Disney Wonder Sept 3-7,2006 Part 2

[purplern]

Happy Thanksgiving!!!!

 

[purplern]

Hope everyone has a good Thanksgiving!

I'm crossing my fingers today is a vast improvement.... I almost had to have Tom commited last night.

Happy Thanksgiving!!

 

[purplern]

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!!!!

 

[LCTsMom]

Hope everyone has a good Thanksgiving!

I'm crossing my fingers today is a vast improvement.... I almost had to have Tom commited last night.

What happened Patsy?

 

[Piecey]

Isnt that funny!

I love how much more simple my last name got when I married Tom.

..except I still have to spell it!!

 

[Piecey]

What happened Patsy?

He just flipped out.
I can't really explain it. He destoyed our kitchen, got in his truck and called me and said "I'm so sorry, I can't do this. Our kid deserves better. I'm going to be with my dad." and started laughing hysterically and hung up.
He called Tony, the guy down the street who came up when he left, and told him he didn't have a will and Tony could have whatever he wanted.

It was CRAZY. I don't know what happened. Tony really wanted me to have him commited (that 72 hour hold, thing) but i didn't know what to do.
He came home, scratched up and bleeding and said at one point he was in the middle of the woods and he didn't know how he got there but he found his truck and came home. I was like, WHAT??
He said after he talked to his dad he was fine. He just had to go talk to his dad.

I'm wondering whether or not his dad's tombstone is still intact.

Tony thinks it's just the holiday and still crap from his dad's death that he never got over. He's petrified of being the abusive craphead his dad was and when he got so mad and destroyed the kitchen he saw his dad in himself and just... went crazy.

He's fine now. Been playing with Rink all morning.
I can't figure out what to do I just know he needs HELP!

(I say destroyed, but it wasn't that bad I guess. The shelf that held all the candy, the breadmaker and the stereo was the only thing that met a tragic fate. It just looked bad with skittles all over the floor!!)

 

[LCTsMom]

I'm so sorry. It would probably be a good idea to get him to talk to someone. He sounds like such a great guy, it's so sad to hear he's going through that (and you, too, of course)!

 

[Piecey]

I'm so sorry. It would probably be a good idea to get him to talk to someone. He sounds like such a great guy, it's so sad to hear he's going through that (and you, too, of course)!

Yeah. He is.

Just crappy at dealing with emotions.

It's like a switch was flipped and instead of the "normal" position he went into "Psycho" mode!

 

[purplern]

He just flipped out.
I can't really explain it. He destoyed our kitchen, got in his truck and called me and said "I'm so sorry, I can't do this. Our kid deserves better. I'm going to be with my dad." and started laughing hysterically and hung up.
He called Tony, the guy down the street who came up when he left, and told him he didn't have a will and Tony could have whatever he wanted.

It was CRAZY. I don't know what happened. Tony really wanted me to have him commited (that 72 hour hold, thing) but i didn't know what to do.
He came home, scratched up and bleeding and said at one point he was in the middle of the woods and he didn't know how he got there but he found his truck and came home. I was like, WHAT??
He said after he talked to his dad he was fine. He just had to go talk to his dad.

I'm wondering whether or not his dad's tombstone is still intact.

Tony thinks it's just the holiday and still crap from his dad's death that he never got over. He's petrified of being the abusive craphead his dad was and when he got so mad and destroyed the kitchen he saw his dad in himself and just... went crazy.

He's fine now. Been playing with Rink all morning.
I can't figure out what to do I just know he needs HELP!

(I say destroyed, but it wasn't that bad I guess. The shelf that held all the candy, the breadmaker and the stereo was the only thing that met a tragic fate. It just looked bad with skittles all over the floor!!)

The fact he wanted to be committed is a good sign! He doesnt have to be committed to get help, have him talk to someone! It cant hurt! The VA should be able to help. Maybe if he talks to someone NOW! It can help him when the baby is born so he doesnt turn out like his Dad.

 

[LittleBlue22]

Piecey

 

[Piecey]

The fact he wanted to be committed is a good sign! He doesnt have to be committed to get help, have him talk to someone! It cant hurt! The VA should be able to help. Maybe if he talks to someone NOW! It can help him when the baby is born so he doesnt turn out like his Dad.

He went today!!

