Divorced moms/parents whatever, question for you.

[pyrxtc]

In MI whoever is getting the child for visitation does the driving. If it is only 2 times a month there is no reason he can't drive to get her.

That's what I think ! He doesn't pay for her insurance ot anything else for her so the least he can do is spend the time and gas to come and get her. I think what bothers me more is that my DD never realizes that she hasn't heard from her father for weeks and hasn't seen him for even longer. These next 6 weekends will go by and she won't see him and probably not even hear from him until he is coming to pick her up and then she will think about how long it has been.

And all the talk on the phone about using E-mail to contact him since he deosn't answer his phone or call back for over a week if even. Well I e-mailed him a few days ago and he hasn't gotten back to me. His deal on e-mail was he checks it every day and he'll be able to get back to me right away. Not Happening !

Did I mention that he is not even on any of her emergency contact lists ?! he doesn't answer his phone, ever, so I don't bother. The last time there was an emergency with her, I was only 20 minutes away and going to a hospital 10 minutes from where he was and he got mad at me for calling. DD wanted her dad there in the emergency room. She cut her foot and needed 14 stitches. He accused me of using her and trying to ruin his day since he was at a 4th of July party. She was 8 or 9 at the time.

 

[MO Nurse]

My son will be 16 in Jan. His father and I divorced before he was born. He was in and out of his life for the first 3 years until I told him you are there or not you won't have it both ways. I got tired of picking up the pieces after he broke promises to my child. From 3-13 his father never saw him once and never attempted to contact him. Then one day my son's grandmother sent someone to my place of work and asked if she could call my son. I did allow her to do that and then eventually his father wanted to start seeing him. I allowed that to start happening. My son spent time time with his father for 2 years. It was difficult because he continued to break promises, never called our son to just see how he was (my son always called him and most of the time his father never returned his calls) and it was hard not to say anything. I just keep hoping one day our son will see his father for what he truely is. This year my son hasn't visited his father at all and it hasn't phased his father at all.

I have at times met him half way to pick my son up and his father lives 2 hours aways. My suggestion would be to meet him half way when you can but I wouldn't go out of my way for it. It's his responsibility to arrange the pick up/drop of of your child when it's his visitation. If he was that interested in your child he would be there when he's suppose to be and when your daughter needs and wants him there. I know how hard it's to see the disappointment in their faces and even wipe the tears when their father isn't there. I have spent years doing this. It's sad that the kids usually think it is their fault. I would assure your daughter in every way you can. As she gets older she will begin to see things differently and then her father can answer to her why he has been absent in her life. It's only your responsibility to take care of your child and be there when she needs you. You can't make your ex do what he isn't capable of doing and it seems he isn't capable of being the parent your child deserves but unfortunately that is how thins are in life.

Good luck and just keep your child number one.

 

[pyrxtc]

I just thank God every day for my DH ! He is a blessing and although tough on my DD sometimes, she knows he loves her and would do anything for her.

 

[bwatlas]

I just thank God every day for my DH ! He is a blessing and although tough on my DD sometimes, she knows he loves her and would do anything for her.

Sounds like you are doing the best you can with the hand you and DD have been dealt, and to get a wonderful DH is a plus for you, too.
Again, do what you can, meet if you can, don't if you can't. Wish you the best, but it sounds much like you have it together for DD.