. Obviously whoever gave Thumper's mom the line to pass on to Thumper (If you can't say something nice, don't say nothin' at all.) is still good advice today and something we probably all forget about doing every once in a while.

 

[Philagoofy]

...but thats what I mean....who cares! really.

(do some people really use notebooks? )

I use spreadsheets, easier to cross reference.

 

[mumom95]

I use spreadsheets, easier to cross reference.

Plus, when the stories change, you don't have a bunch of scratched out things all over the paper, you just print out the new copy.

 

[Hoodie]

I'm more surprised by the amount of personal information people post on public forums. information about personal finances, relationship troubles, even asking for medical and legal advice. Do these people go up to complete strangers and tell them intimate details about their marriage? The majority of people on these forums aren't "friends". Airing dirty laundry in a public place is inviting the public to comment - good, bad or otherwise.


I guess I don't fault the lecturers, but the people who put themselves in the situation to get lectured.

 

[Buckalew11]

Actually, people do share a lot with "perfect strangers". I am always amazed at what a first time client will share with me. I can know more about him/her in 30 mins. than I know about a long time friend!

 

[LuvOrlando]

I am always saying to myself, "Glad I don't have to live with that person". Disagreeing is fine, I like to hear what other people think. But a different point of view is seldom a lecture. If it is complete, the thought should be able to stand out on its own and be open to acceptance or rejection. What I do not like is when someone uses another's words as a springboard, to me this always sounds like a lecture because the movement of the conversation always puts someone on the defensive. Why aren't people able to formulate their own thoughts start to finish without attacking someone else? To me it's juvenile, if a person can't be bothered with thinking an idea through start to finish why should I be bothered with reading it? Mind you, sometimes this is amusing so I let it ride, but most of the time it just bugs me.... but that's just me.

In my real life I am pretty low key, most people don't care about what I think so why bother sharing? Here if someone asks and I feel inspired I'll share, but that is only here.

 

[sbell111]

Two thoughts:

1) Am I the only one who hears Andy Rooney's voice when I read the thread's topic?

2) Who want's to bet that this thread turns into an angsty fight and get's closed down?