I was so happy.
He spoke with a counselor at our local VA clinic and they think he is BiPolar. They gave him Depacot (sp?) but we haven't really talked beyond him telling me that was what happened. I figure he'll talk as he gets more comfortable about things.
I don't know if I buy the BiPolar stuff. I think they're straying from PTSD because PTSD has recently been added as a "disability" so if they call it a PTSD episode, he could claim it as a service connected trauma or something to that effect.

Tony used to work for a VA lawyer, though, and the VA lawyer said we can file a claim with the VA to have a CIVILIAN doctor do anger management because it's not offered within 50 miles of our house.
I plan to do that and get an outside-the-VA opinion on whether his anger is stemming from PTSD or if he is really exhibiting symptoms of BiPolar.
I don't think it's BiPolar. My best friend's boyfriend in high school was Bipolar and Tom is not much like him. I realize there are a vast amount of differences from one Bipolar to the other... but I think this mess is much more PTSD than Bipolar!

 

[LCTsMom]

That is awesome that he's getting help! What a smart, responsible guy! I'm sure they'll get things figured out for him, he'll feel much better when he knows what's going on.

 

[purplern]

He went today!!

I was so happy.
He spoke with a counselor at our local VA clinic and they think he is BiPolar. They gave him Depacot (sp?) but we haven't really talked beyond him telling me that was what happened. I figure he'll talk as he gets more comfortable about things.
I don't know if I buy the BiPolar stuff. I think they're straying from PTSD because PTSD has recently been added as a "disability" so if they call it a PTSD episode, he could claim it as a service connected trauma or something to that effect.

Tony used to work for a VA lawyer, though, and the VA lawyer said we can file a claim with the VA to have a CIVILIAN doctor do anger management because it's not offered within 50 miles of our house.
I plan to do that and get an outside-the-VA opinion on whether his anger is stemming from PTSD or if he is really exhibiting symptoms of BiPolar.
I don't think it's BiPolar. My best friend's boyfriend in high school was Bipolar and Tom is not much like him. I realize there are a vast amount of differences from one Bipolar to the other... but I think this mess is much more PTSD than Bipolar!

Good for him!!!! That's a good idea-the VA is out to help "the government" more than the soldiers! He'll talk when he's ready just let him know you're there when he is!

 

[Piecey]

Good for him!!!! That's a good idea-the VA is out to help "the government" more than the soldiers! He'll talk when he's ready just let him know you're there when he is!

Ain't that the truth!!


..so this is random.. but when did you all start showing?
I was staring at my belly today and the girl at work, who is super skinny, said "Who are you kidding, Patsy! You're seeing all that junk you've been eating- you won't show baby until you're 6 months!"

... I tried to tell her that was WRONG and she told me I was wrong.
There is no way I am going to make it another three months without showing. None of my clothes fit (unless they're the stretchy variety ), my chest is bigger and my tummy doesn't jiggle like it would if I were chunky- it's HARD! (Not rock hard, but you know what I mean! )

 

[JLSE50]

He's been once but he was 2 years old and other than the pictures, doesn't remember.

He's not receptive because he doesn't *enjoy* vacations. He is content to sit at home and play X-Box 360- a vacation where you go, go, go! is not up his alley. Which is why I finally talked him into a cruise because he can sit around and I told him I'd be good and I'd sit around with him and read and relax. It would be a compromise- he agreed I could have one day at one of the ports of call to go, go, go and he'd go with me... as long as we spent the rest doing absolutely nothing!

I asked him if he'd go on this one with me before I invited my friend and he said no. He just doesn't enjoy normal things.
He knows that her and I have similar vacation styles so he's sending me off. I think we're going to Vegas over Spring Break next year. I get to pick Vegas, Portland, or San Jose because each have one of his three best friends living there.


Jobs are alright. I have to go through corporate training again and I'm missing two tests and pile that on all the other stuff I missed from the services-- I've got a teacher threatening to drop me. Not good.

I have not been on this Thread since 9-17-08. So far it looks like Patsy is pregnant. CONGRATS and BEST WISHES!!

What else have I missed?

It has been a busy fall for us. DS#1 and DD-i-law are expecting in mid December so I have been knitting a baby dress for them and some afghans for other gifts. Hard to knit and DIS at the same time--especially if I want to SAY something.

We went to PA for a baby shower for our DD-i-law in November and I went with Tom when he had a conference in Branson so we did some shows when he was not busy.

Today he is installing a closet system in his side of the walk-through closet and probably we will get the parts to install a mirror image section on my side.

Off to read!!

