Do you agree

[PEANUT1]

I agree about adding them to the reservations if you can...then you can show up with or without them. You will have no problem being seated if you have less people in your party. I am sure they just don't understand and want to be more spontaneous. We have friends like that too...they want to just go with the flow.

 

[holly7347]

No I don't think you are wrong not booking them anything. They told you not to and you did what they said. It might not hurt to ask one more time and sort of explain why you think that planning is important - mention they might not be able to find any place nice to eat dinner on busy nights or they might have to wait a long time. If they say no again what else can you do? You tried and you shouldn't let them ruin your vacation. Some people just aren't planners and if that is what works for them great, they may still have a wonderful time.

 

[Kaler131]

It seems like you tried to help....so don't worry about it. Some people just hurt themselves by being so stubborn. My in-laws can tend to be like that sometimes. If they think they know better than you, just sit back and enjoy yourself and let them figure out what they need to do.....

 

[brockash]

I had this posted on another thread but got no responses. We are hoping somebody agrees with us so we don't keep questioning ourselves DH and I are wondering if we are wrong. We take my family to Disney with us every other yr and I plan it all. I plan the entire vaca with meals,shows etc. I LOVE and NEED to do this Never has there been a problem or disagreement everyone goes and has a great time. This yr we are taking my inlaws. They do not want me to plan anything I tried explaining we are going in Dec which is very busy once again told not to plan anything. They are very stubborn and when they say something that is it. I did book one dinner the last night we are there. I just didn't want to make them adr that I know they would not show up for. MY DH said this is our vaca and not to worry about them. We have all adr plus MVMCP, Candelight Procession etc. Are we wrong on not booking them anything? Thanks

Not at all. You're totally right, especially with the time of year you're going. You can't just wing it. I'd plan everything you want to, and then let them know your plan for YOUR family, and if they'd like to join great, if not, well that's not in your control. You can control the type of vaca. YOUR family has. I say plan like you want to for your family and have a great time!

 

[ktlm]

My inlaws, especially when my SIL and her husband go too, don't travel the way we do at all. We like to do and see everything, eat at nice places, stay at nice hotels etc. If we spend the money to go somewhere, we don't just want to sit around while we are there. They can sit in the hotel room for hours, see maybe 1-2 things out of 60; and spend an hour somewhere that we would stay most of the day and be ready to leave. It used to drive me crazy because I went nuts just sitting there and felt really guilty if we did everything without them. My DH used to always tell me let's just do our own thing, join them here and there if it is something we want to do, and let them join us if they wanted to or if it was not to late to get tickets, reservations, etc. He always said his parents would understand. After a while, I gave up feeling guilty or missing out on things and now that is what we do. We usually don't even stay in the same hotel they do on trips, because they go for whatever is cheaper and we go for atmosphere. It works out fine and now we always have a good time with very little stress. We don't know what BIL might say behind our back, but we don't care either. You shouldn't have to give up all the things you like or want to do on your vacation. I agree just add them to some reservations so that if they get there and want to go with you they can. The rest of the stuff, you have told them what you are going to do and have given them the option to do it with you- the rest is up to them.

 

[Disneydonnam]

My inlaws, especially when my SIL and her husband go too, don't travel the way we do at all. We like to do and see everything, eat at nice places, stay at nice hotels etc. If we spend the money to go somewhere, we don't just want to sit around while we are there. They can sit in the hotel room for hours, see maybe 1-2 things out of 60; and spend an hour somewhere that we would stay most of the day and be ready to leave. It used to drive me crazy because I went nuts just sitting there and felt really guilty if we did everything without them. My DH used to always tell me let's just do our own thing, join them here and there if it is something we want to do, and let them join us if they wanted to or if it was not to late to get tickets, reservations, etc. He always said his parents would understand. After a while, I gave up feeling guilty or missing out on things and now that is what we do. We usually don't even stay in the same hotel they do on trips, because they go for whatever is cheaper and we go for atmosphere. It works out fine and now we always have a good time with very little stress. We don't know what BIL might say behind our back, but we don't care either. You shouldn't have to give up all the things you like or want to do on your vacation. I agree just add them to some reservations so that if they get there and want to go with you they can. The rest of the stuff, you have told them what you are going to do and have given them the option to do it with you- the rest is up to them.

Thank You DH and I are happy with our decision and are not going to worry about them. Maybe after this trip they will realize that sometimes I do know what I am talking about