Do you ever hit the breaking point?

[bjgrazi]

Do you ever get to the point where you think "I just can't take this anymore" Everything seems to bother you? I'm silently in my own little miserable world right now and don't get it. (I'd never let anyone around me know, I have just been very quiet the last couple of days) I have never been this way. I always use to look at life at the positive side. I took lemons and made lemonade. I actually feel too tired to do it anymore.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I've been there. It's hard but keep your head up and know that things WILL get better.

 

[ggarriso]

Barb

I am right there with you right now.. I live in North VA near DC and I think im losing my mind!! everyone and everything has been pissing me off latley.. Maybe it'll pass

 

[mickeyboat]

I am feeling that way right now too. We are living with my FIL right now because our house is being renovated. It has taken longer than expected, and I am about to explode!

Denae

 

[OhMari]

It is hard to admit isn't it.

I posted on the thread about college kids home and it made me realize I can't take doing all the wash for 6 people, plus everything else.

I am very quiet too. I found a adjustable basket I bought a long time ago. My clothes will just go in there. Then I sorted all the clothes in different bins and I am just going to sit back and watch it grow.

The last time I quit washing, my husband said he hasn't had underwear for 2 weeks and he is getting to the bottom of his drawer. I better stop playing games. He definately does not do any house hold chores except maybe make a meal once every other week. (and then it is a yucky hamburger casserole.)

Here is a hug to you bjgrazi your not in this alone, and you probably have very different reasons for hitting your point.

 

[Rikersmom]

You are truly not alone! These boards have many great uses, but the very best is providing a way to contact people in similar situations.

Whatever has gotten you to this point--I hope that you can find a way out. I've slowly come to the conclusion that I cannot be responsible for another person's happiness. It has taken me about six weeks of misery to get to this point. Now I need to concentrate on my own happiness.

If it's a person causing you to reach the breaking point, you need to step back and figure out what you can control and not control. You can't control another's behavior, but you can control your reactions.

If it's a situation (like getting dumped on with everyone's laundry), you need to step back and figure out what is best for YOU. Nobody deserves to be treated badly by others. But, I've been there, and it's sometimes easier to take it than it is to take a stand.

I feel like a crusader today--We're not gonna take it anymore!!!

 

[MelCald]

Oh Yea...I get that way!! To make me feel better, I usually get together with the girls, have a drink and a major b**** session. Always makes me feel better!

Melissa

 

[bjgrazi]

I'm glad I've given some a chance to vent. Thank you for the kind words. I will find a way out. I know I'm a strong woman (if I weren't I wouldn't be here today) I have a lot to be happy about. (I'm going to Disney soon).

Just right now I feel like Captin Hook at the end of Peter Pan when he has his feet on the open jaws of the crocodile. ONE FALSE MOVE AND I'M DONE

I need to find a new job (I'm trying) when that happens I think things will start to look up for me.

 

[SunshineSis]

Sometimes breaking down is exactly what you need to do.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

for all of us in the same situation. I have been this way for about a month now. I know why but can't really do anything about it but wait. I have always dreamed of being a stay at home mom. Everything I have done with my life to this point has been for everybody but myself. I have always tried to live up to others expectations of me and what I should be. An opportunity has been presented to me where my dream can come true. But it is a waiting game right now and it is driving me crazy. I don't want to get my hopes up but everyday I catch myself daydreaming about how great this life could be. I have wanted a baby for so long now but have always put it off. But the clock is ticking and I can feel it. My mom keeps pushing me to get pregnant, in fact my whole family is pushing but I know that it just is not the right time and it hurts my heart. I guess what is really sending me to the breaking point is if the "thing" doesn't go through I don't know if it will ever be the right time

I guess I just have to be patient

Thanks for letting me vent!!!

 

[ripleysmom]

If you are around 40 it could be due to hormones and perimenopause. Your body and hormones start to change long before menopause kicks in.

If you think that might be it perhaps look into an herbal supplement to help out.

 

[bjgrazi]

Ripleysmom, I do I am and thanks for reminding me today. 40 is a memory for me. Can I be 37 again? If I knew than what I know now.....................

I feel like Charlie Brown.

