DL Cast Member told me my sons name is weird

[Tink888]

My oldest son and my husband are both Sean. Spelled the right way.

LOL - I always say that too.

 

[Blessed99]

My 9 yr old DD's name is Kamryn, Most people automatically write Cameron. I didn't think about it being spelled correctly when she was born, I had 2 reasons for spelling it that way,

1) All the girls in my family since 1967 are spelled with a K,

we have:
Kimberly, Kelly (me), Karren, Kerianne, Kamryn (dd), and Kaylah

2) I thought spelling it Kamryn looked more feminine when written.

Kelly

 

[KristaTX]

So she was trying to make it like "What CM would do this to your son's name?" She thought "Jaymes" was the wrong spelling and was trying to make you feel good (like "What kind of non-spelling CM's have we employed") and put down the CM that made the mistake. Immature, yes. But, I think she was actually trying to make you feel good.

Does that make sense?

I don't think she was trying to insult you at all. It just happened to be that she was commenting on your son's correct spelling.

I am sure she was mortified.

I would let it go.

 

[HugsForEeyore]

I have worked with kids for years (I am a children's librarian), and the uncommon/different spellings are more the norm nowadays. You almost have to expect it. The kid with the traditionally-spelled name is actually the unusual one, it seems! When I write kid's names down, I always ask for a spelling and spell it back to them to make sure I got it right.

 

[JR6ooo4]

what is wrong with setting an example of politeness by telling the CM it was rude how she spoke to you and to insult someone's name, etc...

Everyone says to "tell on her" to the manager so he/she can reprimand her. what if she really is clueless and mentioning how rude she was might help her realize it.

I am reminded of the homer simpson quote "can't someone else do it?"

Mikeeee

 

[AndyLL]

I don't get what the issue is... it is a weird spelling of James.

 

[harleyquinn]

I have worked with kids for years (I am a children's librarian), and the uncommon/different spellings are more the norm nowadays. You almost have to expect it. The kid with the traditionally-spelled name is actually the unusual one, it seems! When I write kid's names down, I always ask for a spelling and spell it back to them to make sure I got it right.

I'm a children's librarian too! I always think it's funny when people look at me strangely for asking them how they spell the simplest of names--Jaymes is a perfect example.

When you spell it differently, you have to expect issues.

BUT that gives no excuse for the rudeness. I would let it go, but then, I work with the public and one person telling me my child's name is stupid isn't going to kill me.

 

[harleyquinn]

I don't get what the issue is... it is a weird spelling of James.

If the CM said "weird" then I agree with you, but the OP says the CM said "stupid," which I think is rude.

 

[AndyLL]

If the CM said "weird" then I agree with you, but the OP says the CM said "stupid," which I think is rude.

The title said weird

 

[bumbershoot]

Assuming you remember the CM's name, I would call back, ask for a manager, and let them know that they need to retrain everyone to make sure to NOT make comments about peoples' names or spellings of names. I think it's important enough to let them know, even if you figure she already feels really bad (which she probably does since it sounds like it was a big blunder).

When my DD was 3, we were at a craft store, and the cashier heard me call her by name. She said, "Is her name Avery?" I told her that it was. She said, "Ugh! I HATE that name! My husband wanted to name our baby Avery, and I was like, EEWWW! It's such a stupid name for a girl!"

I have to be VERY careful in explaining my son's name, lest I do that to others. I have ALWAYS wanted to name a child a certain name, but it just so happens that everyone else in the country was naming their boys that name when DS arrived. I just coudln't do it, couldn't give him a name everyone else would have. Considered changing the spelling, but I personally can't do that either. (found out too late there's a Welsh spelling of it that would have worked) So I went back to the Irish baby names book and started over. But I have to be *careful* in how I say that, b/c obviously there are many people who do NOT care about having a popular name.

Obviously being the only Molly in my school until HS caused my inability to deal with commonly used names. Oh, and my best friends growing up were Venus and Lesha. Definitely not usual!

