Disney with a nanny

[Amazynglydisney]

This is what's called a family vacation.
Unless you are paying for both of them to go on the trip and paying them to watch your children, which seems very weird for an aunt and essentially an uncle.

We are paying for their tickets And resort and they are responsible to pay for their food

 

[njmousefest]

We're planning on taking our nanny (au pair) with us when we go in 2016. But at that point she will have lived with us for about a year already and we'll have a "working" schedule agreed to before we go.

 

[Amazynglydisney]

Yes she is my child's AUNT. SORRY I wasn't so clear as I am new to disboards and not a professional writer And YES her boyfriend is going because we offered to pay for him as well. Yes she will be hired as out nanny and yes we have an itinerary for the trip. I want all of us to have fun and they will have one free day. We have reservations for dinner and they know what is expected of them and when our reservations are. I didn't ask for rudeness. I asked for opinions and strategies. Thanks everyone who was polite for your feedback!! I'm super excited only 79 days!

 

[SparklePixie]

We are paying for their tickets And resort and they are responsible to pay for their food

If the only reason they are going on the trip is to watch your children, you should be paying all their expenses.

 

[Amazynglydisney]

If the only reason they are going on the trip is to watch your children, you should be paying all their expenses.

I agree! We offered to pay for food as well but she declined saying that being with her niece and nephew at Disney World was more than enough. My boyfriend and I decided that we would give them a generous tip when we arrive to use on anything they please

 

[Dismama2boys]

I purposefully choose to avoid mixing family with business (had a few bad experiences), but I hope it works out well for all of you.

 

[Amazynglydisney]

Thab

I purposefully choose to avoid mixing family with business (had a few bad experiences), but I hope it works out well for all of you.

Thank you very much it is greatly appreciated

 

[TiffanyA]

From the extra info you've posted, it sounds like you've gotten all expectations correctly outlined. Kudos to you! And your SIL and her DBF sound like great people. It takes a village and you sound like you are part of a great one! Offering to pay for everything was a good start and because of her response, I totally understand why you are letting them pay for their own food. My parents won't hear of us buying their tickets (their AP is seasonal and doesn't cover Xmas). Our tradition is an Xmas trip, so they say it is their Xmas gift to themselves, to him AND to us. I take care of my son's ticket and try to buy them food while there, when they accept or if I can have my card out before them . I do pay for all of our accommodations as my thanks to them.

As far as what my husband and I do - anything we want! Ha! My son loves MK, but we are bigger fans of the other parks. So usually we start off with them in MK and then hop to another park, ride a few rides, drink (around the world if in Epcot) and enjoy an adult's only dinner. We never get wasted since neither of us like that and we meet the family up again in the evening. Wash, rinse, repeat. As we live across the country from my parents, we usually have a LOT of date nights to catch up on, and we try to make the most of it.

My son is on the taller side (no clue where he got that from as his parents are shorties) and as he is getting older (he's in kindergarten) he does more and more with us since he's now tall enough to go one all rides. So yea, usually the morning with the grandparents and then the evenings to ourselves.

Are you looking for specific couples only stuff to enjoy? We mostly do dinners and shows together since we know the kiddo would likely not sit through it. My favorite restaurant on property is Le Cellier. Others will disagree with me, but I love the cozy, dim atmosphere - just seems romantic. Plus I LOVE their filet. I am forcing myself to try some other places this Xmas trip because I need to see for myself, but we've made so many fond memories here, that it will always hold a special place in my heart.

 

[Amazynglydisney]

From the extra info you've posted, it sounds like you've gotten all expectations correctly outlined. Kudos to you! And your SIL and her DBF sound like great people. It takes a village and you sound like you are part of a great one! Offering to pay for everything was a good start and because of her response, I totally understand why you are letting them pay for their own food. My parents won't hear of us buying their tickets (their AP is seasonal and doesn't cover Xmas). Our tradition is an Xmas trip, so they say it is their Xmas gift to themselves, to him AND to us. I take care of my son's ticket and try to buy them food while there, when they accept or if I can have my card out before them . I do pay for all of our accommodations as my thanks to them.

