Disney Wedding? Can't decide!

[Kimberly51184]

So I'm new here, but I'm pretty sure my mother has been lurking around this message board for years! And I need some advice from some true Disney-holics, like myself.

I just recently got engaged (yahoo!!!) and now the wedding planning must start. I have always thought about a Disney wedding. An escape wedding for sure, probably at either Sunset Pointe or the Yacht Club (I even hear that Epcot Canada is a new option!).

Now that I'm actually engaged, however, I can't decide what to do. Having been in 6 weddings within the past two years, I've seen the good and bad of having a larger wedding. Cons are the stress, the expense, the drama between family and friends. Pros are my entire family can attend, my friends can go, I get to dance the night away to all my favorite songs (even the ones no one else likes!). Plus, and not to sound selfish, me and my future hubby get to be the center of attention for a day!

I know that many of the ladies here have had Disney weddings. And I'm sure that just as many haven't. What would you suggest? What are the pros and cons? And just to point this out, I'm a flower freak. I want the loudest, most colorful bouquet possible at my wedding. So as silly as it sounds, the fact that Disney only offers five bouquet options? Kind of an con on the Disney wedding side.

Thoughts?

-Kim

 

[Wish on a Star]

Congrats first of all on your engagement!!! No matter what you decide, it is a very exciting time for you!

I just got married in Disney and while I know it's not for everyone- it was perfect for us! We loved it because: it was really stress-free!I really felt like I made all of the choices and didnt have to worry about it at all. We got to personalize it (even modifications that differed from the "Escape choices"-some of them at no cost- I would defiantly ask- they will make sure you get exactly what you want)

As far as getting to be the center of attention- we felt like we were all week in Disney. We got those buttons that we wore everywhere- and for 7 whole days we heard "Congratulations!" Also dont forget the possibility of a home reception-either a "dance the night away party" or a casual drop-in!

Hope this helps!

 

[pezaddict231]

Congrats! Only you can decide what's right for you. But you definitely can have all those things with a Disney wedding. Is there a reason you wouldn't do a Wishes wedding? It would give you everything you want, more guests, more customization, a reception where you can dance the night away, and you would be the center of attention.

We're doing a Wishes wedding and will probably have 50-75 guests. It will be a pretty traditional wedding with some disney touches. It's actually costing us less than an at home wedding since where I live weddings are crazy and cost a fortune, but I know it's not like that everywhere. We're not able to invite everyone we would want to (part of the cost savings), but we'll have the most important people (our family and close friends) there to share our day.

You could always do an escape ceremony and an at home reception later on. Or an at home reception and then honeymoon in Disney. I think you and your DF need to think about it. Maybe look at a few at home places and then decide.

Good luck in your planning!

 

[MainStMandy]

I just want to add about the bouquet, I think as an Escape bride you can request anything (within reason) and it just might be an upgrade charge.

We decided on a Disney wedding because we wanted to spend the day with our closest friends and family. My first wedding was a big huge Catholic wedding. We spent most of the reception going from table to table greeting people. It totally wasn't me. This time I am getting my dream wedding (with my perfect mate!). We want an intimate and unique wedding where we get to spend time with our guests. We are having just our closest friends and family there.

Good luck whatever you decide!!

 

[Xenabaka777]

Congrats!

We are doing a Disney wedding next year for the stress-free aspect. Disney will handle just about everything. I have a very large Irish and Italian family (46 aunts and uncles nevermind the cousins) so to have everyone come would be very expensive. My DF family wont be able to come to the US for a wedding just his parents and sisters. Sp we decieded on the wishes wedding for just parents, sisters, grandparents, and really close friends. Everyone is going to stay for a week and we can all have fun! We then plan to have a big luau at home so that the whole family can come. (this is more stressful planning and it is just casual) So it is like getting 2 days were we are the center of attention.

Whatever you decide will be wonderful!

 

[Kimberly51184]

WE've been talking about it and if we do go Disney, we'll go just the two of us. We don't have gigantic families, but how nice would it be for us to get away and get married, just us?

I'm still torn though. I think if cost wasn't an issue, I would want to have a wedding at home with my friends and family. I really want my two best friends as bridesmaids and I really want to have all the neices and nephews in the wedding. My brother just got married last week and it was so nice and fun. Everyone was so happy for him and his wife. I know that people would still be happy for me, even if we went away and had a party when we came back. But I'm still torn.

I think what we might do is go and tour a few places, see some menus and figure out some prices. Then if things get too crazy, we'll just skip it all and go to Disney. I mean, one place was going to charge us 115 a person! That's insane to me...

 

[pghloveswdw512]

WE've been talking about it and if we do go Disney, we'll go just the two of us. We don't have gigantic families, but how nice would it be for us to get away and get married, just us?

I'm still torn though. I think if cost wasn't an issue, I would want to have a wedding at home with my friends and family. I really want my two best friends as bridesmaids and I really want to have all the neices and nephews in the wedding. My brother just got married last week and it was so nice and fun. Everyone was so happy for him and his wife. I know that people would still be happy for me, even if we went away and had a party when we came back. But I'm still torn.

I think what we might do is go and tour a few places, see some menus and figure out some prices. Then if things get too crazy, we'll just skip it all and go to Disney. I mean, one place was going to charge us 115 a person! That's insane to me...

This is exactly what we wanted to do, go away and get married with just the two of us. In the end, it worked out that our families wanted to see us married so badly that just our immediate families are going now. Only parents, siblings, their partners, and their kids. I could not be happier. We've used the expense of a Wishes wedding as our reason when other members ask if they can come, but for the most part everyone has been glad they can be a part of our at-home reception a few months after the fact.

We've turned that weekend into a little vacation for everyone, and we've made plans to meet up in Epcot for a whole day doing things as a big family. I think it will make us the center of attention without the stress and worry that comes with the months of planning and having to scramble to put programs, favors, etc. together a few days before. Instead, we'll be in the parks with our closest family! I am so glad I picked Disney, and we're still going to have the big party a few months after, so I get to do it twice!

Good luck!