Jan

 

[JLSE50]

........He's doing a lot better. He's excited to be a better father than his own.
He also had a dream in which his father came to him and apologized for everything. Oddly, he's felt a lot better ever since and there have been no more outbursts...........

That is a wonderful blessing for Tom and for you!

Jan

PS: .....perhaps a trip to WDW sooner than the inaugural cruise is in order so that Tom can check it out before the baby comes. So he can get an idea of what it is like so he is prepared to be a good Dad when on vacation?.?.?.?.?.

 

[Piecey]

PS: .....perhaps a trip to WDW sooner than the inaugural cruise is in order so that Tom can check it out before the baby comes. So he can get an idea of what it is like so he is prepared to be a good Dad when on vacation?.?.?.?.?.

I wish.

We're trying REALLY hard not to touch our savings for anything right now.
We're slowly buying stuff for the new house. Today, we took advantage of the sales at Lowes and got our new vanity and medicine cabinet. Next, we're buying the tile for the floor.
(The entire bathroom needs redone- it's blue and HOT PINK and has asbestos tiles that need to be pulled up before we can move in!)

We bought our fridge last pay period, to be delivered in January. We got the Plasma 42" HDTV (ya know, so high on the priority list ) a few weeks ago and I just finished paying it off with the check from a few days ago..
I'm not sure what will happen after that. We'll probably tackle the VA Inspector's list of demands and cross our fingers we don't have to touch savings to do it all!!

We hope to save enough, too, to pay cash to have central air installed next March-April. Then save enough cash to up the electrical service from 100amp to 200amp.

We have so many dreams and plans right now..

 

[PirateCutie05]

(The entire bathroom needs redone- it's blue and HOT PINK and has asbestos tiles that need to be pulled up before we can move in!)

Whose idea was THAT!? And asbestos?? That sounds gross and scary...


In news of my own...
My whole family (parents, 3 sisters, plus the niece) is headed to Disney World tomorrow and i am sadly not going. What happened was they decided they wanted to go to the Christmas party and that they REALLLYYY wanted to take Kayla, my niece. So my mom asked me to find out when my exams were. I'm done the 9th of December, which is Tuesday after next week. So my mom said they would probably go down the weekend before and I would join them when I was finished.
Sadly...no room. Now I can't remember if that was just DVC or including other hotels we would want to stay at or what. But the week before (which my first final is on FRIDAY! ) there was availability. Not wanting to be the one who ruined peoples hopes...I told my mom to just go ahead and go without me. But they have an early flight tomorrow morning and I won't get to see them before I leave for NC.
And I have been feeling sick, with a sore throat. I'm worried Thanksgiving travelers might create a lot of traffic!! I don't know what I'm going to do if it's real bad!

 

[Piecey]

Whose idea was THAT!? And asbestos?? That sounds gross and scary...

It's an older house where a little old lady lived that didn't know better. Why would it be gross?
The asbestos tile *supposedly* isn't harmful to use as a floor. BUT! We want to get rid of the hot pink bathtub and it's a cast iron tub which means... only a sledgehammer will remove the thing. Which means we'll more than likely be cracking tiles. Which means.... we should just go ahead and buy the nice suits and wet the tile and pull it up and dispose of it and put new tile down. That uh, isn't asbestos.

A corner needs to be re-sealed anyway and I think Tom just wants to rip up the floor and put down new with extra support.

 

[Piecey]

In news of my own...
My whole family (parents, 3 sisters, plus the niece) is headed to Disney World tomorrow and i am sadly not going. What happened was they decided they wanted to go to the Christmas party and that they REALLLYYY wanted to take Kayla, my niece. So my mom asked me to find out when my exams were. I'm done the 9th of December, which is Tuesday after next week. So my mom said they would probably go down the weekend before and I would join them when I was finished.
Sadly...no room. Now I can't remember if that was just DVC or including other hotels we would want to stay at or what. But the week before (which my first final is on FRIDAY! ) there was availability. Not wanting to be the one who ruined peoples hopes...I told my mom to just go ahead and go without me. But they have an early flight tomorrow morning and I won't get to see them before I leave for NC.
And I have been feeling sick, with a sore throat. I'm worried Thanksgiving travelers might create a lot of traffic!! I don't know what I'm going to do if it's real bad!

Ick.. that stinks. I know how much it sucked when my parents started leaving me behind in high school. I'd of been REALLY pissed if they'd left me for Disney World, though. I'm sorry Heidi..
It doesn't help all youhave to look forward to is finals either.