 

[browneyes]

Been there too many times. , bjgrazi. The best thing is to not hold it in, to let some of your frustrations out in a positive way.

 

[winniedapooh]

 

[ripleysmom]

I'm right there with ya on the 37 thing. I know it just helps me to remember that sometimes it is just all about the hormones.

 

[doxdogy]

Been there, done that. Hugs to you. I wish I could give you some good advice. Just don't hold it in. Go into a room by yourself and rant and rave, mutter under your breath. Just release the tension.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Well I really try not to get to that point but it gets pretty close. I know it will definetely happen once in the summer when all the 3 ds are home, yest. I just about got there with comments like you treat the dirt on my feet better than you treat me, huh? Guess clean clothes, food etc, dont count for anything, biggest ds saying what did you do all day and he complained there were 4 bags of garbage in his way, (cleaned up lots of old papers) gee could he take them out? etc. Gee, we are going on vacation next week, but still more laundry and packing etc. before we get there and worse its not disney because we already went there in april. I did have my absolute worst one so far, even dh said, honey you are about to lose it....this happened after I almost died due to an incompetent drs. mistake, the next week my mother dropped dead and my 90 y o grandma had to come live with us, had to sell the moms house in different state, move grandmas stuff, all while taking care of her and 3 kids under 7 and having no one to help me. Also then I had to have more major surgery to fix dr. #1 mistake. After 15 mos. my grandma had to go into a nursing home and dh said I really needed a vacation. He booked the disney cruise line, without even asking me. On the cruise the nice nursing home put my grandma in the hosp. That was a plot to get rid of her bed since she was going on medicaid. We ran all over the poly looking for our bed hold fax and finally got it. Tried to enjoy the cruise, but dh got sun poisioning so I was stuck taking care of the kids by myself again. Gee, isint life fun. Always look on the side of things, remember as cop says..theres a great big beautiful tommorrow shining at the end of every day. Chin up, spit spot, doesnt mary poppins say that?

 

[Serena]

I've been there, and been there again. Now I know the symptoms and what I can do to get myself away from it.

Screaming, crying, writing, walking, a counselor, medication, friends, one time I temporarily ran away. I took off driving until I hit the next town and then walked around a park for hours.

But putting your foot down and demanding some help sounds like the best thing right now.

 

[AllyandJack]

I hit my breaking point Monday night. It wasn't pretty.

It started Friday when I found out that we have to pay a late fee for my husband's electrical license because the person who said they changed his address never did. So, there goes an extra $57. Then Sunday, I was online paying bills and I wanted to go to a movie. I go into my husband's account to transfer money into the main account, pay some bills, etc. and I found that the place we had dinner Friday night charged us 5 times to the tune of over $300.!! Of course the bank won't handle it on a Sunday. DH says to just take the money from the other account for the movie and we'll replace it. Funny...I didn't feel much like going after that!

To top it off, I'm over $100,000 in debt for a career I despise. I'm working at a job that gets me out of the house, but makes me feel like a monkey is actually one step up from me. So, I decide to make a change and go to real estate school to maybe, just maybe, do something I don't hate and make some money that would let me pay off my student loans and forget law school ever happened. I leave work early and end up hitting an insane traffic jam at 4 in the afternoon! I was going to be late for my first class! I had a fit in the car. I threw the Wheat Thins that were going to be my dinner everywhere. I smashed up the peanut butter crackers and threw them everywhere - it still smells like peanut butter whenever I turn on the defroster. I blared my radio and sat in my car and cried and laughed and cried and laughed. I'm screaming to God to cut me ONE BREAK. Just ONE. Please just let me be able to do SOMETHING without sticking a massive roadblock in my way. Can I have one week where someone isn't stealing my money or messing around and making ME pay for it?

I did get to my class with 2 minutes to spare. Naturally, I didn't get a chair with a desk and now I have to spend every Monday night from 5:30-9:00 sitting in an uncomfortable chair trying to write on my knees.

You'd think I'd be used to it and it wouldn't bother me so much, but I'm not and I still get to the point where I honestly think I'm just going to go out on some kind of mental disability and sit at home so nothing else can happen to me.

So...YES.....I have been there and I imagine I will be there over and over and over again.....that's a lot of Wheat Thins and Peanut Butter Crackers!!!