As far as what my husband and I do - anything we want! Ha! My son loves MK, but we are bigger fans of the other parks. So usually we start off with them in MK and then hop to another park, ride a few rides, drink (around the world if in Epcot) and enjoy an adult's only dinner. We never get wasted since neither of us like that and we meet the family up again in the evening. Wash, rinse, repeat. As we live across the country from my parents, we usually have a LOT of date nights to catch up on, and we try to make the most of it.

My son is on the taller side (no clue where he got that from as his parents are shorties) and as he is getting older (he's in kindergarten) he does more and more with us since he's now tall enough to go one all rides. So yea, usually the morning with the grandparents and then the evenings to ourselves.

Are you looking for specific couples only stuff to enjoy? We mostly do dinners and shows together since we know the kiddo would likely not sit through it. My favorite restaurant on property is Le Cellier. Others will disagree with me, but I love the cozy, dim atmosphere - just seems romantic. Plus I LOVE their filet. I am forcing myself to try some other places this Xmas trip because I need to see for myself, but we've made so many fond memories here, that it will always hold a special place in my heart.

Oh my goodness I am totally jealous of your Christmas vacation! I would love to go during the holidays! We are Florida residents so we try to go at least once a year. Thanks for all the lovely info and yes we are looking for things that would be fun for couples because we rarely get to enjoy alone time. And I'm not certain but I think my boyfriend may be proposing! We have been together for over 6 years and he has made a few comments about how this trip is going to be "way more special" than Our past vacations... I'm not trying to get my hopes up but I've been waiting for this for a long time and it would be so awesome! I think this is partially why he had the idea of having his sister come as a part time nanny.

 

[toni nicole]

Oh my goodness I am totally jealous of your Christmas vacation! I would love to go during the holidays! We are Florida residents so we try to go at least once a year. Thanks for all the lovely info and yes we are looking for things that would be fun for couples because we rarely get to enjoy alone time. And I'm not certain but I think my boyfriend may be proposing! We have been together for over 6 years and he has made a few comments about how this trip is going to be "way more special" than Our past vacations... I'm not trying to get my hopes up but I've been waiting for this for a long time and it would be so awesome! I think this is partially why he had the idea of having his sister come as a part time nanny.

That is so exciting!! Be careful, by being too obvious that you know You'll have to come back here and let us know how it went! I would see some night time shows just the two of you if you get the chance, wishes or illuminations. I'm assuming because I do not have kids, but it might be more enjoyable without having to make sure the kids can see what is going on. Have a great trip.

 

[Amazynglydisney]

That is so exciting!! Be careful, by being too obvious that you know You'll have to come back here and let us know how it went! I would see some night time shows just the two of you if you get the chance, wishes or illuminations. I'm assuming because I do not have kids, but it might be more enjoyable without having to make sure the kids can see what is going on. Have a great trip.

Thanks so much and like I said I'm not sure but there have been a few hints and maybe I'm just over thinking or Counting my chickens before they hatch but that's like any woman's dream to get engaged and get married to the man they love am I right? I'm just very excited and of course I would never make it obvious that I know. I would be a lucky girl if he does though! We will see and I will definitely update! Thanks again

 

[toni nicole]

Thanks so much and like I said I'm not sure but there have been a few hints and maybe I'm just over thinking or Counting my chickens before they hatch but that's like any woman's dream to get engaged and get married to the man they love am I right? I'm just very excited and of course I would never make it obvious that I know. I would be a lucky girl if he does though! We will see and I will definitely update! Thanks again

Of Course!! I dream of one day getting a Disney proposal! I'm hoping your instincts are correct, best of luck!

 

[larryz]

I know the title may scare some of you. Yes, we are bringing a nanny to Disney!

Be sure to buy her a Mary Poppins umbrella and carpet bag, and get him a Bert hat and chimney sweep broom!

 

[TiffanyA]

Maybe say lightly to him "I've heard Victoria & Albert's is the most romantic meal you can have at Disney. Maybe we'll get to eat there someday." it's a ton of money though!

