Do you cuss?

[kwelch10377]

"They are just words. They don't actually harm anyone." "No different than using the word squat "

(Sorry for not using the quote feature- I am on my phone and I can't figure it out!)

If you understand that there are times that you should sensor your language, then wouldn't you think that those words might harm someone, and that they are stronger than the word squat? If the f bomb and squat were the same, you would say it in front of anyone, wouldn't you?

I'm not trying to be difficult, but it completely irks me when people justify cursing by saying that curse words are " just words", no different than any other. They are different, or you wouldn't sensor yourself.

People censor themselves all the time based on situations, whether it is the words they use or the topics they talk about. People don't sensor themselves not necessarily to avoid harming someone but to show respect for another person's feelings.

 

[emer95]

Kneeling on a Lego is even worse than stepping on one. I had an imprint from that thing on my knee for the rest of the day. I had to swear. There were only certain words which could fully express how I felt when it happened.

You are correct! I got a Lego deep under my knee cap once. I was in too much pain to even make a sound. It was one of those hold-your-breath moments. I've never really gotten over it.

 

[aaarcher86]

I don't really think it is harming anyone, but I do find the F word to be pretty useless. Most of the time, it is used as a word that is just extra and not needed to get your message across. For example, "What the (bleep) are you doing?" can be asked without using that word, and it will still garner the same response.

Pity. It's one of my favorites.

 

[aaarcher86]

Not physically harm. And I've read the explanations. I still think it is dumb to say that the f bomb is no different than any other word. It IS different, or you (general you) would not feel the need to "mold the behavior" as you say. If you really felt that cursing were not a big deal, then wouldn't you just curse in front of kids and anyone else? Cursing does have some impact if you recognize you need to sensor yourself in some situations.

Not really. It's just a courtesy given depending upon the situation.

 

[sookie]

I have come up with new cuss words after stepping / falling because of legos.

Those things were made by the devil himself.

 

[smitch425]

I have come up with new cuss words after stepping / falling because of legos.

Those things were made by the devil himself.

I shout out made up words all of the time for a similar reason, but my "stepping nemesis" is a Power Ranger. With 200+ of them in DS's room, it is usually inevitable.

 

[CaliBear]

I don't really think it is harming anyone, but I do find the F word to be pretty useless. Most of the time, it is used as a word that is just extra and not needed to get your message across. For example, "What the (bleep) are you doing?" can be asked without using that word, and it will still garner the same response.

The F word is a thing of beauty. It can be used as a noun, verb, adjective and an exclamation and everyone knows exactly what you mean in each instance.

 

[tennvalgirl]

The F word is a thing of beauty. It can be used as a noun, verb, adjective and an exclamation and everyone knows exactly what you mean in each instance.

Yep. A thing of beauty

 

[Disneyland1084]

I tend to use the F word when I drive. If I think a car is going to cut me off or slam into me, I say a few other foul words as well.

 

[valleygirl1992]

Never. I swear.

 

[denisem]

F'in A!

Doubt I'm alone, but can easily refrain from swearing among those I choose.

OTOH, thanks to DH, a particular friend of his, and the internet...I've discovered curse words/phrases that are truly works of art.

(Blast from the past! I once received a 25% raise back in the 80's (!) from a tyrannical boss by a single choicely placed curse word. It took "that" to gain his attention and respect.)

 

[sunshinehighway]

"They are just words. They don't actually harm anyone." "No different than using the word squat "

(Sorry for not using the quote feature- I am on my phone and I can't figure it out!)

If you understand that there are times that you should sensor your language, then wouldn't you think that those words might harm someone, and that they are stronger than the word squat? If the f bomb and squat were the same, you would say it in front of anyone, wouldn't you?

I'm not trying to be difficult, but it completely irks me when people justify cursing by saying that curse words are " just words", no different than any other. They are different, or you wouldn't sensor yourself.

You sure about that?

If you don't like using certain words, great don't use them. I really can't understand the need to argue with other adults about what you think they shouldn't say. You don't like hearing certain words? Too bad. Be an adult and get over it. There are lots of things I would rather not hear but, I don't rule the world so it's not my place to tell other v people what to say.

 

[MomRN]

OP here- that the words "cuss" and "potty mouth" even tend to get some people riled up. I understand though... my husband, who swears quite often, hates the words "hate" and "sucks." I guess we all have words that grate our nerves.

I work in a hospital, as a nurse, and my coworkers curse more than any other group you've seen. An abnormal lab or test can bring a series of profanities that would make a sailor look like an amateur. However, we are able to stay professional with our patients. There have been cases where a patient would use an inappropriate word and immediately be embarrassed by the faux pas. In those cases I have been known to use a mild word to emphasize that is okay to use that language in my presence, particularly when not directed at me but at the situation. If it releases a little stress, I'd rather someone vent it out.

