Divorce and DVC

[RoseNJ]

I have been sharing our points with my ex-husband for several years now. I have been kind of the keeper of the account. I make the payments (it is now paid off) and every other year, he reimburses me the monthly amount and takes his trip. After borrowning a point or two into each others use year, we both decided not to do that any more and, if we needed more points, we would pay cash.

Well, this plan left me real short changed this year. It seems he decided to turn trip planning over to his wife and, not only did she use half of the points I had banked, she cancelled and rebooked so many times I have half of what she didn't use stuck in a holding account.


When I questioned the ex, he knew nothing and basically said, a little borrowing doesn't hurt. I am livid! I can't use my remaining points unless I book a trip within 60 days, plus, now I have to borrow to make up the difference.

I am wondering if any other divorced couples keep joint custody of DVC and, if you have, how is it working for you?

 

[Disneypubgal]

Is the new wife on the deed or an associate member?? How is she making reservations if you bought with your ex???

 

[ChiSoxKeith]

Sorry. I feel for you. Probably should just force one of you to buy the other one out of the membership and rebuy resale.

 

[dbs1228]

Sorry this has happened once a 3rd party enters, it is never good. I agree if one of you could buy the other out that would be the way to go or sell it outright and buy resale if you want to continue being a dvc member. And again nobody but you and your ex should make any reservations!

 

[LouisianaDisneyFan]

I think your ex-husband should make you whole again regarding the points squandered by his new wife. He can keep the points she forced into holding status... and then pay you the going rate for the use of those points ($10-12/point). That way, you can go to the rent/trade board and try to arrange for a transfer from someone else to replace the points and use them when YOU want to use them. Obviously, your ex is going to realize that points in holding have significantly reduced value, or perhaps even no value, to you. Putting a firm dollar amount on his wife's actions will encourage him to be more mindful of what happens with that account in the future. Good luck!

 

[nytimez]

Seems to me that you need to get out of this situation, because this could be problematic long-term. As others have suggested, I would suggest selling the points on the secondary market, and then using your share of the proceeds to invest in a new set of points that are all yours.

 

[CNPHILLY]

I agree with getting out of this. There is no way that people should share a DVC contract when they are divorced. You are divorced for a reason. Sell the contract and buy your own.

 

[adminjedi]

The purpose of DVC and Disney World is to bring joy and relaxation to your life. Ongoing pushing and pulling with an adversarial party will derail achieving the purpose. He most likely will not choose treating you honorably and with financial integrity regarding the misused points over keeping his current wife happy. Buy him out or suggest selling the contract and splitting the proceeds.

 

[Dee77]

I agree with the OP's with the suggestion that one of you should buy out the other from the contract altogether.

Here's a real situation that happened not too long ago, a woman transferred points to another member and also made a reservation for another family. This was all well and good because she and her ex-husband had a similar agreement. One day he saw the transfer and reservations that were made and called Disney and had it all reversed. A transfer is not necessarily final and unchangeable, at least in this scenario it wasn't. Since his name was on the contract/deed he was able to make these changes. It caused a lot of last minute stress and shuffling around but it worked out in the end. From what I understand, they have since done exactly what is being suggested, he bought her out of the contract. Good luck!

 

[DVC Mary]

#1 Buy him out if you can affort to do this & avoid this hassle. You could offer to rent to him, but get his name off that deed.

#2 Can you split the contract?

#3 Can you buy resale, if he buys you out/


Stop dealing w/ this hassle however you can manage it. As others have Disney is about fun--not stress.

 

[n2mm]

This sounds like a bad situation that you need to get out of. I agree, sell and use the money to buy your own contracts. This will only get worse.

 

[lucyem]

I would expect him to make it right. Make sure the new wife cannot be involved in making reservations etc. Then I would get out of this situation asap.

 

[Mick@Tink]

Sell now before it happens again!

 

[PoohNFriends]

Is the new wife on the deed or an associate member?? How is she making reservations if you bought with your ex???

Also wondering this - unless the new wife is on the deed or an associate member she will not be able to make/cancel reservations, bank/borrow point, etc. So if she's not on the deed or an associate member then that means the ex-husband is the one that actually made and canceled reservations and caused the problem with the points. Either way, he should take more responsibility with the mess of points and help you make it right. Also as PP's have said try to get out of the contract with him. This could be a start to worse problems in the future. If selling or buying the other half out is not feasible right now in your situation, at least get a written and signed contract that explicitly says how the current contract will be managed to you have a possiblity of recourse.

 

[Bill K]

If ever I divorce. I will have custody of the DVC account.

 

[LouisianaDisneyFan]

If selling or buying the other half out is not feasible right now in your situation, at least get a written and signed contract that explicitly says how the current contract will be managed to you have a possiblity of recourse.

This touches on a point that I wondered when first reading the OP... how does the divorce decree treat the DVC? Does your decree spell out how the DVC membership will be managed and utilized?

 

[Jason@dvcstore]

Sell now before it happens again!

I agree. Sell now before it happens again.

Jason

 

[ToddyLu]

This is mean but I would try to use as many points by borrowing as I could so they would not have any trips for a couple of years....then get out of the contract....I know, that really serves no good purpose and probably encourage more miss use of points by he and the new wife. Can you cancel their ADRs????? MAWHAAHAAHAAA!!

 

[ChiSoxKeith]

Can you cancel their ADRs????? MAWHAAHAAHAAA!!

Oh, that's just evil!

I like what the PP said, what does the divorce decree say in regards to the membership? Then find a way to get out of it. His attitude about the situation should tell you EXACTLY how this is going to go in the future.

 

[n2mm]

Oh, that's just evil!

I like what the PP said, what does the divorce decree say in regards to the membership? Then find a way to get out of it. His attitude about the situation should tell you EXACTLY how this is going to go in the future.

I agree, this is something that should've been dealth with during settlement. Either it should've been disolved as an asset of the marriage or had some rules assigned to it's usage. It obviously is not working and this needs to be dealth with before it blows up.