Definitely something to keep to herself. But she could have been talking about the incorrect spelling on the brick. Reminds me of the time when I had a doctor's appointment and was running late. A PA in training checked my BP and pulse. Then he said...holy smoke! I told him he might not want to say things like that around patients.

LOL. I once did Very Bad Things to my toe and toenail. Like, awful. Went to the Urgent Care place, and when the MD came in she looked at it and said "ew!" Okey dokey, let me leave now!

 

[harleyquinn]

The title said weird

The first post says "stupid"

 

[teacups]

Yes she said Stupid.

That was the issue, and of course I cant get her tone across here. It was pretty insulting, but she did think the Y was the wrong part. I hope she got off the phone and thought about how STUPID it was of her to say that. I wouldnt want her to get fired for it for goodness sakes, but she seemed to be a big mouth in a couple different ways.

I think Avery is adorable for a girl!
And Ashli, too!

The cashier in the craft store sounds a little of her rocker...

 

[teacups]

I interpreted this entirely differently. I took the CM's comment to mean "how stupid can the person who made the brick be b/c the correct spelling of the name is right there, spelled correctly. Can't the person who made the acrylic brick read?"

I didn't read it as a slight on your son's name or it's spelling. More like "What idiot who made the brick doesn't double check the spelling?!"

Maybe I'm odd but that's how I interpreted it.

No, this isnt the case, however that would have been much nicer!

 

[Planogirl]

I would not call. People are human (even CM's) and if she was nice otherwise, I think that snitching on her would be unkind.

Besides it sounded like she was commenting on what she thought was a mispelling. Chances are that she's very embarassed and won't make a mistake like that again.

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

For goodness sake - if you choose to name your kid in an unusual way then you must understand that people will make mistakes. As others have said in that circumstance I would have 'assumed' the 'y' was inserted by mistake...and I would have taken the comment of 'stupid' to refer to the original person taking the order getting it wrong rather than you, as the parent being 'stupid' to spell the name like that. As for complaining....come on!

 

[teacups]

For goodness sake - if you choose to name your kid in an unusual way then you must understand that people will make mistakes. As others have said in that circumstance I would have 'assumed' the 'y' was inserted by mistake...and I would have taken the comment of 'stupid' to refer to the original person taking the order getting it wrong rather than you, as the parent being 'stupid' to spell the name like that. As for complaining....come on!

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

I guess I don't GET what the issue is....I think you just took what she said the wrong way...end of!

 

[JodyLynC]

For goodness sake - if you choose to name your kid in an unusual way then you must understand that people will make mistakes. As others have said in that circumstance I would have 'assumed' the 'y' was inserted by mistake...and I would have taken the comment of 'stupid' to refer to the original person taking the order getting it wrong rather than you, as the parent being 'stupid' to spell the name like that. As for complaining....come on!

I have to agree. It is an unusual spelling and people are likely to make mistakes. The question is was the CM saying "stupid" in reference to the error or your spelling of a common name? I assumed the CM was saying "stupid" in regards to the error. (Although stupid is a strong word and probably shouldn't be used by a CM no matter who/what they are referring to.) I would not have made the assumption that the CM was referring to a spelling. Perhaps this is something that you are sensitive to and simply misread the comment.

 

[Sleestack]

That is ridiculous of you to be saying that if you pick an unusual name you should assume and accept that people will be rude? I think that is crazy of you to even say. She clearly says the CM was rude, and clearly says she was an over-talker and yet some of you feel the need to tell the op she deserved it basically. Those posts are rude. The CM was rude, maybe not intentional but why are some of you so determined that the op is off in what she clearly heard and felt?

 

[corndog]

For goodness sake - if you choose to name your kid in an unusual way then you must understand that people will make mistakes. As others have said in that circumstance I would have 'assumed' the 'y' was inserted by mistake...and I would have taken the comment of 'stupid' to refer to the original person taking the order getting it wrong rather than you, as the parent being 'stupid' to spell the name like that. As for complaining....come on!

I declare a thread winner!