In the case of my son, I would probably curse more openly if it wasn't for his Tourette Syndrome. Since he has already told me that "sometimes his mind wants his mouth to say bad words" even though he knows they are wrong, I have to do my best so that he doesn't pick up a word and start ticcing it. In other settings, I respect everyone's beliefs and feelings, and it takes sometime to know a person before you are able to gage what they may be consider inappropriate.

Typically, my vocabulary isn't very colorful. However, when I'm in one of those moods where everything and anything is going to _______ (fill in the blank to your own choose of word or words), it gets fired up. Every other word in my thoughts are probably words someone would find inappropriate, and at least one slides out into every sentence spoken. My filter only works so well.

 

[mhfrau]

You are missing my point. Some posters have said that curse words are just words, yet they tone their language down around children or in settings where I assume they feel they may offend someone. Why tone it down if they are just words?

Oh I am getting your point loud and clear. I'm just curious about something. Do you walk stark naked around in front of your children? Do you and your husband take a wild hair and throw down in hot monkey love on the dining room table during the annual holiday dinner with all the relatives? Because following your logic, if it is ok to do something in private, then you should be able to do it an any time, anywhere whether or not kids or your grandma is around.

Look, I respect that you aren't comfortable with someone dropping the F-bomb, and if I knew you and was aware of your feelings then I probably would be very careful to not make you uncomfortable, simply out of common courtesy. But whether you like or not, they are just words. And just like you have the right to feel the way you do, it doesn't mean that other people are wrong for their opinion. It doesn't make them lacking in couth.

 

[marcyinPA]

Oh I am getting your point loud and clear. I'm just curious about something. Do you walk stark naked around in front of your children? Do you and your husband take a wild hair and throw down in hot monkey love on the dining room table during the annual holiday dinner with all the relatives? Because following your logic, if it is ok to do something in private, then you should be able to do it an any time, anywhere whether or not kids or your grandma is around.

Look, I respect that you aren't comfortable with someone dropping the F-bomb, and if I knew you and was aware of your feelings then I probably would be very careful to not make you uncomfortable, simply out of common courtesy. But whether you like or not, they are just words. And just like you have the right to feel the way you do, it doesn't mean that other people are wrong for their opinion. It doesn't make them lacking in couth.

I don't see the connections at all in your analogies, but at this point, I will agree to disagree. Isn't it great that we are free to have our own opinion?!

 

[MIGrandma]

I think that people who do curse as part of their regular language have no self-control, no class, and makes the person sound less intelligent.

I totally agree.

I rarely curse, and if I do it's a very mild word if I'm super frustrated and I don't do it out in public for everyone else to hear.

And I think people who think this are ignorant snobs. YMMV.

Ignorant? Really? Ignorant means lacking knowledge. I think everyone knows enough about curse words to form an opinion about them, so no, they are not ignorant. You may feel they are snobs, but really they're not ignorant. Sorry, but throwing that word out there always annoys me. As if having a different opinion than someone makes them ignorant. It doesn't. They just have a different opinion.

 

[HM]

No. I was not brought up by people who cuss.
I wish less cussing occurred in tv and movies. I don't understand why every other word is F this and F that.

 

[sunshinehighway]

I totally agree.

I rarely curse, and if I do it's a very mild word if I'm super frustrated and I don't do it out in public for everyone else to hear.



Ignorant? Really? Ignorant means lacking knowledge. I think everyone knows enough about curse words to form an opinion about them, so no, they are not ignorant. You may feel they are snobs, but really they're not ignorant. Sorry, but throwing that word out there always annoys me. As if having a different opinion than someone makes them ignorant. It doesn't. They just have a different opinion.

It really makes no sense to have such a harsh opinion of people who swear when you occasionally do so yourself. If you get super frustrated and swear do you think it means you are less intelligent, have no self control or no class?
If not, why is it OK for you when you are frustrated but not ok for someone else?

 

[mhfrau]

I don't see the connections at all in your analogies, but at this point, I will agree to disagree. Isn't it great that we are free to have our own opinion?!

Absolutely. If everyone thought the same way, there would be no entertaining threads on the Disboards. Groupthink is boring. Now I've got to go to get naked and walk through the grocery store, so have a ****ing great day

 

[kellyg403]

Yes, I do. I am controlled at work and socially when I am around people I know don't curse. But I have been known to use a few not so nice words when I get riled up.

I have even made curse words up, like the time my son in a temper fit threw his matchbox car that hit the bridge of my nose. While the spots in front of my eyes were clearing up, I was saying stuff even my dh couldn't understand. But he said it sounded bad.



Kelly