Do people make you feel terrible for fun?

[Cassidy]

Simple question, not much.
My dad gave me the choice to leave the school I currently go to because these four girls have been 'picking' on me for the past year.
I'm not talking about some girls who talk behind your back.
It's way worse. Like, just in two hours, I lost six friends.
That's how terrible it is.


Do they do it for their own pleasure?

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Girls do stuff like that to make the other person feel terrible.
Girls can be vicious.
I'm sorry that happened, Cassidy.
Atleast your finding your true friends and learning a good lesson.
If people treat you in a bad way once, leave them.

 

[Cassidy]

Girls do stuff like that to make the other person feel terrible.
Girls can be vicious.
I'm sorry that happened, Cassidy.
Atleast your finding your true friends and learning a good lesson.
If people treat you in a bad way once, leave them.

Yeah, right.
That's exactly what I'm doing.
So, counting, I have exactly..
NONE.

 

[Dr.Pluto]

Simple question, not much.
My dad gave me the choice to leave the school I currently go to because these four girls have been 'picking' on me for the past year.
I'm not talking about some girls who talk behind your back.
It's way worse. Like, just in two hours, I lost six friends.
That's how terrible it is.


Do they do it for their own pleasure?

im terriably sorry to hear that. gurls can be really mean at times but gurls like tink r nice. i lost my best friend once cuz of a girl. they r probly just doing it to impress a more popular gurl then them so they can be ccept into a clique or something. one again im veary sorry

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Yeah, right.
That's exactly what I'm doing.
So, counting, I have exactly..
NONE.

You definitely are.
If these people didnt show there true feelings, then you might have still considered them friends.
Now you can rule them out as true friends.

You'll find them soon enough.
Just be patient.

 

[Cassidy]

I've been looking and wanting friends ever since I moved here.
I failed.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

I've been looking and wanting friends ever since I moved here.
I failed.

It takes time.
How long have you lived there?

 

[GoofysOnlyGirl]

I am so sorry that happened.
That sounds a lot about what happened my 8th grade year. Like I would get picked on, teased, harrased all the time. My mom worked at the school, and everyone hated her, because of something she did not even do, her intern did, and they just took it out on me. It was the worst year of my life and drove me to severe depression.
I had a choice to switch schools, but I decided to stick it out since it was my 8th grade year.

Girls are just absolutly horrible to each other. I don't know why, but they are. :[
Is there anyone in your classes that you may not be close friends with but are friendly to you and would accept you to hang out with them. I would suggest that. If you really feel it is a problem I would switch schools. Once I started highschool way across town I never had to see those girls again. I found amazing friends who truly will lay down there lives for me and I for them.

Just hang in there, and know you always have us on the Dis to make you feel absolutly amazing and wonderful.

 

[Cassidy]

It takes time.
How long have you lived there?

Almost five years.

 

[Fatphil32]

Question:

Are you going out & trying or are you sitting in the passengers seat? If the latter, you have to be the initiator. I use to just sit back hoping someone would call me in 7th grade & I had a lousy year. Well, last year I went out & made sure I had something to do & now this year, freshman year, I've always got something going on, wether I plan it or not. You have to make sure people know you're trustworthy, first & foremost. That's my best quality is that you can trust me with everything & people see that.

Just go out there & open up to people. Find someone & tell them things no one else knows. They'll appreciate that & return the favor & boom, you have a true friend.

But, it's going to take time... As for people picking on you, I was never bullied & still not, so I can't answer that.

 

[imabrat]

Girls are evil and vile. I swear they are the worst creature known to mankind.

Cass, if this has been going on for a while, have you talked to a Guidance Counselor at school? They really can help.
Honestly, if these friends are leaving you for "better" people, you know what kind of friend they were.

Also, from personal experiance, people you wouldn't think would be your friend, want to. I'm not saying you hang with a certain "type", but there are other "types" who are pretty great friends too.

