Do Wishes Really Come True?

[RN2BIA]

Hi! My DH is the crazed one in our family. He is on this board several times a day. Most of our conversations start with "we have a problem" or " I read a post" (His problem is usually in his planning and not with our daily living)

I wish my DH took as much interest in me as he does this trip and this board. Perhaps if I order a Minnie costume from Disney Shopping and dress up in it he just might listen and pay attention to me. There are days when I wish that we were not going on this trip. We have an anniversary coming up and he seems not to care about any dates except the day we leave for Walt Disney World.

So Tinker Bell where ever you are... please sprinkle some of your pixie dust on me and perhaps DH would think I was magical again too.

Thanks for letting me vent....

 

[dmslush]

You know, I always said that going to WDW is what put the spark back in my relationship with SO! Why not join in on his interests? Help him plan the trip, plan something fabulous like Victoria and Alberts to honor your anniversary.

 

[grinningghost]

Getting in on the planning is probably a great idea. If you can't get excited about that, maybe just hanging out on the Community Board and making a some new friends would be fun. There are times when I'm not planning a trip that I go ONLY to the CB. Oh, and welcome!

 

[Tinkerbellmom33]

I was just going to say the same thing. Start reading the boards and join in what he is doing. I've done it with baseball and football and he's done it with these boards. I've felt the same the same way in the past and met him half way. There's so much to read here, that you can't help but caught up in it. He's just so excited and trying to make your trip the best it can be.



Dreams do come true...

 

[MinnieNurse]

I agree get involved in the planning. My DH is a big time hunter. HE and DS spend alot of time at the deer lease. I have found that if I get involved in what they are doing he gets really excited. He is not a big disney nut like myself-he likes it. However, he knows it is what I enjoy so he gets involved. We have a deal. I let him hunt I can go to WDW every year. Our family really does everything together and really have a great time no matter what we are doing. I bet he his probably working so hard on this trip thinking it will be something special for you too! Get involved in the MAGIC, its a blast.

I do hope Tinker Bell hears your cry for help. And I do believe wishes really do come true-especially at WDW.

 

[RN2BIA]

Thanks for the support. I have tried with the planning I even listen when he has an interesting post to talk about. I even helped him design a spread sheet to do his daily planning on. I would love to do something truly romantic while we are at WDW but what do I do with my kids 5 & 7? I would love to sit next to him on a roller coaster and hold his hand. But I don't dare let the kids ride together DD would freak out. Don't get me wrong... I love him dearly. He is an awesome dad and a great provider. He deserves this trip - he takes such good care of all of us. (he has been really cute to watch when he gets giddy about something) But I remember when he used to meet me at the door or call me while at work just to say hello. I am sure that some of you remember what it was like before kids - that hand holding, quick smooching, and those smiles that made you know.... out of all the women on this planet he picked me!!!

I wish I could think of something really neat, cute, and somewhat romantic etc to do for him before the trip so he would know.... that I remember why out of all the men on this planet I picked him.

Thanks for the support... I will try and find the CB so I can make some Minnie friends.

 

[MINNIEBOWSER]

Welcome to the boards! And I do agree with everyone else. Try joining him in the planning. I am the planner and my husband sometimes get aggravated with me spending so much time with my Disney planning. I would LOVE it if he joined me. He will not, but it would make me really happy if he did. I hope you give it a try, you might find it very magical.

 

[MINNIEBOWSER]

Oh dear. I just read your post after I sent my reply. Maybe you could try one of the babysitting services while you are at WDW. Like maybe the one at the Poly and you two could have a nice dinner together alone. Or, send the kids on the Pirate Cruise while you eat at The Grand Floridian. Maybe some other dissers will have some better ideas. I am sure there is something you can plan for just the two of you. Good luck!!!

 

[RN2BIA]

What is a Pirate Cruise for the kids? How do I find out more?

 

[dmslush]

Thanks for the support. I have tried with the planning I even listen when he has an interesting post to talk about. I even helped him design a spread sheet to do his daily planning on. I would love to do something truly romantic while we are at WDW but what do I do with my kids 5 & 7? I would love to sit next to him on a roller coaster and hold his hand. But I don't dare let the kids ride together DD would freak out. Don't get me wrong... I love him dearly. He is an awesome dad and a great provider. He deserves this trip - he takes such good care of all of us. (he has been really cute to watch when he gets giddy about something) But I remember when he used to meet me at the door or call me while at work just to say hello. I am sure that some of you remember what it was like before kids - that hand holding, quick smooching, and those smiles that made you know.... out of all the women on this planet he picked me!!!

I wish I could think of something really neat, cute, and somewhat romantic etc to do for him before the trip so he would know.... that I remember why out of all the men on this planet I picked him.

Thanks for the support... I will try and find the CB so I can make some Minnie friends.

