Divorce and DVC

[JCW]

I am guessing that the wife is calling posing as the OP.

Yes that is illegal but she could have all the info necessary to complete the transaction.

And if this is truly the case, OP could have a case with Disney to maybe get the points removed from holding, if she can prove it.

I am totaly speculating since the OP hasn't responded but i think it is possible.

 

[quirty30]

I am guessing that the wife is calling posing as the OP.

Yes that is illegal but she could have all the info necessary to complete the transaction.

And if this is truly the case, OP could have a case with Disney to maybe get the points removed from holding, if she can prove it.

I am totaly speculating since the OP hasn't responded but i think it is possible.

I don't see how. Every time I call MS, they ask me to identify myself and give the last 4 digits of my SS#. My ex's gf would never know the answer to that question.

It also think the OP should look into how the divorce decree spelled out the handling of DVC. In my divorce, I had to refinance the house and buy my ex out....he had to transfer an equal amount of money from his retirement account into mine. Generally in a divorce, assets are not left open to be shared - that would be a recipe for disaster IMHO. Fortunately for me, I didn't purchase DVC until after my divorce. For the OP's sake, I would hope one or the other could afford a buy out so she doesn't have to deal with selling and repurchasing.

 

[JimMIA]

I am guessing that the wife is calling posing as the OP.

I doubt that. Much more likely is that the ex put his new wife on the account as an associate - which he has every right to do if he's a co-owner of the membership. As an associate, she'd have the authority to do what she did.

The OP has not chosen to disclose any further info (which is probably a good thing), but the situation itself is clearly problematic. The new wife obviously messed things up, and the ex has no choice but support her.

Rather than fight a never-ending war, both sides would be better off if one or the other owned the account by themselves.

[ETA: One thing to keep in mind, though, is that if the membership is co-owned, OP can't just sell it. It's just not that simple if they co-own. She will need the ex's approval and cooperation to sell.]

 

[JCW]

I doubt that. Much more likely is that the ex put his new wife on the account as an associate - which he has every right to do if he's a co-owner of the membership. As an associate, she'd have the authority to do what she did.

Ah, yup, that makes much more sense. I hadn't given that a thought.

Though my DH does know my SS # etc and could pull it off having someone pretend to be me over the phone.

I am in the financial industry and see all types of fraud, so my mind always goes right to the worst case scenario.

But the associate member is likely what happened here.

Either way, it's such a shame OP is going through this.

 

[crisi]

I don't see how. Every time I call MS, they ask me to identify myself and give the last 4 digits of my SS#. My ex's gf would never know the answer to that question.

He doesn't have copies of your old tax returns? I can pull my ex's SSN in about four minutes - and we've been divorced twenty years. I'm sure my husband could pull it if he were so inclined. Its all over the tax records in boxes in the basement.

(I'm lazy and haven't tossed the "important financial papers" - more because those need to go through the shredder and that's a LOT of shredding.)

 

[bumbershoot]

I don't see how. Every time I call MS, they ask me to identify myself and give the last 4 digits of my SS#. My ex's gf would never know the answer to that question.

If your ex knows your social and told his girlfriend, she would.

Much more likely is that the ex put his new wife on the account as an associate - which he has every right to do if he's a co-owner of the membership. As an associate, she'd have the authority to do what she did.

I do agree that that is more likely. I'm the associate on the account, and I can do just about everything! Everything we need to do I can do (there's something I can't but I don't need to do it so I don't remember, LOL).

 

[parlay]

Time to convince your ex that he needs his own DVC points, and get him to buy you out (or vice-versa) so you won't run into this problem again!

Oh, and I really like the idea of borrowing up all the points for next year too! (I know - bad!)

 

[quirty30]

He doesn't have copies of your old tax returns? I can pull my ex's SSN in about four minutes - and we've been divorced twenty years. I'm sure my husband could pull it if he were so inclined. Its all over the tax records in boxes in the basement.

If your ex knows your social and told his girlfriend, she would.

Good thing I bought my DVC after our divorce.

 

[Cee]

Sorry. I feel for you. Probably should just force one of you to buy the other one out of the membership and rebuy resale.

I second this.

 

[Disneypubgal]

Any updates??? Wondering how things worked out?

 

[Debrn]

We just bought last year and what do you know we are now getting divorced. I made sure the DVC will be mine. We will do a transfer and his name will be coming off the deed. I could never share this with because I could never trust him.

 

[ddoconnell]

OP, so sorry that you are having to go thru this! My ex and I had a hard enough time with custody of our son I can't imagine being linked to him financially for 40+ years!! I agree with the previous posters that you should try to break this tie so that your WDW trips are stress free. Good luck and let us know how things work out!

 

[skelooch]

You can easily find out if your ex added her as an associate member by going to the member website, all the owners and associates are listed. And as a member you could also remove any associate members you don't think should be there.
Of course he could always add her back on and you could remove her again, sounds like it could be fun game.

Good Luck

 

[Stinger5]

Would DVC ever split an existing contract for a divorced couple? Seems like a simple solution if all parties agree...

If not, why not just sell the contract, split the proceeds, and buy your own?

Regardless, I wish the best of luck in your situation and hope to hear things work out for you!

 

[gmboy95]

Run for ZEEE Hills!!!!!!!!.......ask him if he will buy you out...if not, then demand you and him be the only ones on the lease who can make ressies.....I dont know if your ex is a fair minded guy, but if he is, he should see the light on this!!!