Do you and your DH/DW/SO go to bed together?

[SunFloridaDisney]

Um, no. DH works night shift, so for him, 7:30 a.m. is bedtime. I'm up working by about 5:30, and go to bed anywhere from 10 to midnight, depending. Only on the weekends are we sleeping at the same time, and even then, with our differing internal body clocks, its always different times.

 

[crz4mm2]

No we dont. At least most nights. He gets up very early so goes to bed very early. I go after him most nights.
He does wait up for me some nights though
We've been married over 26 years so guess it hasn't hurt us much.

 

[Jackie0824]

We dont either. I think maybe we did when we first got married but not anymore.Now, after the last child goes to bed, which is the baby, then I go to bed right after that. Really I just lay in bed and watch tv unil I fall asleep,sometimes in minutes. Normally my husband stays down stairs and watches tv, because I dont like his shows. I have a lineup I tape on TIVO each day, and like to see some of those before bed.

 

[froglady]

DH is another who likes to fall asleep with the TV on, while I like to read, but can't with the TV on. He has started falling asleep on the couch, then comes upstairs later. He still wakes me when he gets into bed, but it's better than waking up because the TV's on, and searching for the remote.

I used to stay awake until DD got home, but since this is her last year of college, and she's home so rarely, I don't anymore. It drives DH crazy that I can fall asleep while she's out, and he'll wake me up to let me know she's not home yet.

DS is allowed to stay up until midnight (at home) on the weekends. I don't stay up until then, but if he stays up later he pays the price the next day. (tired and cranky)

My SIL's DH gets petulant if she doesn't go to bed the same time he does. He also makes her take a nap (he's 74, she's 60) when he does on vacation, weekends, and has been doing so since he retired 10 years ago. She just retired, so I assume it's a daily thing now.

 

[poohbear1029]

If we notice we are both fading on the couch, sometimes I will suggest we finish watching TV in bed, so we crash there instead of the couch....but most of the time I go to bed first....and now that I am pregnant it is sometimes hours before DH goes to bed. Typically he then falls asleep on the couch and comes to bed in the middle of the night.

Call me a bad wife...but if I wake up to pee and he still isnt in bed, I know he is alseep on the couch and I dont go get him! To battle him awake enough to go to bed would wake me up too much and then I couldnt go back to sleep, and i need my beauty sleep or I get cranky!!!

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

Unfortunately, we're just like the OP describes...

 

[justhat]

Well, we used to be sorta like the OP describes in that my husband always wanted us to go to bed at the same time. Problem was that he needs to go to bed much earlier than me so I wasn't always thrilled about that so it didn't happen everynight. Then came our daughter and his 3rd year of medical school and life changed. I was up with the baby all hours of the night (and all day) and 3rd year started his rotations, where he was working 80+ hours a week so we both did what we had to do. For him that meant going to bed around 8:30 during some rotations (primary his OB/GYN rotation when he was getting up around 4am) while I stayed up till around 11. Ever since then (1.5 years ago) he no longer cares when I go to bed. He learned that he was exhausted and had to sleep, and staying up just for the sake of going to bed with me was ridiculous, as was expecting that I go to bed at 8pm, so he gave all that up.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

I can honestly say that DH & I almost NEVER go to bed at the same time. I usually go up to bed around 10:00 while he stays down on the couch watching the Golf Channel. Now if anything will put you to sleep, that will!

 

[CharlesTD]

Nope I work 3-11 so my DW is allways in bed when I get home and then I watch TV till about 3 AM and she is up at 6 AM for work. Even on nights I have off I never go to bed when she does.

 

[swankybeth]

Rarely. I'm usually tired before him so I go to bed earlier. Weeknights I try to go to bed around 10 and he goes to bed 11 or later. We both have to be up at 5:30 am for work, I just need more sleep than he does!

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Almost every night we do, but usually after 10 or 15 minutes of me laying there trying, I end up coming in and DISing for a bit!

 

[Lachesis00]

Almost never... It's 50/50 who goes to bed/sleep sooner...

 

[Marseeya]

Wow. I hope I don't offend anyone, but it sounds awfully controlling for one to expect the other to go to bed when they're not tired! I couldn't live with someone like that.

Needless to say, DH and I don't go to bed together. He stays up past midnight and I like going to bed by 10:00 or so. I'd never expect him to go to bed with me, but sometimes I ask him to come lie down so we can snuggle or talk.

 

[Planogirl]

No way! My DH falls asleep early and I'm a night owl. Besides who spent to spend time together sleeping?

 

[Papa Deuce]

We hit the sack together about once a month.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Only on the weekends. DH is a milkman and gets up at 1:00 am. So he goes to bed around 7:30 pm. He also tosses and turns alot so better that I am not there.

Jean

They still have those?

 

[Ava83]

Not on weekdays (most of the time). I have to be working by 6 am so I am in bed once the baby is down. He does not have to be up till 8 am. Oh and he is a night owl.

 

[froglady]

Forgot to add that when DH DOES come to bed when I do, it usually means something, if you get my drift.

 

[Planogirl]

Forgot to add that when DH DOES come to bed when I do, it usually means something, if you get my drift.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

We usually go to bed at the same time. Not really for any romantic reasons, though , but more practical. If I go to bed first and have just fallen asleep and he comes in and I wake up, I can not get back to sleep for a long time. So I would rather just wait for him. Problem is he falls asleep right away and then often snores, so even this is not ideal. So I jab him in the side and tell him to turn over and to stop snoring.