 

[Cassidy]

Question:

Are you going out & trying or are you sitting in the passengers seat? If the latter, you have to be the initiator. I use to just sit back hoping someone would call me in 7th grade & I had a lousy year. Well, last year I went out & made sure I had something to do & now this year, freshman year, I've always got something going on, wether I plan it or not. You have to make sure people know you're trustworthy, first & foremost. That's my best quality is that you can trust me with everything & people see that.

Just go out there & open up to people. Find someone & tell them things no one else knows. They'll appreciate that & return the favor & boom, you have a true friend.

But, it's going to take time... As for people picking on you, I was never bullied & still not, so I can't answer that.

You're lucky.
I've tried. Many, many times. I just failed, so I stopped trying.
Their's no use to trying. I fail everytime, so why try?

 

[Cassidy]

Girls are evil and vile. I swear they are the worst creature known to mankind.

Cass, if this has been going on for a while, have you talked to a Guidance Counselor at school? They really can help.
Honestly, if these friends are leaving you for "better" people, you know what kind of friend they were.

Also, from personal experiance, people you wouldn't think would be your friend, want to. I'm not saying you hang with a certain "type", but there are other "types" who are pretty great friends too.

Thousands of times. He didn't help at all. Actually, he made it worse. They called the girls in there, and they started calling me terrible names, and said I couldn't stand up for myself.
And I can't. All I want to do is slap them, but I can't.

 

[GoofysOnlyGirl]

You're lucky.
I've tried. Many, many times. I just failed, so I stopped trying.
Their's no use to trying. I fail everytime, so why try?

:[ Thats what I thought. I always used to be the outcast, then I realized I kept trying to be with people who just are not like me. Everyone in your grade/school cannot be vile. I am sure there must be one person you are not thinking of that is extremly nice to anyone and everyone and would be worth having as a friend. Hang in there. This is a tought time in all teens lives where we are just trying to be accepted and be ourselves at the same time. It is such a hard transition time.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

You're lucky.
I've tried. Many, many times. I just failed, so I stopped trying.
Their's no use to trying. I fail everytime, so why try?

Don't EVER give up on something you truly want.
Not everyone in your grade hates you. Not everyone in your grade is fake.
Like Sonya said, try hanging out with people outside of your circle. There are people who are probably just like you, and are looking for some real friends. Put yourself out there and show those who are trying to tear you down that they cant.

 

[Cassidy]

That's impossible.
Because they can tear me down. And they want too.

 

[GoofysOnlyGirl]

That's impossible.
Because they can tear me down. And they want too.

I am really really sorry. I hate seeing people go through this. All I can say is hang in there. Maybe try joining a sport/activity outside of school where nobody knows you. You would be able to meet people who enjoy the same things you do. :]

 

[Tinkerbell424]

That's impossible.
Because they can tear me down. And they want too.

Stay positive. They can't tear you down unless you allow them too. Stand up for yourself, Cassidy. Bullys suck, and you shouldnt be going through this.

 

[Fatphil32]

That's impossible.
Because they can tear me down. And they want too.

Don't let them tear you down. Sometimes people don't want to have thick skin. There's a lot of things that people say that can bring me down, but I don't let them. For every thing someone says to bring me down, I know that I've got someone else out there that will say something to put me up.

You just need to figure out who that person is.

 

[GoofysOnlyGirl]

Don't let them tear you down. Sometimes people don't want to have thick skin. There's a lot of things that people say that can bring me down, but I don't let them. For every thing someone says to bring me down, I know that I've got someone else out there that will say something to put me up.

You just need to figure out who that person is.

That is a good philosophy. I just found that person for me this year. I swear I could be in the worst mood in the world, ready to kill someone, yet he will say one sentence and turn my day around.

Try finding somebody like that. They may be right infront of your face and you don't even know it. The "friends" you have now are not worth your time at all. Again and hang in there. You will make it through this and become a stronger person.