Do you ever wish you didn't care so much?

[honeywolf7]

I've "lost" two friends in the past week (one last Wednesday and one today.) One I lost because of an argument and the other I didn't really lose but I found out that he's moving back to New York to take a job up there which means that it won't be the same (obviously.) Right now, I'm wishing I didn't care so much about my friends...my mom is telling me that I wouldn't be me if I didn't but it really hurts sometimes to care.

 

[CathyCanada]

Being hurt is the price we pay for loving people, but in the long run it is always worth it as the good outweighs the bad, usually.
You'll feel better in time.
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[JasonLyons]

welcome back, sorry about your friends

 

[Tulirose]

I agree with what CathyCanada said. Sorry you are hurting right now. Perhaps amends will be made, in time, with your friend that you argued with.

 

[browneyes]

It always saddens me when I lose a friend. I wonder if there is something I could do to change things (I'm a worrier ). Sometimes it makes me withhold a part of me when it comes to future friendships, I wish I wouldn't do that.

Maybe your friendships will grow stronger because of all the circumstances, Becki. I hope so.

 

[trayletha]

I've always thought it evens out - you hurt more when bad stuff happens; but you fly higher when the good stuff happens.

 

[Rajah]

Sometimes, yeah.

If I hadn't cared so much about Sage, for example, I wouldn't be so sad now on the anniversary week of when we brought that baby-kitty home.

I also wouldn't be missing my friends from college so much.

But, as has already been said, even though you tend to hurt more when you hurt because of caring so much, when things are good, they're really good.

 

[Serena]

Yeah.