I agree that you need to use the babysitting service at the resort you are going to stay at. Start threads, do searches and find out what there is for the kids to do while you and hubby have some romantic time together. I am going to give you my 'don't let the kids be the center of your world speech' so please be patient with me:

I have a ton of friends who are in the middle of divorces or have recently divorced. The common factor in these divorces are that the kids are grown. It seems that husband and wife changed to mom and dad. Mom and dad centered their lives around the children for 18 years. The center of everyday was the children, their school, their homework, their ball games, their bed times, their laundry, their meals, their everything. Mom and dad were tired and didn't have time to devote to each other. Vacations were all about the kids. Everything was about the kids. Mom and dad lost wife and husband sometime during the time the kids were growing up. When the kids left home, mom and dad didn't have anything left in common, and didn't have any bonds because the kids were the only thing they had in common and the only bond that they had.

So, the moral of the story is to put your marriage first and everything else will fall into play. If mom and dad aren't happy and loving, it isn't a happy and loving home for the kids. Your spouse is who you want to grow old with not your children. So, you have to make time for the spouse NOW in order to stay connected.

Get out the planning guides, ask husband to help find a sitter during part of you disney stay. Tell him that you want to go out one night to the parks with him ALONE. Tell him that you want to ride BESIDE him, eat across from him, and kiss him in front of a twinkling castle because he is your prince!

 

[pooh2001]

Check out...
http://www.allearsnet.com/pl/grandadven.htm

Below is great for kids aged 5 & 7 (they can sit together) boys or girls

Pirate Adventure - Children wear pirate bandannas and follow clues to search Bay Lake and the Seven Seas Lagoon for buried treasure. They sail to many exotic "ports of call" (Resort Marinas) to collect treasure. Children who are potty trained (no pull-ups) and ages 4-10 may attend. Lunch is provided (Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich, Gummy bears, Krispy Treat and Juice box).


Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday 9:30 - 11:30 a.m.
Available to all guests, Cost is $28.17 plus tax.
Reservations 90 days in advance 407-WDW-DINE


We sent our kids on the Pirate cruise a few years ago.
DH & I had a great late breakfast at the GF Cafe.
No interuptions to our conversation.
A wonderful 2 hours for us and the kids.

 

[PolyPal]

I am the "WDW planner" in our family, too. My wife and kids think I am nuts (sometimes!). My wife will ask me, "What are you looking at spending so much time on the computer?" I think she thinks I am looking at internet por.....when I am always on the DIS...well, you get the picture!

We just got back from our 10th WDW vacation in 19 years (our plan was to go every other year, so we are on schedule!) I think I finally figured out my "planning addiction" this past trip when I got the family up at 5:30 a.m to be on a bus at 6:15 a.m to get to the Magic Kingdom by the 7:00 a.m. EMH opening. (Keep in mind that my wife thinks the "crack of dawn" is right around 9:30 a.m.) It was still dark when we left the Swan, we were the first people on a dark bus. There in the dark it hit me. My planning a Disney vacation is alot like women planning weddings. No disrespect intended, but most brides go nuts with the planning just like I throw myself into WDW planning. Maybe I need a 12 step program

We got to MK before sunrise! That's a first! We also got to do Buzz twice, the Tomorrowland Speedway, Dumbo, Teacups twice, Peter Pan, and Small World all before 9:30.

So what am I doing on a Sunday morning before everyone is out of bed? Planning our next WDW vacation of course!

 

[RN2BIA]

Check out...
http://www.allearsnet.com/pl/grandadven.htm

Below is great for kids aged 5 & 7 (they can sit together) boys or girls

Pirate Adventure - Children wear pirate bandannas and follow clues to search Bay Lake and the Seven Seas Lagoon for buried treasure. They sail to many exotic "ports of call" (Resort Marinas) to collect treasure. Children who are potty trained (no pull-ups) and ages 4-10 may attend. Lunch is provided (Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich, Gummy bears, Krispy Treat and Juice box).


Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday 9:30 - 11:30 a.m.
Available to all guests, Cost is $28.17 plus tax.
Reservations 90 days in advance 407-WDW-DINE


We sent our kids on the Pirate cruise a few years ago.
DH & I had a great late breakfast at the GF Cafe.
No interuptions to our conversation.
A wonderful 2 hours for us and the kids.

This sounds wonderful...... I am emailing the site to my husband.
Thanks!!!!!!!!!!

 

[disnut8]

I think with the help of this board, your wishes really did come true. Send the kids on the pirates adventure (we did this with our six year old granddaughter and she loved it) and enjoy a nice morning with your husband. And always remember that Disney World has something for everyone. Find what YOU want and then enjoy with everyone. I turned my husband into a big Off Kilter fan. He now has me looking for ospreys and bald eagles when we are there. Disney World has brought us closer together.