Do you enjoy having overnight house guests?

[Kay7979]

I think I may be weird, but I really don't like having company for more than a day's visit. My sister has come for weeks at a time when she was between jobs and apartments, and I love her, but a few days would have been plenty. My in-laws stay for a couple days occassionally, and even that is uncomfortable. Maybe I am selfish and set in my ways but I can't relax and feel comfortable when there are other people in the house and I have to consider the noise factors, our mutual privacy, meals, how to keep them entertained, and it doesn't help that I have a home office and need to be working while they're here. I never feel relaxed or at ease. I miss my boring comfortable routines, and being alone with DH to enjoy those boring comfortable routines. I know other people who just love the whirl of a house full of company (like my I-Ls) and can't understand why I don't enjoy it. Do you love it, hate it, or tolerate it, when you have overnight guests?

 

[Michie]

NO. I do not make a good guest or hostess. If I go visit somebody, I stay in a hotel. If somebody wants to visit, I put them up in a hotel.

 

[cinmell]

I don't really enjoy overnight guests for many of the reasons you listed.

 

[Magickndm]

Depends on who it is really. If it's my cousin, she can't stay long enough. We're very much alike so I don't feel the need to cater to her.
My IL's live in MN, so when they visit, about once a year, it's for 2 weeks or more. I love them both, but after a few days it gets very stressful for me. Are they too hot? Too cold? Eating what they want? Did they hear my husband and I bicker in our bedroom? Or anything else we may have done?
I know I bring 99.9% of the stress on myself, but man do I feel relieved when they head home! It's really not them, it's me.

 

[swanmom]

One of our wise forefathers, Benjamin Franklin, has been quoted as saying that "Fish and visitors smell after three days." I concur.

 

[Magickndm]

Oh, forgot to add....I hate visiting people too. I'd much rather stay at a hotel...I guess I need my time and my space.

 

[sajetto]

I tolerate it because my fiance's cousin comes for overnight visits once every few months. He knows that I'm not crazy about it because she has the mind of a 6 year old (mental retardation) and must be consistently entertained. It gets to be really exhausting because I end up cleaning up after her so much. She's a really sweet girl and she loves her cousin so I can deal with it for a few nights. I don't mind having adults over because they are really good about making sure they don't make a mess, they usually find things like towels and utensils on their own, and they can be entertained watching the t.v.

 

[JRawkSteady]

hehe, I love having houseguests. I once lived in a squat with 26 other people, and a non-guarantee of water though, so that may have something to do with it.

 

[Castlebound]

No overnight visits! My grandma asked if we were going to have a spare bedroom for guests in our new house and I said no. She is really bad about inviting out of town family in for a visit and then informing one of us that we get to host the visitors! Sorry grandma no room at the inn!

 

[Hollister]

I did until we moved to our new house We have these neighbors that probably come to our house about 5 to 6 times a day and stay about an hour at a time. At after about a few months they started to not knock anymore! They would just walk right in and sit down on our couch talking to their friends on the phone or whatever and we would just be speachless when we are all relaxing and watching TV and they just walk right in. When I was babysitting one day they just walked in and started to do their bills at our dinner table! And her daughter just walked right in and followed me EVERYWHERE I went with the baby. She is always in his face and I try to walk away with the baby but she just follows. The baby crys now whenever he see's her I had a dream that they came over at 2:00 in the morning and woke us all up! Thank god we moved far far away and we hope we have better luck with neighbors

 

[Hercules10]

Hot chicks =

Family/friends =

 

[lulugirl]

I'm not a big fan of overnight guests either.

 

[Chicago526]

Generally, no. My house is always open to any of my friends and family that want/need a place to stay. But I really dislike the change in my "routine". I'm lucky in that all of our guests in the past have been very considerate, and I do enjoy spending time with them. But I don't look forward to it, and it's a sigh of relief when they leave.

 

[MAKmom]

No. I love having a party but not overnight guest. DH & I would never share a house on vacation with another family either.

 

[wendy46001]

Guess I grew up with house guests....in college we had couch growths (they just sat and watched the TV)...So i dont mind.. .That being said if you cant clean/feed/entertain your self then your not allowed..

 

[lecach]

Only my Mom. Otherwise I am just too uncomfortable. I dont even like daytime visitors though. Unless they are only there for a short visit. When my inlaws come they are there all day. And I dont relax the entire time. I feel very put-upon. Like they are ruining my day.

I dont like to stay overnight with others either. I would much prefer a hotel. I am never at ease - unless its at my Mom's.

My MIL thinks its wonderful to stay at others houses or to have them stay with her. She thinks we're kind of weird that we only host a family dinner once a year. When we moved into our much larger house last month she made a comment about us hosting Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner and I told her that I didn't think so - she looked shocked that we weren't interested. She even tried to give us some monogrammed glasses that were her Mothers "for when we have them all over". I told her that for our once a year chili dinner they were not necessary . MIL also loves to visit people - thinks she is doing them a favor staying all day. When I was in the hospital after giving birth by csection my inlaws were there from 6:00 a.m. to 7 p.m.!!!!!! ALL DAY!!!!!

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

I think I may be weird, but I really don't like having company for more than a day's visit. My sister has come for weeks at a time when she was between jobs and apartments, and I love her, but a few days would have been plenty. My in-laws stay for a couple days occassionally, and even that is uncomfortable. Maybe I am selfish and set in my ways but I can't relax and feel comfortable when there are other people in the house and I have to consider the noise factors, our mutual privacy, meals, how to keep them entertained, and it doesn't help that I have a home office and need to be working while they're here. I never feel relaxed or at ease. I miss my boring comfortable routines, and being alone with DH to enjoy those boring comfortable routines. I know other people who just love the whirl of a house full of company (like my I-Ls) and can't understand why I don't enjoy it. Do you love it, hate it, or tolerate it, when you have overnight guests?

You sound just like me!! I could have wrote this post myself. I had company about 2 weeks ago (my 22 y/o niece) for the week. I was ready for her to go after like day 2. It's not just her, though. I've felt like that with granparents and my parents! Like I (just like you said) can't relax considering noise factors, privacy, meals and entertainment. We don't have children and I was wondering (with the way you worded your post "I miss my boring comfortable routines, and being alone with DH to enjoy those boring comfortable routines.") if you too do not have children? After the DNiece left I said to DH, "Maybe we're just not meant to have children because I couldn't stand having someone else around 24/7." And he said, "I was thinking the same thing! Like definately do better when it's just the two of us." I try and be a gracious host and I do a good job of it but it's definately better when it's just DH and me and our boring routine.

 

[punkin]

It depends. My sister's family I can handle for about a week. Everyone else, three days tops.

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

....snipped..... MIL also loves to visit people - thinks she is doing them a favor staying all day. When I was in the hospital after giving birth by csection my inlaws were there from 6:00 a.m. to 7 p.m.!!!!!! ALL DAY!!!!!

Speaking of this, I hate it when I go and visit someone and they make me feel like I can't leave! Like when I say, "Well, I must be going now." And they say something like, "So soon? Don't leave yet. You just got here. You can't leave yet I haven't seen you in a long time don't go yet we've so much more we could talk about.... Here why don't you have another cup of tea? Let me get it for you." And before you know it you're strapped to a cup of tea wondering what just happened here? Let me leave already!!!

 

[CanadianPaco]

Not a fan! Nope! But when it does happen, I give the house an extra good cleaning. So I guess that's a good thing!