 

[mshanson3121]

Yes she is my child's AUNT. SORRY I wasn't so clear as I am new to disboards and not a professional writer And YES her boyfriend is going because we offered to pay for him as well. Yes she will be hired as out nanny and yes we have an itinerary for the trip. I want all of us to have fun and they will have one free day. We have reservations for dinner and they know what is expected of them and when our reservations are. I didn't ask for rudeness. I asked for opinions and strategies. Thanks everyone who was polite for your feedback!! I'm super excited only 79 days!

We went this summer with my in-laws, we too, have two children, one with ASD and one with SPD. Now, it was a bit different because it was a family vacation, and they paid their own way (though we did treat them to dinner at CRT and some other things as a thank you for their help), but it was a huge help to have them along. It allowed DH and I to have a few rare moments to ourselves, as well as to have some one on one time with each of the kids. It's nice that you're giving them a day to themselves. If you like dinner theatre I would highly recommend Hoop Dee Doo Revue (with or without the kids). We went as a family and LOVED it. Great food, great entertainment. If you want something more "date nightish", what about going to see Cirque du Soleil?

 

[DavidNYC]

We've brought the current au pair with us the last 6 years (we have 6 year old twins). A few times we let the au pair bring a friend if someone was able to come (we covered the hotel and meals for the friend but the friend covered air fare and park ticket - we obviously paid for everything for our au pair other than any of her personal purchases). We've always stayed at Bonnet Creek where we could get 2-3 bedrooms.

It's really great. For a trip with 5 park days, I'd say my wife and I would take a few 3-5 hour blocks just to ourselves. Often we'd drop them back at the hotel as we hopped to a different park for dinner and a later night. Or sometimes if the kids were up late we'd let them sleep in and do a few hours by ourselves in the morning. But we'd tour together for most of the rest of the time (but the years our au pair had a friend we'd also make sure to give them some time to go off by themselves as well).

Also really makes it easy when we're together to do some rider swapping for the rides they were too small for. My wife and I would ride while she stayed with the kids and they one of use would ride with her.

To be fair - our au pair was like part of the family and I'd guess the experience could vary greatly depending on your relationship with your nanny.

 

[EarsAndTiaras]

she asked, so i will give my opinion.

if you can't handle 2 kids, even one with special needs, you either have too much money, or .... I would want to spend as much time with my kids as possible on vacation, not pawn them off on a sitter.

I imagine much of the OP's time is devoted to her children. Alone time for couples is important (particularly so when there are special needs to consider) & I hope she is able to enjoy a nice dinner with her boyfriend while a trusted family member provides childcare.

 

[mshanson3121]

she asked, so i will give my opinion.

if you can't handle 2 kids, even one with special needs, you either have too much money, or .... I would want to spend as much time with my kids as possible on vacation, not pawn them off on a sitter.

Actually no she didn't ask for judgmental opinions like this. She asked for INPUT from people who have had experience with the situation, which you clearly do not.

 

[mshanson3121]

Alone time for couples is important (particularly so when there are special needs to consider)

Yes, very. The divorce rate for marriages when special needs is involved is extremely high, between 80 & 90%. It's wonderful that the OP and her SO will be able to have a bit of time to themselves, which ALL parents need.

 

[starjazz]

I'm fairly certain that all the OP asked was what people would do if they had some alone time at the world, because they'd brought a nanny. People's unsolicited and rather snarky comments on her personal life, who her nanny is, or how much she's paid are irrelevant and superfluous. Jealous much?

Regarding what I'd do if I had a nanny along, I'd probably spend a lot of time doing some deeper exploration of the World Showcase in Epcot, and also Disney Springs (to a lesser degree). I think I'd spend time in areas that we usually skip or rush through like Hall of Presidents, Main Street exhibits and unique shops, etc. One PP said they start out the morning with the kids, split off during the day, then get back together in the evenings to finish off the touring. I like that agenda. And my unsolicited opinion is: Good for you, OP, for taking some initiative to book a trip that is incredibly special for the children, but being wise enough to make it a special time for you and your significant other as well.