Divorce after a VERY short marriage

[disneydee6]

So my best friend wants to divorce her husband after 2 months married. There is alot to the story but I won't go into much detail. I was the maid honor and spent almost $1000 on the wedding, and dealt with a whole lot of drama surrounding the wedding (shower, bachlorette party etc). I mean, I'll just cough it up as a loss and deal. But has anyone here ever dealt with a friend or family member that split up shortly after the wedding?

 

[Jennasis]

Yes. I divorced my exhusband 7 months after the wedding.

 

[Christine]

Wow, no I haven't. Two months is REALLY a short time. I mean what happened in 2 months that she didn't know about? Sounds like she just wanted a wedding...grrrrrrrrrr.

 

[AnnaS]

So my best friend wants to divorce her husband after 2 months married. There is alot to the story but I won't go into much detail. I was the maid honor and spent almost $1000 on the wedding, and dealt with a whole lot of drama surrounding the wedding (shower, bachlorette party etc). I mean, I'll just cough it up as a loss and deal. But has anyone here ever dealt with a friend or family member that split up shortly after the wedding?

Yes, my dad's cousin's daughter. Seriously

 

[Coconut36]

Yep..after all of us in the family flying to another state, huge church wedding, gifts..etc I had a family member divorce after less than 6 months of marriage.

 

[HM]

That's just wrong. Unless he's abusing her, she should be trying to work things out not opt for divorce at this point.

 

[MomRN]

I divorced my ex-husband after 3 months of marriage. I found out he had another girl about 3 months pregnant.

We should have never been married to begin with though. I knew that day but for some reason went ahead with it.

 

[WowLookAtThat]

I had a cousin whose marriage fell apart after a month.

 

[kathie859]

OP---that would be a former best friend for me!!! I can't imagine spending all that time, energy and money and then having her throw in the towel so quickly. What does she know now that she didn't know 60 days ago? You're entitled to some sort of explanation at least and, just dreaming here, maybe she'll offer to repay you Nah--I bet THAT doesn't happen!

 

[Jennasis]

OP---that would be a former best friend for me!!! I can't imagine spending all that time, energy and money and then having her throw in the towel so quickly. What does she know now that she didn't know 60 days ago? You're entitled to some sort of explanation at least and, just dreaming here, maybe she'll offer to repay you Nah--I bet THAT doesn't happen!

Nobody is entitled to an explanation. What rubbish. It would be nice if this friend (who is clearly close enough to make the OP her maid of honor) would tell her what happened. Also, I'd be fine to be rid of any "friend" who dumped me at a crucial moment in my life.

 

[okeydokey]

Wow, remember to say no to repeating the whole experience at the next wedding.

Does she realize she should return all the wedding gifts?

 

[kamik86]

To me it does sound like someone (possibly both someones) just wanted a wedding. There is no way at least 1 of them didn't know they shouldn't be getting married.

 

[ckay87]

OP---that would be a former best friend for me!!! I can't imagine spending all that time, energy and money and then having her throw in the towel so quickly. What does she know now that she didn't know 60 days ago? You're entitled to some sort of explanation at least and, just dreaming here, maybe she'll offer to repay you Nah--I bet THAT doesn't happen!

I disagree. My friends are old enough to make their own big-girl decisions and they certainly don't have to answer to me. We respect each other that way.

And yes, I was in TWO weddings that ended that way, one of which was my sister. A bummer, but not my place to question. They are both smart ladies and I'm sure they knew what they were doing. It's their life not mine.

 

[disneydee6]

Well she was dealing with a lot of verbal abuse. Of course I found all this out AFTER the wedding because I would not have been a very supportive MOH if I had known. She has also done plenty of wrongs herself. I can't imagine they would return the gifts, I don't think that's necessary, but do people do or expect that?

 

[Christine]

Well she was dealing with a lot of verbal abuse. Of course I found all this out AFTER the wedding because I would not have been a very supportive MOH if I had known. She has also done plenty of wrongs herself. I can't imagine they would return the gifts, I don't think that's necessary, but do people do or expect that?

From Emily Post:

Wedding gifts are not conditional upon the success of the marriage. The divorced couple does not have to return any wedding gifts. The exception to this rule would be if a marriage was annulled and the couple did not live together.

 

[karenos]

I won't go into details but I attended a wedding where the marriage fell apart after 6 weeks. We got our check back.

It does happen....

karenos

 

[Ginny Favers]

This happened with a friend of mine. She actually knew she didn't want to be married before the wedding. But they went through with it, mostly because of the families' expectations and because they'd already sunk so much money and effort into the wedding preparations. There's that little hope that things will be better after the stress of the wedding planning is behind them, but that never works out.

 

[Coconut36]

OP---that would be a former best friend for me!!! I can't imagine spending all that time, energy and money and then having her throw in the towel so quickly. What does she know now that she didn't know 60 days ago? You're entitled to some sort of explanation at least and, just dreaming here, maybe she'll offer to repay you Nah--I bet THAT doesn't happen!

And why would anyone outside of the relationship be owed/entitled to ANY explanation. How ridiculous to say something like that. They are the ones divorcing and they don't owe anyone..not the maid of honor, not other friends..nobody an explanation. Now someone close enough to be maid of honor might be someone they are close enough to that they do share what happened but "entitled" is ridiculous.

 

[ilovefh]

I have family who had a short marriage.

She cried before she got married and her dad chalked it up to nerves. They went on their honeymoon right after their wedding...and she called her dad before they arrived home to have her uncle, a lawyer, help her with the divorce. In total she was married less than 2 weeks.

They had been together a few years, owned a home together even. We all found it so bizarre. This was several years ago (10 maybe?) and we just recently found out the reason.

 

[babyrich]

Not my friend; but a co-worker of a friend was on her honeymoon when her husband told her he didnt want to married to her. The marriage was annulled shortly after.

Another one of her friends was married, on her honeymoon when her husband asked if they could go home early cause he missed his mom!!!!! I kid you not. I would have went running for the hills.