OMG!! I loved the military Dh in the slippers - I've totally been there before.
With the princess shoes - I've given up on stopping those along time ago. DD6 has worn them so often she can run full sprints in them. The higher the heel the happier she is.
I constantly have the "bad mother stamp" on my chest for one thing or another. However the way my kids dress is now out of my hands because they get themselves dressed. But trust me there are days they come out of the house wearing things I just shake my head over. DD6's favorite outfit is usually a cheetah top, with matching cheetah skirt, some off color stretch pants and hot pink cowboy books. Yeah she's a star. DD9 is usually wearing colors that don't match and dress shoes with sweatpants. Yeah she's a winner. I just look the other way and smile.
Nine times out of ten neither has brushed their hair - which makes me crazy because DD6 has cowlicks all over her head. I try to brush their hair when I'm brushing my own, but then when they get dressed it's a mess again.
Hey we're all human and as long as the kids are happy who cares!